Khenpo Tsultrim Gyamtso Rinpoche

Control over appearances ~ Khenpo Tsultrim Rinpoche
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Having control over appearances does not mean jumping off buildings and flying. Rather, it means that you do not cling to appearances as they seem to be in the usual worldly way of relating to them. Such appearances will not cause you suffering or tie you up once you have gained mastery over them through not clinging.

It is prajna realizing selflessness that frees you from samsara. Through knowing appearances to be inseparable from emptiness, you have mastery over them. It is not necessary to engage in behavior that is contrary to a mundane way of seeing things.

– Khenpo Tsultrim Rinpoche

source: http://www.ktgrinpoche.org/quote/control-over-appearances