10/10/2026
AM I THE PROBLEM?
One of the biggest effects of gaslighting is that you can start questioning yourself more than you question what is happening around you.
Signs of gaslighting
1. They deny things you clearly remember happening.
2. They tell you that you are “too sensitive”, “dramatic” or “overreacting”.
3. They twist conversations until you end up defending yourself instead of discussing what hurt you.
4. They focus on your reaction rather than their behaviour.
5. They minimise things that mattered to you.
6. They change the story or leave out important details.
7. They make you feel guilty for raising concerns.
8. You often leave conversations feeling confused rather than reassured.
9. You start feeling like you need screenshots, messages or proof to trust your own memory.
How gaslighting can lead to overthinking:
1. You replay conversations over and over.
2.You analyse their tone, your tone, what you said and what you should have said.
3. You wonder whether you misunderstood.
4. You question whether your feelings are valid.
5. You start asking:
“Was I too much?”
“Did I cause this?”
“Am I controlling?”
“Am I toxic?”
“Am I the narcissist
Have you ever experienced this?
