Positive Discipline - English Speaking Community in Vietnam

Meet these 18 incredible teachers, parents, therapists, and counsellors who have just completed their Teaching Parenting The Positive Discipline Way certification course. We had participants from Vietnam, Singapore, Taiwan, Germany, China, and the U.S.A.

They will be empowering parents across the world to bring mutually respectful, encouraging strategies into their relationships with their children. Positive Discipline is evidenced to improve family dynamics, increase motivation and cooperation, improved sense of responsiblity and independence, and bring the joy back into parenting.

Through Positive Discipline, children have an increased sense of belonging and significance, and parents feel more confident through new strategies, and knowing that there is ALWAYS a reason behind the misbehaviour, and there are ALWAYS ways to build up that child so challenging behaviours drop.

Watch this space for our next Certification Workshop.

For our ECE teachers and parents of little ones. Some helpful phrases to teach them to advocate for themselves.

WHAT MY SON’S TEARS TAUGHT ME ABOUT MYSELF

Apparently, my words were the last straw.

He pulled the covers over his head and burst into tears.

“It’s too much!” he cried.

I paused, confused — I was just coming in for our usual goodnight kisses.

“What do you mean?” I asked gently.

What he said next stayed with me like a stone in my pocket — one I’ve turned over in my hands again and again this week.

In the ten minutes before bedtime, I had casually remarked on (in a happy voice, I swear!):

• The towels left on the floor
• The curtains left wide open
• The smell of his hair (time for a wash)
• The scent of his favourite blanket (also time for a wash)

To me, they were just practical reminders — little nudges toward being a “responsible human.”

But to him?
They landed as criticism.
One after another.
Right before sleep.

His body curled up tighter, and his tears came harder.

In that moment, I saw it through his eyes:
Instead of the closeness we usually share at bedtime, he felt picked apart.
Instead of feeling safe, he felt like he couldn’t get anything right.

And it hit me hard:
My helpfulness had become a habit of correction.

The sting was sharper because — well — I literally teach this stuff.

I run workshops on positive parenting, for goodness’ sake.

And yet, here I was… the “naggy” mom, disguised as the cheerful one.

That night cracked something open in me.

Over the next few days, I listened more closely — to myself, to my partner, to our home.
I realized how frequently we comment, critique, correct.
How often the little things we notice are framed as what’s missing.

And I started to see the ripple effect:
The tension.
The defensiveness.
The sibling bickering.

I had been wondering for months why there had been a bit of a shift in our home.
No wonder.

It’s not because our kids are “bad.”
It’s because they’re reflecting the energy we’re putting out.

That’s when I remembered:
In Positive Discipline, change begins with the grown-ups.
• Awareness comes first.
• Then the awkward noticing of yourself doing the very thing you said you’d stop doing.
• Then the slow, messy work of doing it differently.

We try. We stumble. We try again.

And eventually, we show up with more calm, more connection, and more trust — in ourselves and in our kids.

So starting this week…
When I notice something that needs fixing, I’m starting to pause.
I zip my lips. I hold it.

So that our home can be a safe place for fun and connection.

And later — at the right time, in the right space (for us, that’s a family meeting) — I bring it up not as a complaint, but as a shared problem to solve.

Because:

That’s what builds responsibility.
That’s what preserves connection.
That’s what shifts the atmosphere to a place where we all feel belonging and loved for who we are.

Wanna try it?
• First listen.
• Notice how often you “help” through comments — those constant daily reminders that are actually disguised criticisms.
They whisper to our kids: You’re not good enough. You’re lazy. You’re disorganised.

And then…

Just stop.

Write down the things that bother you.
Bring them up later with a problem-solving attitude.
Or invite connection. Empower them.

Let me know how it goes.
We’re in this together.

If you’ve ever wondered…

How do I set boundaries without yelling?
How do I stay kind without being walked over?
How do I stay calm when my kid is melting down?

This one-day workshop is for you.

You’ll walk away with practical, respectful tools that help you parent with connection and boundaries — even in the tough moments.

This is not a lecture. It’s an experiential, eye-opening day that will change how you show up as a parent.

Sat 31 May, Thao Dien, HCMC, 9am-3:30pm.

Spots are limited — DM me to join or tap the link in bio.

Let’s raise capable, connected kids — without the yelling, bribes, or burnout.

💕 Thanks for the best Mothers Day, my gorgeous fam.
I will never regret the time and energy I put into learning how to do this whole respectful parenting thing.
It is possible to have a more peaceful, cooperative, connected relationship with your kids (and your spouse!) through understanding WHY kids are misbehaving AND how to deal with it in ways that are mutually respectful.

I’m hosting a 1 day workshop soon in Thao Dien, HCMC. You are welcome to join and learn some of this for yourself. Linkin bio for more info

This! 💯 !
That's why Positive Discipline tools work. To the observer, it might look like we are rewarding the tantrum, or ignoring the rude words, but under the surface, we know what we are doing.
We are WAITING until the child's emotional state (and the adults) is regulated (meeting the need for belonging and connection) and ready to learn (the discipline AKA the solution to the problem - NOT punishment).
Only THEN do we deal with it.
And we deal with it respectfully - honoring the child - while guiding and teaching.
This is how you meet the need.
Alfred Adler says that every child has two needs - BELONGING and SIGNIFICANCE.
When your child feels 'I belong, I am loved unconditionally' and 'I matter, I have personal power, I am respected', then many of the challenging behaviours resolve themselves.

Interested to learn HOW to use Positive Discipline tools in your family and school?

Contact me for our next sessions.

Today is the very last day to register for the Teaching Parenting the Positive Discipline Way Certification Course!

If you’ve been sitting on the fence thinking:
“Maybe next time...”
“Am I ready for this?”
“Do I really want to lead parenting workshops where people cry and thank me?”

👋 Yes. Yes, you do.

This is your chance to:
✨ Learn powerful, kind-and-firm tools
✨ Guide parents out of power struggles and into connection
✨ Finally feel like you know what you’re doing (professionally and possibly at bedtime)

We start ON TUESDAY.
The doors close TONIGHT.
Your future self (and a whole lot of grateful parents) will thank you.

Most of us were raised with some version of punishment and rewards.

Maybe you got a sticker chart for good behavior or a timeout when you misbehaved. Maybe you lost privileges when you didn’t listen or got yelled at when things went too far.

The problem? These methods only work in the short term.

Positive Discipline offers a different way.

One that works for the long haul - whether you’re a parent, teacher, counselor, or anyone who works with children.

Here’s why this approach is life-changing:

⭐️ It’s backed by research – Positive Discipline is rooted in Adlerian psychology and decades of child development studies.
⭐️ It works in the real world – No more second-guessing if you’re doing the ‘right’ thing. You’ll learn practical tools that create respectful, cooperative relationships.
⭐️ It applies to all ages - From toddlers to teens, in classrooms or at home, these tools build emotional intelligence, resilience, and responsibility.
⭐️ It changes YOU too - Most participants say the biggest transformation isn’t just in their kids or students—but in themselves.

JOIN US

Join me for the upcoming Positive Discipline Certification Course and walk away with:

⭐️ Official Certification to teach Positive Discipline workshops and classes
⭐️ Hands-on, practical training in the tools and principles that truly work
⭐️ A global community of educators, parents, and professionals who share your vision

DM me for more info, or check out my Linkin Bio.

𝗦𝗘𝗧𝗧𝗜𝗡𝗚 𝗕𝗢𝗨𝗡𝗗𝗔𝗥𝗜𝗘𝗦 𝗪𝗜𝗧𝗛 𝗬𝗢𝗨𝗥 𝗧𝗘𝗘𝗡 - 𝗪𝗜𝗧𝗛𝗢𝗨𝗧 𝗧𝗛𝗘 𝗣𝗢𝗪𝗘𝗥 𝗦𝗧𝗥𝗨𝗚𝗚𝗟𝗘𝗦

If you feel like your teen pushes back on every boundary you set, you’re not alone. Teens are wired for independence - it’s literally their job to test limits and figure out who they are. But as parents, it’s our job to provide structure, guidance, and healthy boundaries.

The problem? Many parents swing between two extremes: being too rigid (leading to rebellion or withdrawal) or being too lenient (leading to entitlement).

The sweet spot? Kind AND firm boundaries.

Positive Discipline gives us a way to hold limits while keeping connection strong - so your teen respects you, trusts you, and actually listens. Here’s how to set boundaries the Positive Discipline way:

1. 𝙑𝙖𝙡𝙞𝙙𝙖𝙩𝙚 𝙏𝙝𝙚𝙞𝙧 𝙁𝙚𝙚𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙨 𝘽𝙚𝙛𝙤𝙧𝙚 𝙎𝙚𝙩𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙇𝙞𝙢𝙞𝙩

The fastest way to a power struggle? Shutting them down. If your teen feels unheard, they’ll double down and resist. Instead, start by validating their perspective before reinforcing the boundary.

𝗜𝗡𝗦𝗧𝗘𝗔𝗗 𝗢𝗙: “No, you cannot go out. End of discussion.”
𝗧𝗥𝗬: “I get that you really want to go out tonight. I also need to make sure it’s safe. Let’s talk.”

Validating doesn’t mean you agree - it just means you hear them. And when teens feel heard, they’re more willing to work with you.

2. 𝙄𝙣𝙫𝙤𝙡𝙫𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙏𝙚𝙚𝙣 𝙞𝙣 𝙋𝙧𝙤𝙗𝙡𝙚𝙢-𝙎𝙤𝙡𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜

Teens don’t respond well to control - but they do respond to collaboration. If a boundary is met with resistance, invite them to help find a solution.

𝗜𝗡𝗦𝗧𝗘𝗔𝗗 𝗢𝗙: "Because I said so.”
𝗧𝗥𝗬: “I trust you, AND I have concerns about safety. What ideas do you have for making this work?”

When teens feel like they have a say, they’re far more likely to follow through.

3. 𝙁𝙤𝙘𝙪𝙨 𝙤𝙣 𝙎𝙤𝙡𝙪𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨 (𝙉𝙤𝙩 𝙋𝙪𝙣𝙞𝙨𝙝𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩)

Punishments create resentment. Logical consequences build responsibility. The key? The consequence should be related to the behavior - so it feels fair and teaches accountability. But even better than logical consequences are figuring out solutions TOGETHER.

𝗜𝗡𝗦𝗧𝗘𝗔𝗗 𝗢𝗙: “You broke curfew, so you’re grounded for a month!”
𝗧𝗥𝗬: “Curfew is important for trust. Since you came home late, let’s come up with a plan to rebuild that trust.”

Problem-solving help teens connect actions to outcomes - without shame or fear.

4. 𝙁𝙤𝙘𝙪𝙨 𝙤𝙣 𝘾𝙤𝙣𝙣𝙚𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣, 𝙉𝙤𝙩 𝘾𝙤𝙣𝙩𝙧𝙤𝙡

Boundaries aren’t about winning or losing. They’re about building mutual trust. If your teen knows you’re on their side, they’re much more likely to cooperate.

𝗜𝗡𝗦𝗧𝗘𝗔𝗗 𝗢𝗙: “Do what I say, or else.”
𝗧𝗥𝗬: “I want you to have freedom, AND my job is to keep you safe. Let’s figure this out together.”

𝙒𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙄𝙩 𝘾𝙤𝙢𝙚𝙨 𝘿𝙤𝙬𝙣 𝙏𝙤

You don’t have to choose between being strict or permissive. Positive Discipline gives you a third option: being both kind AND firm.

Your teen needs boundaries - but they also need to feel respected. And when they do? They’ll not only listen more, but they’ll also learn the skills they need to set healthy boundaries for themselves.