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Environmental trauma isn’t just the big, obvious moments. It’s the day-to-day atmosphere you grew up in the tension in the air, the unpredictability, the silence after conflict, the feeling that no one was really paying attention to your heart. Research shows that our early environment shapes the parts of the brain responsible for: • safety and threat detection (amygdala) • emotional regulation (prefrontal cortex) • attachment and relationship patterns • stress tolerance and coping Teicher, Schore, Perry, and others found that a chaotic, neglectful, or emotionally unsafe home literally wires a child to stay on alert. So children learn to: • scan for danger • anticipate moods • shrink themselves • become the “easy one” • take care of adults instead of being cared for And those adaptations don’t disappear when we grow up. They follow us showing up as: • shutting down in conflict • overexplaining • hyper-independence • fear of relying on others • constant self-doubt • feeling unsafe even when nothing is wrong Not because you’re “broken,” but because your early environment taught your body that safety wasn’t guaranteed. This is the part most people miss: Even when your environment changes, your nervous system might still be living in the old one. But healing is possible through new, consistent experiences that teach your system: “Things are different now.” “I’m allowed to rest.” “I don’t have to be on guard.” “I can let someone in slowly.” Neuroscience calls this experience-dependent plasticity also often referred to as corrective experiences the idea that your brain can be reshaped by what it repeatedly experiences. So with: • safety • predictability • gentle relationships • somatic work • EMDR • co-regulation • and environments that don’t demand you to survive… Your body can learn what safety feels like. Your environment shaped you but a healthier environment can heal you too. Disclaimer in highlights Video credit @beatanxiety.me

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Relentless Dandelions | parent coach | Michigan, USA At Relentless Dandelions we strive to partner and walk along side of parents/caretakers and help them see children beyond their behaviors.

“Being a mother is like folding a fitted sheet. We don’t know how or what we’re doing, but we’re trying.”

Happy Mother’s Day to those of you who are grieving, longing, waiting, holding, crying and trying…

Happy Motgers Day to YOU!

Be their safe place!
Thats what we’re supposed to do.
-Dan Seaborn

I’ll be the first to tell you that sometimes being their safe place is also a risk to your own safety. Being their safe place can be rough, tough and so uncomfortably unfair to our own safety.
I know. I’ve been the safe place for disregulated children (my own and others) however, it is what we are called to do as parents and as caregivers.

If you need a safe place to feel safe, seen and held… maybe just to rest in silence. Thats what I can do for you. I will hold that space for you because I’ve been you. I’ve been the safe place while needing my own safe place.

Reach out and contact me today.
Email: [email protected]
Phone: (616) 821-5334

Be a safe person for your family. Seek the Lord point your family to the security of God. Psalm 46:1: "God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear, though the earth give way and the mountains be moved to the heart of the sea, though its waters roar and foam, though the mountains tremble with their surge."

“I love you.”
“My number one job is to keep you safe.”
“I want you to be happy, but understand that sometimes the choices I make to keep you safe, will make you unhappy.”

What if your child is really looking for your love in the hardest way and maybe what they need or want is your hard love?!?!

Follow for expert parenting strategies and guidance! Speaker: Dr. Becky Kennedy @drbeckyatgoodinside Source: Protocols for Excellent Parenting & Improving Relationships of All Kinds | Huberman Lab Podcast @hubermanlab What do you do when your kid is truly in trouble? If you ever find yourself in a situation like this, things can be tremendously challenging. It's so important for us to influence our children positively in their toughest moments, but it's so incredibly difficult because we can't make other people, even our kids, do something. Here, Dr. Becky walks us through a real scenario with a teenager in her practice. This is important information for every parent to hear. No one thinks their child will ever end up in this kind of place, but it happens. Save this advice for a later day. Share this post with another parent who needs it!

All too often we feel the preasure to create the best child. The kind, friendly, charming, charasmatic child that everyone is in awe with. They can never be rude or inappropriate because that would be embarrassing and reflect on our parenting right…?!?
We may even start to focus on making sure they are the better versions of ourselves. We get caught up in trying to make sure that our children turn out good and that they are perfect little beings. Socially acceptable, polite, make good choices etc. We compound all of these things into their little brains and feel like we failed when they stumble.

However, what if all of that fell into place simply because we took time to be present with them… to just enjoy them?!?!

May this be your prayer today (maybe for all the days)… rather than manage them; make memories in moments with them.

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Every place has one. Know where it is and use it when you need it. 🤍 Stay strong!

P.T.O.
Parent Time Out

It’s been a long weekend with volcanic behaviors erupting in your home and you feel exhausted yet being a parent doesn’t end.

YOU MUST REGULATE YOURSELF FIRST! Here are a few ideas:
-Sit in the bathroom with water running.
-Listen to a song that helps express how you’re feeling.
-Draw, color or paint for a few minutes.
-Meditate on a place where you find rest.

Take what you can, when you can. Even a minute to yourself in these eruptions can help. If you have a partner, take turns giving yourselves a time out for you!

One year ago! 🎉

Just a funny for us parents who should’ve known better than to believe our tornado children could be soothed. 😂

Very Rock N' Roll