Piece by Piece Wellness

When I first started my business in 2019 I was looking for a community of women building cool s**t who I could learn from, laugh with, and navigate the perils. This is when I found

Fast forward 7 years and I get a recommendation from someone I stayed in touch with to join Daisy for her coworking day that she runs in East London (thank you Daisy!). It was such a beautiful day of smart, genuinely interesting people getting to talk about what they’re building and also sharing wine bar and other delicious recommendations. All walks of life and expertise at one table sharing coffee cake and cackles.

This is your reminder to get out there and meet people doing cool s**t. You don’t know where that inspiration will take you!

The skill nobody teaches you is how to accurately assess risk. Not avoid it completely. Not pretend it isn’t there. Just see it at its actual size instead of the blood bath version your brain has led you to believe.

Three questions that do this faster than six months of journaling about it:
🫟What is the smallest version of this I can test?
🫟What do I actually lose if it fails?
🫟What does it cost me to wait another month?

The answers are almost always less dramatic than the story. The test is smaller than you think. The failure is more survivable than you’ve been led to believe. The waiting has a price tag you have been ignoring because it is quieter than the full roar of your fear.

De-catastrophising is not “just believe in yourself babes.” It is a diagnostic skill. And once you have it, you stop delaying decisions and start making them.

You’re going to want to save this for the next time you are stalling.

Cheering for you bb.

DOES A GIRL ASK FOR TOO MUCH?!

Is it too much that I want the sunlight (whatever quantity) to hit my face as much as possible?

That I would want to wonder and meander to shoppy shops?

That I would like to hear my breathing every once in awhile above the hustle and bustle?

That I refuse to spend my precious moments on this earth scrubbing dishes?

I didn’t think so.

When you’re asking more of yourself and traversing new realms. You’re juggling a lot of newness in your brain. You’re confident in your skills but there is still a level of integration required.

Integrating means being able to observe yourself accurately, in real time.

It’s self awareness and regulation all in one gorgeous package. You see the opportunity to move differently. You feel the intensity of knowing this is what you have been working towards. You move through it. You stay flexible to the situation.

Sounds simple but there’s about a hundred different skills rolled into the above.

Consider this your loving reminder that it’s not always about whether you can do it or not. Sometimes it’s about discovery and practice.

🫟 Cheering for you bb 🫟

How hard is it really to find a two bedroom flat in East London under 3000 pounds for a couple and a dog?

That’s the adventure we are on for the next month.

What do we need to watch out for? What should we be asking at viewings? What are the things that only londoners know to look for? Our eyes and ears are open 🥹

Cheering for all of these amazing runners who trained so hard for this moment. Definitely got a little emotional watching everyone 🥹

We perched up next to these guys who were just yelling out names and I assumed they were making them up but turns out a lot of people put their names on their bibs so we joined in with them too!

If anyone knows who the legend is at the end, please tag him! Hayden and I want to be friends lol.

I’ve been playing a little game with myself, a spot the difference of sorts.

Rob Walker wrote a whole book on it. The Art of Noticing. The premise being that most of us have stopped seeing the places we move through every day. We spend too much time on autopilot.

Turns out the fastest way to get your noticing muscles back is to drop yourself somewhere entirely new.

Some things I’ve clocked:

🫟Public transport here is genuinely enjoyable. (I give myself grace to change my mind on this lol)

🫟“You alright mate” is not a welfare check. First time someone said it to me I was ready to tell them I was actually just a bit tired and a little overwhelmed. It means hello. I know this now.

🫟Corner stores. Every variety of thing you didn’t know you needed. Not expensive. Why is this not everywhere?!

🫟People smoke here. A lot. Outside pubs, between meetings, in that particular way that just makes sense.

None of this is groundbreaking. But that’s the whole point I guess, noticing rarely is.

You don’t have to move countries to practice this. You just have to decide to actually look at the street you’ve walked down a hundred times. The coffee order the person in front of you just placed. The way your city sounds just before everyone starts waking up.

The ordinary stuff is where it all lives.
And all of this to say, where are you not looking?

As a coach, you’re leaving money on the table. There’s no reason you can’t work with people who are further along or more ‘successful’ than you.

If you are confident in your skillset you can apply it in most scenarios. When you run into roadblocks you can troubleshoot because you understand the mechanisms underneath the strategies and frameworks you have been applying.

I advised and coached people far more senior than me everyday for more than 3 years. Higher salaries, longer careers, with real expertise in what they do and yet I would be the first person they called because of my expertise.

Leadership is understanding when to bring in the right people. Who have a skillset that compliments and adds value to yours. Because leaders understand they don’t need to be an expert in everything, they can hire the right people to reach the outcome they want.

and I chatted all about this in her most recent podcast episode. If you are a coach that believes in investing in your learning, I think you’ll get a lot out of this conversation! And if you’re a builder stepping into your leadership ready to break through some ceilings - you’ll love it too!

It was down to the wire.

We took a moment to stand in the empty space.
Projecting memories of the life we built
4 years of laughs, nights in, fireworks, bike parades, screeching vagabonds, and the loudest bin collection you’ve ever heard.

A Clementine gained
A home created
A chapter written

Tears welled and it was time to go.

Ciao Caio sunset palace, you’ll always have a piece of us.