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Here’s to letting go of other people’s priorities.

In case you needed reminding that you are doing the best you can and it IS good enough 💖

Thanks, Adam Grant via Janet Lansbury

Can you sit in the discomfort of seeing yourself clearly?

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"When you find yourself doubting your ability, reframe the situation as an opportunity for growth. You can have confidence in your capacity to learn while questioning your current solution to the problem. Knowing what you don't know is the first step toward developing expertise."

The third and final section of Grant’s book is about collective rethinking — creating communities of lifelong learners.

There are cultural traits that we can foster that encourage continual growth through rethinking.

Psychological safety (similar to social safety I shared a podcast on recently) is created when individual members of the group are able to speak up without risking punishment or humiliation. Everyone is accepted and respected.

Groups with a culture of psychological safety emphasize learning over performance. They feel freer to experiment, to challenge one another and the status quo. They are more likely to admit rather than hide mistakes allowing the entire group to learn and adjust.

Acknowledging the complexity, particularly around divisive topics, allows groups to explore them with more curiosity and accept personal variations of thought. Groups that allow for this are more likely to avoid an ‘us versus them’ mentality that can occur when we simplify topics into black and white binaries.

Questions to consider…

What is the culture of various groups you belong to? Are there any that lack a feeling of psychological safety, not just for you but for anyone in the group? What kind of influence do you have within this culture?

I’ve overcome a lot of fear just in the last few years. Still more to go. Good things coming.

Stereotypes are perpetuated when we adopt others’ thinking as our own.

What stereotypes do you hold? Can you determine their origin? What is your exposure to actual members of that group?

“Sometimes letting go of stereotypes means realizing that many members of a hated group aren’t so terrible after all. And that’s more likely to happen when we actually come face to face with them.” , Think Again

It might be time to think again.

Have you ever tried to get someone to change their mind? If only they could see what you do…

I watch this unfold on social media occasionally, more often surrounding polarizing events or elections. I observe, wondering why the parties persist when all of the onlookers can clearly see the circular direction of the conversation—going nowhere.

Sometimes we see opposing opinions as a threat to our sense of love, safety, or belonging. Particularly around subjects that we feel help to compose our identity. Our reflexes might tell us to start talking, to make our case, to begin piling evidence and reasons on our side of the proverbial scale. When talking seems to be failing to adequately portray our point, we might think it is the volume of our voices that can’t break down the barrier. Yelling might help, caps and exclamation points will certainly drive it home. And when all else fails we might resort to insults and name calling. I’m not sure if this is still in an attempt to change minds, perhaps through shame, or if it makes us feel better to believe that if someone disagrees with us, they can’t possibly be intelligent, thoughtful, or a decent person.

Questions to consider…

What if, in the face of opposing opinions, you got curious? What if you asked genuine questions free of ulterior motives reaching for understanding? What if you listened intently to the answers without interrupting? What if you learned something in the process?