Project Parent

10/01/2026

It’s not just the bowl. It’s having to notice it, ask about it, remember you asked, and check whether it happened.

You want your teenager to take responsibility without having to remain responsible for every step.

But handing it over can be uncomfortable for you, too. Things may take longer. They may complain. You may have to live through an inconvenience you could have prevented.

Adolescence asks both of you to develop: your teen is learning to carry more, and you’re figuring out how to support that without automatically taking it back.

A place to begin: one clear expectation, the support they actually need, and follow-through you’re prepared to carry out.

We’ll work through that messy middle in When Parenting Has to Change, my two-day live workshop, October 23–24.

Details and registration at the link in my bio.

09/30/2026

You’ve explained the boundary. You’ve been reasonable. And your teen is still upset.

It’s understandable to think: “Can’t you just accept it without making this so difficult?”

But now you’re carrying two jobs: holding the limit and trying to get them to feel okay about it.

That second job can leave you resentful—and turn a reasonable boundary into a fight about their attitude, their gratitude, or whether they respect you.

You can take their disappointment seriously without making it your job to eliminate it.

“I get why you’re frustrated. The answer is still no.”

Warmth can stay. The boundary can, too.

If you know this in theory but struggle when it’s your kid pushing back, join me for my two-day live parenting workshop. We’ll work on holding boundaries, clarifying expectations, and responding when rules get broken—while making room for the relationship you want to keep building.

Register through the link in my bio.

09/28/2026

When parents disagree about consequences, they’re often each protecting something important.

One worries their teen won’t learn to take responsibility. The other worries their teen won’t feel understood or supported. The conversation can turn into a debate between the parents before they’ve decided what their kid actually needs.

Try starting here: How do we take what they’re going through seriously and help them take responsibility for what happens next?

That’s the kind of question we’ll work through in When Parenting Has to Change, my live, two-day workshop on October 23–24. We’ll get practical about expectations, boundaries, and what to do when agreements are broken.

Registration is open. Link in bio.

09/25/2026

Knowing your teen needs support is one thing. Figuring out when your help becomes taking over? That’s the hard part.

For more on when to step in and when to step back, comment HELP and I’ll send you the full YouTube video.

09/25/2026

You can get clear about your expectations. Set boundaries. Pay attention. Get your kid help when they need it.

And still lie awake wondering whether it will be enough.

That uncertainty is painful because your love makes you want to secure the outcome. But parenting a teenager asks you to keep showing up, make the best judgments you can, and tolerate that some of what happens next belongs to them.

That’s a hell of a thing to practice.

Comment WHY and I’ll send you the link to my free training, Why Parenting Teens Is So Hard.

09/17/2026

Sometimes the most loving thing you can do is less.

Less reminding that prevents ownership.
Less questioning that creates less disclosure.
Less rescuing that keeps your teenager from experiencing the weight of their choices.
Less pressure applied because you’re desperate for an outcome you cannot guarantee.

But knowing you need to do less doesn’t always tell you what to do instead.

How do you set a boundary without trying to control your teenager?

What happens when an agreement is broken?

When should you step in—and when should you tolerate watching a preventable struggle?

How do you stay clear when your teenager is furious about your decision?

That’s what we’ll work through in my two-day live workshop, When Parenting Has to Change.

Comment WORKSHOP below and I’ll send you the link to learn more.

09/16/2026

Adolescence doesn’t just change our kids.

It changes the job of parenting them.

Over the years, I kept meeting thoughtful, loving parents who were trying harder and harder—asking more questions, offering more help, giving more reminders, watching more closely—only to feel their teenager moving farther away.

They weren’t lacking love or information.

They were trying to use the tools of childhood in a relationship that had fundamentally changed.

No one really prepares parents for the grief of being needed differently. The vulnerability of having less control. Or the challenge of remaining present and clear without taking over.

That is the territory I wanted to explore in I See You:

Connection without enmeshment.
Validation without surrender.
Boundaries without control.
Guidance without micromanagement.
Loving your teenager without abandoning yourself.

Because teenagers need to feel seen.

And so do the people raising them.

I See You: Parenting Through the Chaos of the Teen Years is coming December 1 from Penguin Life and is available for preorder now. Link in bio.

Share this with a parent who needs to know that the relationship changing doesn’t mean the relationship is gone.

09/15/2026

My publisher has 10 extra galleys of I SEE YOU: PARENTING THROUGH THE CHAOS OF THE TEEN YEARS and they’re giving them away here to celebrate the fact that it comes out DECEMBER 1st! Just leave a comment on my insta if you want one and they’ll randomly pick 5 of you. (You’ll hear from Penguin Life or Penguin Books if you win.)
(No purchase necessary, US residents, 18+, ends 9/24/2026)

09/14/2026

Upcoming 2 day workshop! October 23, 7-9p ET and October 24, 1-3p ET.

09/14/2026