Bobbie Caskey Life Coaching

I had a really great time doing this podcast for TBC You&Me and talking about my journey from being in corporate to starting my own Life Coaching business, and the steps you can take if you are trying to make changes in your life.

BREAKING THE WEBS OF LIFE with Bobbie Caskey. TBC you&me Season2 Episode 5/ Let us hear from Bobbie who is a life coach, a business professional from 20 years and also worked in corporate training, project management, and relationshi...

When I quit my six-figure job to start a coaching business, my biggest fear was that everyone would think I had gone crazy. Then, a couple of months after I worked up the courage to quit my job, I found out that someone I cared about literally SAID ALMOST THESE EXACT WORDS about me! That I had essentially lost my mind, and what could I be thinking etc. This hurt. Man, It hurt BAD.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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It's interesting when your worst-case scenario happens because you realize that as painful as it is, it doesn't kill you. Life really does go on. In fact, the pain of experiencing disapproval from someone I love (the thing I was SO terrified of) was not bad enough for me to reverse course and go back to my old life. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Because I knew deep down what I wanted to do and why coaching was right for me, but this person just didn't yet. She gets it now. She sees what it has done for my life, and how much happier and more fulfilled I am. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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And why did I expect everyone to grab their pom poms and tell me this was the right move anyway? It certainly didn't look good on paper. It wasn't practical. Only I really truly understood why I was doing it, and why it was the perfect fit for me.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I see you out there wanting to do something different, something nobody else may "get." If you want this but feel stuck, here are a few questions to help you:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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- Who are the people you are most worried about judging you?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
- What's the worst thing that can happen if they do? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
- Is it reasonable to expect them to understand right now?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Remember this: Nobody knows you as well as you do. Nobody knows what will really light you up like you do. The thing you are really really wanting to do is almost certainly aligned with who you truly are. And the people in your life usually figure that out, but sometimes it takes a little while. And sometimes they never do. And that's okay too.

Seriously. Don't let the voice in your head tell you you're an "Imposter."⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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You're not. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Life is a series of growth, and that means we'll spend a good amount of the time in a learning mode. There is no imposter. There is just brave, courageous, wonderful you! Okay k?

It can be a tricky thing. Striving to Never Fail can yield solid results and be seen as a really good thing, noble even.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I know all about this.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Throughout my entire corporate career I strove to avoid failure at any and all cost. That was my number one goal. Always.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Because subconsciously I believed if that if I failed it would mean my deepest fears were true. That I really wasn't good enough after all. That I really was an imposter.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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And if that's what we make failure mean - if that's what's at stake - then no price will be too high to avoid it. Perfectionism. Overworking. Burnout. Illness.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I did them all.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Changing how I define failure has absolutely changed my life.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Because real growth and fulfillment can only come from the willingness to be uncomfortable, to learn, to fail, to learn more and to fail again.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Failing in the name of reaching your true desires takes courage.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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It's the work of Superheros, Not Imposters.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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So go grab your cape.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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You've got this. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Happy Thanksgiving!!

Hey there, are you beating yourself up for something that didn't go the way you thought it would?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Here is a 30 second activity to help.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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1. Close your eyes⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
2. Take a really deep breath⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
3. Bring up a picture of yourself as a kid⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
4. Hold that image⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
5. Now, what would you say to her about whatever you're beating yourself up about?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
6. Now give yourself that same compassion. You deserve it as much as she does.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Where are you putting your attention in terms of your thoughts? Because what you put your attention on grows. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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When you focus on people and place and things that you have no control over (like I did for SO LONG), those are things take up more and more space in your mind, and show up in your emotions. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Start by trying to gain a little more awareness of where you are focusing. That's step #1⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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p.s. This is super empowering because where we may not be able to control the thoughts our brain puts out we CAN control how much energy goes into which thoughts. Getting strategic on this changes EVERYTHING.

If it were, Simone Biles would always get a 10 and Taylor Swift would win every Grammy, am I right? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I know all about this guys. I was a self-proclaimed perfectionist for decades. And I know first hand, how It can yield some amazing results. I see you out there kicking ass and being the best of the best at what you do. You're a total rockstar. For real.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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But perfection is sneaky. Since it's not real, there's never a way to achieve it. And if you're like I used to be, you're thinking about making a change, but you want things to be perfect FIRST, and then you'll do that new thing you really want to be doing. See the problem? Perfection is actually limiting you. It's something our fear-based mind came up with to keep us from moving out of our comfort zone.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I don't believe in it anymore. Heck, I don't even strive for it anymore. You know what I do do? I do the things I really want to do in my life, like my work as a life coach. I did that waaaay before I felt ready. That's the trick friends. You don't have to be perfect. You just have to be YOU.

You can learn to create the courage you need to live a life that’s true to you. If I can do it you can! First key concept to embrace…nobody knows you better than you. No one. Even if right now you don’t think you know what will make you happy the answers are there I promise. You just have to learn to access them.

This is the realization that has completely changed my life..... People will have thoughts about me NO MATTER WHAT I DO and those thoughts are all 100% out of my control. (Really, they are). ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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So I might as well be my damn self. You with me on this?

Mondays can be tricky for getting back in the groove. Solution? More work-dog balance.

You know how there are those moments in life that just stay with you forever? I had one of those when I was in labor with my son Owen, now 13. It was a long, tough delivery and it had gotten to a point where I was so exhausted, I just wanted to stop. The doctor looked at me and said this:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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"Bobbie. Only you can do this, no one else can do it for you." He was right, of course, and so I did it.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Guys. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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The same principle applies when we want to make real, meaningful changes in our lives. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Only you can do it.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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When I realized in my early 40s I wanted to make changes, I kept waiting for life to show up for me. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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But that's now how it works. Life requires that you show up for yourself first.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I had to work through and release grudges I was carrying around, weighing me down.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I had to make the decision to prioritize myself and my health. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I had to be willing to take 100% accountability for my life.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I had to learn to manage my negative thoughts and my fear of failure.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I had to start taking action out of my comfort zone, ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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This hasn't been a pretty Pintersty process. I've had lots and lots of detours and setbacks. I fail. I doubt. I'm a work in progress. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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But my life feels exactly like me. It's authentic. Finally. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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And I can tell you this with certainty.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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When you start to show up for you, life will follow.