Life Coaching - What's The Toughest Challenge Facing Your Life?

𝗗𝗼 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗞𝗻𝗼𝘄 𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝗧𝗼 𝗢𝘃𝗲𝗿𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗟𝗼𝗻𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗯𝘆 𝗕𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗠𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗦𝗼𝗰𝗶𝗮𝗹 𝗼𝗿 𝗙𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗱𝗹𝘆?

Loneliness is a health & lifestyle threat that reduces our quality of life and increases the risk of illness or death for everyone affected.

In the US, 25% of the population now live alone and young adults (18 to 22), feel more isolated than the elderly!

𝘈𝘴 𝘢 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘶𝘯𝘪𝘵𝘺, 𝘸𝘦 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘭𝘰𝘯𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘣𝘺 𝘣𝘦𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘴𝘰𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘭 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘢𝘭𝘴𝘰 𝘣𝘺 𝘪𝘮𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘪𝘦𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘣𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘶𝘴 𝘢𝘭𝘭, 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘪𝘦𝘴 𝘰𝘧 𝘍𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘱.

Here is a summary of "𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗦𝘁𝗲𝗽𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗢𝘃𝗲𝗿𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗟𝗼𝗻𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗕𝘆 𝗕𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗠𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗦𝗼𝗰𝗶𝗮𝗹 𝗢𝗿 𝗙𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗱𝗹𝘆"

Step 1: Work on yourself

Step 2: Work on your social skills

Step 3: Love Yourself More

Step 4: Go out and meet people

Step 5: Stay-in Community

Step 6: Have Fun

Step 7: Evaluate your progress and repeat or stop!

𝐒𝐭𝐞𝐩 𝟏: 𝐖𝐨𝐫𝐤 𝐨𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟
Start by working on being free from anger, resentment, fear or any negative emotions towards people, so, you can build friendships in a healthy way and with a positive mental attitude.

Make a list of negative feelings or emotions that holds you back from meeting new people or staying in community with them.

𝐒𝐭𝐞𝐩 𝟐: 𝐖𝐨𝐫𝐤 𝐨𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐬𝐨𝐜𝐢𝐚𝐥 𝐬𝐤𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐬
Practice using good social skills before you start meeting people. Why, because having good social skills will make it easier for strangers or potential friends to talk to you or relate to you.

𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘚𝘰𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘭 𝘚𝘬𝘪𝘭𝘭𝘴 𝘠𝘰𝘶 𝘚𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘞𝘰𝘳𝘬 𝘖𝘯 𝘐𝘯𝘤𝘭𝘶𝘥𝘦:
Making eye contact, smiling, developing a sense of humor and being able to carry a conversation with strangers or other people.

𝗦𝘁𝗲𝗽 𝟯: 𝗟𝗼𝘃𝗲 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝗠𝗼𝗿𝗲
List your passions, interests, hobbies and do more of those activities that you like, enjoy or that strengthen you, affirm you, empower you and build-you up.

𝘚𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘴𝘰𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘭 𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘦𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘳 𝘢𝘳𝘦:
Biking, Hiking, Cooking, Dancing, Gardening, Working-out, Running, Traveling

𝗦𝘁𝗲𝗽 𝟰: 𝗚𝗼 𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗠𝗲𝗲𝘁 𝗣𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲
Go out and meet people that share-in or are interested in any of your passions, hobbies, or interests.

Since you already both share the same interests, it will be easier to meet, discuss, relate or create new friendships around the activities you all have in-common.

𝗦𝘁𝗲𝗽 𝟱: 𝗦𝘁𝗮𝘆 𝗶𝗻 𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗺𝘂𝗻𝗶𝘁𝘆
Practice starting new conversations and/or responding to conversations initiated by others.

"𝙰𝚕𝚜𝚘 𝚙𝚛𝚊𝚌𝚝𝚒𝚌𝚎 𝚑𝚊𝚗𝚍𝚕𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚊𝚗𝚡𝚒𝚎𝚝𝚢, 𝚏𝚎𝚊𝚛 𝚊𝚗𝚍/𝚘𝚛 𝚜𝚎𝚕𝚏-𝚍𝚘𝚞𝚋𝚝 𝚠𝚑𝚎𝚗 𝚊𝚙𝚙𝚛𝚘𝚊𝚌𝚑𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚙𝚎𝚘𝚙𝚕𝚎 𝚘𝚛 𝚒𝚗𝚒𝚝𝚒𝚊𝚝𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚌𝚘𝚗𝚟𝚎𝚛𝚜𝚊𝚝𝚒𝚘𝚗𝚜 𝚠𝚒𝚝𝚑 𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚖."

As you improve and get better, you will develop a better social circle and you will have a bigger pool of potential friends.

𝗦𝘁𝗲𝗽 𝟲: 𝗛𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝗙𝘂𝗻
Are you having fun yet?
As your build or engage in community around the activities that you enjoy, make sure you are having fun!

𝘊𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘩𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘺 𝘮𝘦𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘴, 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘢 𝘨𝘰𝘰𝘥 𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘦𝘯𝘫𝘰𝘺 𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘧𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘴.

If you're not having fun, try another activity, work on yourself or meet more people.

𝗦𝘁𝗲𝗽 𝟳: 𝗘𝘃𝗮𝗹𝘂𝗮𝘁𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗴𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗿𝗲𝗽𝗲𝗮𝘁 𝗼𝗿 𝘀𝘁𝗼𝗽!
Finally, evaluate the results and/or progress of your socializing and figure out what you need to tweak to get more results, if needed.

𝘠𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘭𝘰𝘱𝘦𝘥 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘧𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘱𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘱𝘴 𝘢𝘧𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘰𝘥 𝘰𝘧 𝘱𝘳𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘤𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘱𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘵.

When that happens, still stay in community, because new people joining will need and appreciate your friendship.

Congrats, you have read all the steps, now go out and do them|

𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐂𝐚𝐧 𝐒𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐭 𝐛𝐲 𝐉𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐌𝐲 𝐂𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐮𝐧𝐢𝐭𝐲, 𝐄𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐈𝐬 𝐖𝐞𝐥𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞↓

𝐈 𝐨𝐧𝐥𝐲 𝐬𝐞𝐞 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞! Not black or white or colored or brown or red, just plain ole hurting people in need of love & affirmation

𝐖𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐈 𝐟𝐢𝐫𝐬𝐭 𝐦𝐞𝐞𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮, 𝐈 𝐬𝐞𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐡𝐮𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐢𝐭𝐲
Not whether you’re rich vs. poor, or old vs. young, or single vs. married, or whether you like men vs. women.

𝐃𝐨𝐧'𝐭 𝐠𝐞𝐭 𝐦𝐞 𝐰𝐫𝐨𝐧𝐠!
Sure, we come in different shapes, sizes, heights, preferences, life experiences, beliefs, values, goals and "we are definitely not ALL the same" but lets first talk about our 𝐬𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐝 + 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐨𝐧 𝐡𝐮𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐢𝐭𝐲 before we label and put each other in a box!

Let's focus on our similarities, minimize our differences and build communities where everyone feels

𝐘𝐨𝐮'𝐫𝐞 𝐖𝐞𝐥𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐌𝐢𝐧𝐞

Anytime you have an experience outside your comfort zone you may experience FEAR!

Fear is worrying about the future, on what may or may-not happen and Fear takes you out of the present.

𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗦𝗢𝗟𝗨𝗧𝗜𝗢𝗡 𝘁𝗼 𝗳𝗲𝗮𝗿 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗳𝗼𝗰𝘂𝘀 𝗼𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗣𝗥𝗢𝗖𝗘𝗦𝗦:
The process is, "What you must do right now and/or the very next step that's within your reach."

However, the opposite of fear, anxiety or worry is COURAGE.

Franklin Delano Roosevelt once said: "Courage is not the absence of fear but the ability to act in spite of it!."

So, what are you afraid of or anxious about? 𝗙𝗼𝗰𝘂𝘀 𝗼𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗻𝗲𝘅𝘁 𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗽 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻.

Maybe you are going through a difficult patch right now?

Whatever the challenging, fearful or difficult situation, find a Process and then the Next Step and finally, Take Action

𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜𝘀 𝗧𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗣𝗿𝗼𝗰𝗲𝘀𝘀?
Simply put, The Process is ...

1. What to do
2. When to do it
3. How to do it
4. In what sequence so that it all makes sense

𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁'𝘀 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗧𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝗖𝗵𝗮𝗹𝗹𝗲𝗻𝗴𝗲 𝗙𝗮𝗰𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗟𝗶𝗳𝗲?
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FEAR is worrying about the future, about what may or may-not happen and Fear takes you out of the present!

The Solution to Fear is: ""𝗙𝗼𝗰𝘂𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗼𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗣𝗥𝗢𝗖𝗘𝗦𝗦"".
Find-out what you must do Right Now and/or "The Very Next Step That Is Within Your Reach".

There is a Process / Solution for every challenge facing you today.

Simply, Find that Process, take the Next Step and then the Next Step Until you reach your Goal!

So, I ask again ... "𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁'𝘀 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗧𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝗖𝗵𝗮𝗹𝗹𝗲𝗻𝗴𝗲 𝗙𝗮𝗰𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗟𝗶𝗳𝗲"?

Notice yourself dating the same kind of person over and over again?
This may not be coincidence or imagination but your attachment style.

Four different attachment styles predict our success in connecting to people, parents, partners, kids and friends:

1. Anxious Attachment Style: You're desperate to feel loved, you experience emotional hunger and/or fantasize about love & relationships
2. Avoidant Attachment Style: You're emotionally distant. You take pride in being independent or see vulnerabilities or attachment as weakness.
3. Fearful Attachment Style: You bounce between being needy or needing lots of attention and being independent or pulling away.
4. Secure Attachment Style: You're less anxious and more satisfied and you have an easy time forming relationships.

Avoid rocking relationships, frequent breakups, lots of fighting, roller coaster emotions and develop secure relationships.

Which attachment style are you? Take the quiz: https://www.scienceofpeople.com/attachment-styles/

What is your attachment style? Learn More: https://youtu.be/hfYbbatvHzA

Attachment Theory Quiz: Which of the 4 Styles Are You? Attachment theory is a branch of psychology explaining the purpose of human emotional attachment. Emotional attachment enables us to form our most important ...

Anytime you have an experience outside your comfort zone you may experience FEAR!

Fear is worrying about the future, on what may or may-not happen and Fear takes you out of the present.

𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗦𝗢𝗟𝗨𝗧𝗜𝗢𝗡 𝘁𝗼 𝗳𝗲𝗮𝗿 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗳𝗼𝗰𝘂𝘀 𝗼𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗣𝗥𝗢𝗖𝗘𝗦𝗦:
The process is, "What you must do right now and/or the very next step that's within your reach."

However, the opposite of fear, anxiety or worry is COURAGE.

Was it not Franklin Delano Roosevelt who once said: "Courage is not the absence of fear but the ability to act in spite of it!."

So, what are you afraid of or anxious about? 𝗙𝗼𝗰𝘂𝘀 𝗼𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗻𝗲𝘅𝘁 𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗽 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻.

Maybe you are going through a difficult patch right now?

Whatever the challenging, fearful or difficult situation, find a Process and then the Next Step and finally, Take Action

𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜𝘀 𝗧𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗣𝗿𝗼𝗰𝗲𝘀𝘀?
Simply put, The Process is ...

1. What to do
2. When to do it
3. How to do it
4. In what sequence so that it all makes sense

𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁'𝘀 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗧𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝗖𝗵𝗮𝗹𝗹𝗲𝗻𝗴𝗲 𝗙𝗮𝗰𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗟𝗶𝗳𝗲?
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Have you ever met someone you liked and wondered, if you should date that person immediately or just be friends first?

Your thought could have been "Just be friends for a while and move slowly into dating" or “Make an effort to date this person right now".

Which of these approaches is better and why?

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Are you loving yourself on a consistent, daily basis? When you start loving yourself, you will be surprised at … how your life, just gets better!

You will start feeling better. You will get the jobs you want. You will have the money you need.

Your relationships will either improve or the negative ones’ disappear and new ones begin!

(Learn More: https://bit.ly/2TpSNdg)

Yet, so many of us hide from ourselves and because of that, we don’t even know who we are or what we want out of life.

If you are not willing to love yourself today, then you are not going to love yourself tomorrow, because whatever excuses you have today, you will still have them tomorrow!

No more excuses. Let’s make today, the day you start loving yourself consistently on a deeper level (physical, mental, emotional, spiritual).

Join our Free Life Coaching Group (St. Louis Life Coaching) to Start Loving Yourself More Than You Ever Thought Possible:
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There is good in community because it can help with loneliness and many life / social issues.

My purpose here, is to show you, how good community can be when done right.

*Some of you, I will talk to on a regular basis and some I will encourage via email or text to continue reaching for your dreams.

Why? Because, I believe that we can do amazing things together as a community.

So, I encouarge you'all to join and help build this community.

Thank you for letting me be a part of your lives.

Do You Have The Worst SuperPower of All Time?

Do you have this awesome ability to get worked up over all of the potential mistakes you can make, each one deadlier than the one before it (like with livid colors and vivid surround sound)?

So, you end up building up a fantasy world in your head that bears almost no resemblance to the world you actually live in!

If you have this superpower then you may be a nerd or an introvert or both :-)