Roots & Keys

This summer!!!!!! So many options to get together and learn and grow and be human. ❤

🗣️MEN WHO DO NOT HAVE WOMEN FRIENDS ACTUALLY DO NOT LIKE WOMEN

Do not date men who don't have women friends...Why? Because a man who does not have any female friends does not actually like women. Maybe he thinks men and women can't be friends. A tip for women who date men: in my opinion, it is a huge red flag if a man does not have any female friends. Why? Because a man who does not have any female friends does not actually like women.

Come thru y’all

HAPPY WOMEN'S HISTORY MONTH!

Only two spots remain in the March 14 Women's Workshop: Be Your Own #1 (1pm-4pm, $145)

Most of us were taught to be good at relationships with everyone except ourselves. This workshop is a reset. It's a chance to get clear on who you are, what you actually value, and how to treat yourself like someone worth knowing. Three hours that might change the way you move through everything else. Join some amazing women (including me!) for a deep dive into all things YOU from a leadership and empowerment perspective.

Link in comments.

Meme for attention but also because it's funny af

There's no such thing as a perfect relationship, y'all

This is not a Disney princess life...How insecure attachment and monogamy culture impacts our relationships I recently read a statistic that roughly half of all adults have insecure attachment. So we start out FROM CHILDHOOD being pre-wired for struggle in relationships in part because our parents/primary caregivers and their parents/primary caregivers (etc) were also wired for struggle and failed to suff...

Relationship Tip:

The thing about relationships that can make it hard to get on the same page is that everybody wants to feel how they want to feel, and that *subjective experience* of that *preferred feeling* is how we assess whether a relationship is working for us (or not).

It's all very nebulous and hard to define, especially if you don't have particularly excellent communication skill (or self-reflection skill).

So the work is often actually about aligning your subjective desire to your partner(s) subjective desire and finding ways to meet each other's need to feel how *they* want to feel.

Point being, you can have a healthy relationship and not actually have the *same needs*, IF you can name your individual needs and you agree to prioritize helping each other find ways to meet those needs.

But this requires- you guessed it - EXCELLENT COMMUNICATION SKILLS.

Come see me. :)

New Blog Post:

It's really not about you Reminder: most people in the world are just out here doing s**t without thinking too much about it or how it might affect others.

New Blog Post about "sarcasm"

Nobody Actually Enjoys Your Sarcasm Because It's Actually Mean ANNUAL REMINDER: When people say they're "sarcastic" they usually THINK they're talking about being sort of snarky-funny, maybe in a dark way. But first of all, negativity isn't super funny. It's honestly an energy suck.

Updated group work details:

Winter/Spring Group Calendar Amy L. Miller//Roots & Keys//HeldSpaceSTL Winter/Spring 2026 Group Calendar: (FULL) Dates +Topics for Not Church: 1/11 — Change 2/8 — Ambivalence + Decision-making 2/22 — Escapism 3/1 — People-Pleasing + Self-Abandonment 3/8 — Ambiguous Grief 3/22 — Wonder + Awe Next Not Church cohort da...