Courtney Feaster- Certified Life Coach

Learning this lesson everyday.

I was driving to work today, which has been super stressful lately, and I was thinking about this page.
Thinking about how it’s not what I want it to be and “why post if you can’t be consistent; consistency is key.”

And boom 🤯 I had an epiphany, consistency is not most peoples reality, it’s certainly not mine right now!

I am not showing up consistently in the places I’ve historically valued-the gym, the kitchen, tidying, friends.
But god damn I am with my kids and my family for every second I can possibly soak up.
And right now, this is where I want to be. So the consequences are inconsistencies in every other aspect of my life.
But that’s ok. It is OK!

Moms, and parents, remember this, these times are temporary, they are not forever. It is ok for your priorities to shift and change, literally daily sometimes.

You are being consistent in the areas you need to be right now, and that is enough.
You are enough!

🙋🏻‍♀️ if you feel this too!

Hey mom, did your kid hurt them self on your watch? Or even more, were you the cause of a recent injury?

I mean did you accidentally jam their finger in something , watch them bang their head, or fall off of something and not get there in time?

We can’t control everything in our child’s environment, no matter how careful or cautious we are, accidents happen…. They are devastating but they happen!
Kids are unpredictable and reckless.

Did you console them, say sorry (if you were the cause) , tend to any injuries if necessary?
If you answered yes, you are doing your job!
You are a ROCKSTAR mom/parent

💥 deep breath,
💥move on

Let’s be gentle with ourselves and remember we can only control ourselves and how we react. This applies to so many aspects of life 💜

-Ps **your kid probably never associated you with the incident, but they will associate you with the support and comfort you provided!

💜 = Full

So grateful to have had a week to be with family, unplug, and catch up with some of my people.

Mom and dad had a date! and got to eat sushi! with some of our best friends we hadn’t seen in over 2yrs!
Mom got to see and spend quality time with 2 of her best friends.
We got to sleep in 😱 too!

We watched our kids have a blast with their cousins and make so many memories (at least for the adults!) with papa and jaja!

Time away re-inspired me to get back into some of my passions I’d been pushing aside over the summer (including this page 🤷🏻‍♀️)

So busy enjoying life, this sitting selfie was the only picture I could find with me in it 🤦🏻‍♀️

Share some of your favorite summer memories (so far!) below 👇👇👇👇

Oh hi! I’m still here!
Also, trying out some new colors.
But let’s get down to bizznass…

Ah the old comparison game. “Well it could be worse.” “At least I don’t have it as bad as _____.”

Stop it! Seriously. Stop invalidating your own struggles or challenges just because they don’t seem “as bad” as someone else’s.

1. Struggling in parenthood is normal 2. We can acknowledge that things could be worse, while AT THE SAME TIME accept that right now is hard , for whatever reason.
3. Just because it’s a common experience, doesn’t mean it’s not difficult

Parents! What are you struggling with? Let’s normalize all the challenges!

Germs and Sleep are top of list in our house right now!

Ok, so writing this makes me laugh because before A mom leaves the house to do anything without the kids, they full on idiot proof everything.
Bottles and meals ✔️
Verbal instructions for meals and nap times ✔️
All essentials readily available and close by ✔️
Suggestions for activities ✔️
And honestly a billion other tiny things.
Literally all that is left to do is make sure the kid(s) don’t run out into traffic.

And I write this as though my husband is a tool, but he’s not! He’s honestly the best, most involved, and loving dad around…
Im guessing your partner isn’t a crayon either?! (Please, I hope you say no)

Anyways, maybe it’s just a programmed response because you’re not used to leaving your kids. But if you struggle with giving up control, or feeling stressed when you leave the home, there may be more to it.

If you want to explore those uncomfortable feelings more, and feel less stressed, I’m you’re girl! Shoot me a DM 🧡

We are in it.
“You are in it” is the most common phrase we’ve heard in the past week.

We started daycare last week, at the same time I was starting a new job.
2.5days in (after what was already a challenging time emotionally) we got the message to pick up our boy for pink eye.

Ok, pretty standard daycare/kid infection. Stay home, recover, go back…..

Except, here we are one week later….
I haven’t been back to my job since starting.
We are each sleeping with a kid in separate beds
We have the sick kid attached to one of us 24/7, and a very needy infant who needs to be walked/moving 90% of the day.
We haven’t had real food in a week

While we sit here in the most challenging time of our parenthood to date, we are being told “you’re in it” “it will get better.”

I know those statements are well intended reassurances from parents who have been through it 🧡

But…

I think it’s just so f*cked up that common place parental struggles can’t be talked about and empathized with.
That every struggle has to be treated as a right of passage.
Yes, we know kids get sick
Yes, we know parents make sacrifices
Yes, we know it will get better
But all of that doesn’t negate that fact that it’s hard right NOW.

So for all the moms and parents who are “in it,” please know, you have a safe place here to share your struggles, your challenges, no matter how big, how small, how common, or odd.

Sending love to all the parents today 💕

Hey mom! Mom shaming is real and exists, and I have felt the wrath of it first hand.
I was literally berated by an old lady for what she believed was my son not being warm enough…. ok it was chilly, but he had long sleeves on, and he’s a Manitoba born kid, he can hack a little chill.
Anyway, I want to talk mom shaming because I think sometimes it’s not always shaming…
Hear me out.
Being a parent is a wild rollercoaster of a ride. From conception (or even before!), to birth, and beyond, we are tasked with making a million choices. Choices for ourselves, our family, and our offspring. We base these personal choices off our values or what we think is best in a situation we’ve never faced before.
It’s vulnerable and we always question if it was the right one. We spend hours sometimes making these decisions, so when someone questions them or does something different it can be like “wtf,” I did the research, I know I made the right choice….
And you did- for you.

I think when someone has questions or shares their experience or provides advice, we have a tendency to perceive it as shaming or “telling us what we should do.” I think sometimes, the shame comes from our own insecurities.

While I don’t advocate for advice giving, I think sometimes it can come from a place of wanting to help. I think when someone shares they can be proud without it trying to take you down.

I also think there are straight up mean people out there, who through their own insecurity are trying to put us down.

I think what I’m trying to say is, let’s not think the worst of people. Let’s give one another grace… we are all just trying to figure this thing out 🧡🧡

Hey mom! I get it, things need to get done sometimes and it's not always as simple as leaving it for another day. Chores and "things" add up; even the daily tasks can be overwhelming.

Just a question though? When was the last time you asked your spouse/partner to help out, to pitch in? Gave them direction for a specific task?
I think sometimes as the primary caregiver, or the stay at home parent, we think that we are responsible for everything inside the home. SO NOT TRUE

Things I have learned in making our home an equal caretaking/ parenting space.
1. Bobby can't read my mind
2. If I give him clear direction he will get it done 100% of the time
3. He likes being helpful!

Moral of the story is, ask for help.
Your partner is capable.
You don't have to do it all alone!

*If you struggle asking for help, or giving up control of aspects in your relationship, shoot me a DM. I love helping moms create a balanced life.

Hey everyone! Thanks so much for supporting me on my coaching journey this far! I am extremely excited to be focusing my coaching efforts on supporting moms to find themselves again. I appreciate your continued support, and encourage you to share my page with any moms in your life. 🧡🧡🧡

Happy Easter everyone!
Wishing you all the best if you are celebrating this holiday today!