01/15/2023
Fall in love with someone who will take care of you - not in a materialistic way, but rather, fall in love with someone who will take care of your soul. Fall in love with someone who will take care of your mind, someone who will take care of your heart. Fall in love with someone who will take care of even the most chaotic parts of who you are.
08/15/2022
Happy couples aren't just the ones posting kissing selfies. They're the ones having uncomfortable conversations, helping each other overcome trauma, and crying ugly to save their relationship. Happy couples prioritize growth and are a course of inspiration for each other.
07/13/2022
Those with the growth mindset are able to acknowledge their partners’ imperfections without assigning blame and still feel that they have a fulfilling relationship. They see disputes as an issue of communication, and do not drag elements of personality or character into the frame. This dynamic holds true as much in romantic partnerships as in friendship and even in people’s relationships with their parents and children.
That’s how they are able to cope so well with differences in relationships. They discover flaws and sometimes struggle along the way, but together they learn how to deal with differences and find mutual solutions, allowing both partners to grow and the relationship to deepen. In this healthy relationship dynamic, an atmosphere of trust is developed, and they become vitally interested in each other’s development.
Our mindsets are constantly evolving. The person we are today is an amalgam of the residual imprints of our upbringing, the inner child in us, and the rational-thinking adult we’ve cultivated along the way. To attempt to alter our mindsets means to challenge our preformed biases and to slowly break its chains. It will be painful, arduous, and time-consuming. But that’s exactly what the growth mindset teaches us.
The perfect partner is an asymptote — it doesn’t exist. And so the goal isn’t to become perfect, it is to strive for constant improvements. To become a better partner. To understand better, To communicate more attentively, and to grow together in the name of love.
Those with the growth mindset are able to acknowledge their partners’ imperfections without assigning blame and still feel that they have a fulfilling relationship. They see disputes as an issue of communication, and do not drag elements of personality or character into the frame. This dynamic holds true as much in romantic partnerships as in friendship and even in people’s relationships with their parents and children.
That’s how they are able to cope so well with differences in relationships. They discover flaws and sometimes struggle along the way, but together they learn how to deal with differences and find mutual solutions, allowing both partners to grow and the relationship to deepen. In this healthy relationship dynamic, an atmosphere of trust is developed, and they become vitally interested in each other’s development.
Our mindsets are constantly evolving. The person we are today is an amalgam of the residual imprints of our upbringing, the inner child in us, and the rational-thinking adult we’ve cultivated along the way. To attempt to alter our mindsets means to challenge our preformed biases and to slowly break its chains. It will be painful, arduous, and time-consuming. But that’s exactly what the growth mindset teaches us.
The perfect partner is an asymptote — it doesn’t exist. And so the goal isn’t to become perfect, it is to strive for constant improvements. To become a better partner. To understand better, To communicate more attentively, and to grow together in the name of love.
#love #growth #relationships #soulmate #fondness #happiness #lovenotes #relationshipcoach #lovecoach #relationships #vulnerablity #relationship #lifecoach #inyourcorner #theconnectioncorner #appreciation #partner #together
07/12/2022
What are you protecting me from? Sometimes our significant others do not tell us everything because they feel like they are protecting us from something.
Maybe they do not want us to worry, or do not think we can help, or feel like they would bother us.
This is a great question to ask if you want to be closer. Again, do not push, do not offer how to fix it, just ask how you can help.
What are you protecting me from? Sometimes our significant others do not tell us everything because they feel like they are protecting us from something.
Maybe they do not want us to worry, or do not think we can help, or feel like they would bother us.
This is a great question to ask if you want to be closer. Again, do not push, do not offer how to fix it, just ask how you can help.
#connection #mindfulness #inspiration #growth #support #relationships #fondness #together #love #relationshipcoach #datinglife #relationshipadvice #relationshipgoals #relationship #marriage #lifecoach #inyourcorner #theconnectioncorner #lovemaps
07/07/2022
Here is a unique date night idea. Get in your car and go for a ride. Go somewhere that you both like and is not that busy. Like the beach, a lake, a hill that has a great view of the city, etc.
Then park your car, turn on your headlights, put on some music that you would both enjoy, and just dance. Dance to Lizzo, or Beethoven, or Michael Bublé... whatever you like.
Your headlights will not be the only thing turned on!
Here is a unique date night idea. Get in your car and go for a ride. Go somewhere that you both like and is not that busy. Like the beach, a lake, a hill that has a great view of the city, etc.
Then park your car, turn on your headlights, put on some music that you would both enjoy, and just dance. Dance to Lizzo, or Beethoven, or Michael Bublé... whatever you like.
Your headlights will not be the only thing turned on!
#datenight #love #date #couplegoals #fun #dateideas #relationshipgoals #dating #happy #instagood #nightout #lovethisguy #lovethisgirl #couples #teambuilding #funnight #datenight #dateyourspouse #romance #datenightideas #connection #theconnectioncorner #dance #music #lights
07/06/2022
Many folks have some kind of trama that we carry stemming from our parental figures. Ta**ra is one way in which you can work with your partner to address some of those issues.
With your partner, start out with a 2-3 minutes eye gazing exercise. Then one at a time, without taking your eyes away from your partner, talk about something that you carry from childhood.
I like holding hands when doing this, it brings the connection and energy up. In this exercise, you are not offering any judgment, help, or advice, you are just listening and telling your story.
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Many folks have some kind of trauma that we carry stemming from our parental figures. Ta**ra is one way in which you can work with your partner to address some of those issues.
With your partner, start out with a 2-3 minutes eye gazing exercise. Then one at a time, without taking your eyes away from your partner, talk about something that you carry from childhood.
I like holding hands when doing this, it brings the connection and energy up. In this exercise, you are not offering any judgment, help, or advice, you are just listening and telling your story.
#ta**ra #meditation #love #spiritual #chakra #sacredsexuality #spiritualawakening #healing #ta***ic #energy #divinefeminine #kiss #anticipation #ta***ickissing #divinemasculine #mindfulness #consciousness #touch #intimacy #connection #theconnectioncorner #trauma
06/29/2022
Your relationship doesn't have to be perfect to be wonderful.
In every moment, you can choose to focus on what's working about your relationship and what you love about your partner or what's not working and what annoys you. If you're a glass half-empty type of person prone to negative thinking, this will be a challenge for you and you'll need to commit to a conscious and daily practice of orienting toward the positive. But the first step is to shift your belief that perfection is possible and allow the fantasy of the fairy tale prince or princess to shatter.
It's not easy to allow the fantasy to shatter. Many people have unconsciously carried and embellished this fantasy since childhood, and we live in a culture that encourages the belief that perfection exists. So when you start to let it go, there's a grieving process that often needs to occur before you can accept a realistic model of healthy love.
If you have it in your head that somewhere out there a perfect relationship is possible, you won't be able to accept the imperfection of who is standing before you. What I hear all the time in my practice is some version of, "I don't like that my partner [isn't social enough / tells dumb jokes / doesn't have a rich inner world like I do / doesn't always "get" me / doesn't fit my ideal physical type]. He or she is wonderful in so many ways, but can't I find someone who has it all?"
And my response is, "When you find that person, call me and let me know."
Here's the paradox: When you let go of the cultural fantasy of perfection — and it is absolutely a grieving process as my course member shared above — you make room for the perfect imperfection of your good, loving relationship to blossom around you. For it's in loving what is human — in all of its irritating foibles, quirks and dumb jokes — that we soften our walls of fear and judgment designed to keep others at a safe distance and learn about what it really means to love.
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Your relationship doesn't have to be perfect to be wonderful.
In every moment, you can choose to focus on what's working about your relationship and what you love about your partner or what's not working and what annoys you. If you're a glass half-empty type of person prone to negative thinking, this will be a challenge for you and you'll need to commit to a conscious and daily practice of orienting toward the positive. But the first step is to shift your belief that perfection is possible and allow the fantasy of the fairy tale prince or princess to shatter.
It's not easy to allow the fantasy to shatter. Many people have unconsciously carried and embellished this fantasy since childhood, and we live in a culture that encourages the belief that perfection exists. So when you start to let it go, there's a grieving process that often needs to occur before you can accept a realistic model of healthy love.
If you have it in your head that somewhere out there a perfect relationship is possible, you won't be able to accept the imperfection of who is standing before you. What I hear all the time in my practice is some version of, "I don't like that my partner [isn't social enough / tells dumb jokes / doesn't have a rich inner world like I do / doesn't always "get" me / doesn't fit my ideal physical type]. He or she is wonderful in so many ways, but can't I find someone who has it all?"
And my response is, "When you find that person, call me and let me know."
Here's the paradox: When you let go of the cultural fantasy of perfection — and it is absolutely a grieving process as my course member shared above — you make room for the perfect imperfection of your good, loving relationship to blossom around you. For it's in loving what is human — in all of its irritating foibles, quirks and dumb jokes — that we soften our walls of fear and judgment designed to keep others at a safe distance and learn about what it really means to love.
#love #growth #relationships #fondness #happiness #datingcoach #datingtips #relationshipcoach #relationships #relationship #inyourcorner #theconnectioncorner #partner #perfection #perfect