Introverts don’t need to avoid networking- they just need to structure it differently.
Let’s go into a practice I call the solitude sandwich.
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One of the biggest fears people share with me about networking:
“How do I approach a group already in conversation?”
Here’s the simplest way to do it.
Two months as a permanent New York resident.
A city I know, and a life I’m rebuilding.
On the day I moved in, I made one ask: help moving a few things.
A new friend appeared in the comments.
That one ask led to more hangs and a conversation about collaborating… and this week I had the chance to co-facilitate a workshop at Luminary in Manhattan on Relationship Building for Introverts & Extroverts for their 5th annual Women’s History Month Conference.
One of the ideas we shared is what I call The One Ask Rule- a simple way to help a connection last beyond the initial “hello.”
Putting yourself out there rarely looks perfect.
But there are practices that help us build real community and belonging.
Often, it begins with one thoughtful ask.
Thank you to (the extrovert in our pairing), , and the community for the space and the conversation.
02/27/2026
One aligned strategy can change the trajectory of your professional life.
After beginning Private Advisory, this client:
• Clarified her professional positioning
• Developed a signature talk
• Built her visibility platform (website + newsletter)
• Created a speaker reel and media assets
• Booked her first paid speaking engagement
• Secured podcast and press opportunities
• Launched an aligned group program
The shift wasn’t more effort.
It was clarity on what mattered and what didn’t.
Clarity changes trajectory.
If you’re building a speaking or thought-leadership platform, you can learn more about Private Advisory via the link in my bio.
02/24/2026
Most visibility advice focuses on doing more.
Post more. Share more. Be everywhere.
But the leaders who attract the best opportunities aren’t the most visible.
They’re the most clearly positioned.
When your message is specific:
• People understand your expertise quickly
• The right invitations come to you
• You spend less time promoting — and more time being sought out
Clarity before visibility.
Positioning before promotion.
If you’re building a speaking or thought leadership platform, you can learn more about Private Advisory via the link in my bio.
02/24/2026
Most visibility advice focuses on doing more.
Post more. Share more. Be everywhere.
But the leaders who attract the best opportunities aren’t the most visible.
They’re the most clearly positioned.
When your message is specific:
• People understand your expertise quickly
• The right invitations come to you
• You spend less time promoting, and more time being sought out
Clarity before visibility.
Positioning before promotion.
If you’re building a speaking or thought leadership platform, you can learn more about Private Advisory via the link in my bio.
02/22/2026
Most visibility advice focuses on doing more.
Post more. Share more. Be everywhere.
But the leaders who attract the best opportunities aren’t the most visible.
They’re the most clearly positioned.
When your message is specific:
• People understand your expertise quickly
• The right invitations come to you
• You spend less time promoting, and more time being sought out
Clarity before visibility.
Positioning before promotion.
If you’re building a speaking or thought leadership platform, you can learn more about Private Advisory via the link in my bio.
12/07/2025
Ways to Work With Me: For the Ambitious Woman Who’s Ready to Do Less, With Bigger Results
You’re a go-getter.
You’ve built a career, a story, and a message that can help people.
But lately, it feels like you’re throwing spaghetti at the wall- trying a little of everything to see what sticks.
🔥 You’re done guessing. You want strategy. You want alignment.
You want to do less and get more results.
Imagine having:
🎤 A signature talk that actually gets you clients and paid speaking gigs
💬 An elevator pitch that makes people say, “I need to know more”
💡 A message so clear that it opens doors (and redefines your reputation)
📈 A strategy that connects your voice to real opportunities, instead of burnout
That’s what we create inside my 1:1 Speaker Coaching for Introverts, guided by my Connect With Confidence framework.
This is where you:
✨ Clarify your message and signature talk
✨ Develop your speaker positioning and outreach strategy
✨ Build confidence that feels grounded, not performative
✨ Turn your expertise into opportunities that pay and align
My clients walk away saying things like:
“I finally know how to talk about what I do- and people get it.”
“I booked my first paid speaking gig within weeks.”
“I feel confident, intentional, and seen.”
Your first step?
🔥 Book your Clarity Call.
It’s a free call where we’ll uncover what’s keeping you stuck, identify your best next move, and see if working together is the right fit.
👉 Book your Introverted Speaker Clarity Call now - link in bio.
Because your voice is powerful and it’s time the world feels it.
11/12/2025
Ways to Work With Me: For the Go-Getter Who’s Ready to Do Less, With Bigger Results
You’re a go-getter.
You’ve built a career, a story, and a message that can help people.
But lately, it feels like you’re throwing spaghetti at the wall- trying a little of everything to see what sticks.
🔥 You’re done guessing. You want strategy. You want alignment.
You want to do less and get more results.
Imagine having:
🎤 A signature talk that actually gets you clients and paid speaking gigs
💬 An elevator pitch that makes people say, “I need to know more”
💡 A message so clear that it opens doors (and redefines your reputation)
📈 A strategy that connects your voice to real opportunities, instead of burnout
That’s what we create inside 1:1 Connect with Confidence Speaker Coaching.
This is where you:
✨ Clarify your message and signature talk
✨ Develop your speaker positioning and outreach strategy
✨ Build confidence that feels grounded, not performative
✨ Turn your expertise into opportunities that pay and align
My clients walk away saying things like:
“I finally know how to talk about what I do- and people get it.”
“I booked my first paid speaking gig within weeks.”
“I feel confident, intentional, and seen.”
Your first step?
🔥 Book your Bold Action Clarity Call.
It’s a free call where we’ll uncover what’s keeping you stuck, identify your best next move, and see if working together is the right fit.
👉 Book your Bold Action Clarity Call now - link in bio.
Because your voice is powerful and it’s time the world feels it.
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You Can Be A Confident Introvert
Stephanie Thoma is a networking strategy coach, event host, and founder of Confident Introvert. She has facilitated over 1,000 events and established a fulfilling career helping people generate meaningful connections at online and in-person events. Her mission is to help introverts feel confident and establish relationships that catapult them forward in their career.
As a super-connector, Stephanie’s views around networking have been featured in Forbes, Business Insider, and Thrive Global. She has also been invited to speak at Harvard, Northeastern, and Boston Universities as well as at international conferences. To date, Stephanie has helped thousands of people celebrate their strengths, step into their authentic confidence, and make meaningful connections.
What People are Saying:
“Stephanie is an incredibly knowledgable and empathetic coach. When I am speaking with Stephanie she really listens and makes me feel right at home - not as though I'm being judged. Stephanie has fresh ideas that helped me breakthrough my inner false beliefs and take more action.” - Alice C.