Ask Dr. Resa

Do you know how to tease or flirt in a fun, lighthearted way with your partner? Sometimes a simple smile, a playful glance, or a quick wink can spark the sweetest connection. Little moments like that can shift the whole mood.
Do you have a signature look or move that always gets attention? Maybe we can all learn a few new ones together.
xoxo, DR Photo taken in 2024

Happy Flirty Friday! What vibe are you stepping into today, playful and outgoing or soft and relaxed? A little fun energy goes a long way, so make space for whatever helps you feel good and connected.
xoxo, DR

Have you been taking time to truly connect with and appreciate your body? I talk about it, think about it, and still catch myself needing the reminder too. Life gets busy, excuses show up, and self-connection is often the first thing we put off. Ready to shift that?
As the year moves quickly, many of us forget to slow down and explore who we really are, what we feel, and what helps us stay grounded. That kind of self-awareness is free, empowering, and teaches you more about yourself. When we care for ourselves first, connecting with others becomes more natural and fulfilling.

We’re surrounded by family, friends, culture, work, and belief systems that try to define how we should live. But who are you really, and what do you want? I love teaching back-to-basics—presence, confidence, self-trust, and honoring your truth.

Conversations about the body and intimacy are still treated as taboo, yet awareness and education create healthier, safer lives. I choose to keep speaking, teaching, and standing in authenticity, not to provoke, but to empower.

I’m Resa, the Sexy Sexologist, living and sharing my truth. What’s your story? What does living fully mean to you? Photo taken in 2017

xoxo, DR

Happy Spicy Day! Is there a part of your body that you touch that takes it to another level? You might surprise yourself! Share your s*xy adventures with me! XO DR drresa dot com

Do you sing in the shower? How about dancing around in your towel or in nothing at all? Let’s spice up our week and be spicy in our own home! xoxo, DR drresa dot com

Why is it important to take a break from time to time in order to reboot your s*x life? Is your life the same every day, and you know exactly what will happen? Do you get up, get ready, go to work, come home, get ready for bed, and start again tomorrow? Are you living a passionate, happy, healthy life? While doing the same thing every day, are you at least having s*x, org*sms, dressing up, and going on spontaneous, exciting dates? Do you need a break from your life, kids, partner, work? Ready to live your true, authentic s*xual self & join me on my journey? If you had a break right now, what would you do? Self-care is my favorite kind of break to reboot my s*x life. I have been living with anxiety since I was young, and I am always learning new ways to deal with it. After years of therapy, I finally decided to try Lexapro (a drug that treats anxiety & depression.) I was on Lexapro for 16 years. I decided earlier this year I was ready to get off Lexapro. It's been over three months, and I am feeling pretty good. I am proud of myself. I still get anxious, and I am working every day to learn ways to cope. It is a daily struggle, but I realize I want to live my true, authentic s*xual life & I was born this way. Over-the-counter drugs are not for everyone. For the last ten years, I have been experiencing m*rijuana & or w*ed. I was smoking daily and taking edibles, but I am also working on not smoking or taking edibles and being completely sober. Yoga has been my favorite workout. Breathing is so important for living in the moment & being present. That is what life is about. Acupuncture, massage, walking, singing, dancing & m*sturbating are healthy habits I add to my life. I am ready to explore & have the most insane body org*sms.
I believe the more we connect & get to know our bodies, the more pleasure we will give ourselves & others. Are you ready to share that lifestyle with me? Come join my journey, and let’s take a break from our usual lives & really live your greatest version! If you are interested in more s*xy photos, videos, or blogs, please share, subscribe, like, and become a s*xy patron by joining my Dr. Resa Patreon page! Link on Bio! xoxo, DR drresa dot com

And just like that, the evening comes. The sun sets. And I’m ready for new adventures to begin! 💋 xoxo, DR drresa dot com

Are you ready to reboot your s*x life through breast massage? Don't forget to give lots of love to your breasts today and every day! Ready to really learn your body so well and get to love and learn your breasts, ar*olas, n*pples, and the tissues and muscles surrounding your beautiful heart? Massaging, tapping, and moving the energy and blood flow through your breasts keeps them healthy and young. Today, when you touch your breasts, I want you to get into the moment. Take three long, deep breaths (not breast, lol). You can even touch your breast while you are breathing deep. Are they curvy, round, soft? Feel your body temperature. Are your breasts at the same temperature? Is your skin soft, dry, or oily? This is why touching your breasts and knowing how they look and feel is so important. I love this quote, and it made me laugh: “They’re squishy, but not in the same way that fat is squishy. More like the squishiness of a mattress, forming to your touch, but as soon as you leave, they resume their permanent forms, both completely unremarkable and completely unforgettable.” Are" you ready to be your true, authentic s*xual self? Join my s*xy journey, and by the end, your friends will know all about your s*xy bo***es! If you are interested in more s*xy photos, videos, or blogs, please share, subscribe, like, and become a s*xy patron by joining my Dr. Resa Patreon page! Link on Bio! Your word of mouth helps. Please join, share, repost, like, and comment on my Instagram, YouTube, Facebook, and Patreon, and let's have more org*sms to make every day a better world! Have a s*xy, wonderful day. You deserve it! Xoxo, DR drresa dot com

Do you m*sturbate? Do you take time daily for self-love and self-touch? Do you have org*sms? Do you have explosive, firework, mind-blowing org*sms? If you follow me, you hear me talk about m*sturbation and org*sms. Guess what? I am guilty and human, just like you. I don’t always follow my advice, but I feel like a new lady when I do. I had my first or**sm at 31 years old, and at 47, I still have a hard time relaxing my mind and body to let go and have org*sms. Have you heard of pleasure and org*sm anxiety? I have both, and I will be writing more on stress and how it affects our s*x life. I am working on a book(e-book), webinar, online course, and a m*sturbation org*sm tracker. Please email me if you are interested in signing up. It has always been difficult to relax my mind and body to have org*sms. It is even hard to let go alone or with a partner. I speak my truth and share my stories to help myself and others. I believe practice, patience, passion, and persistence help us explore and touch our free vessels and bodies. Start massaging your head and hair down to your face, ears, neck, down to your shoulders, arms, hands, bre*sts, and stomach. Experience and touch between your legs, your b*tt cheeks, behind your knees, to your feet and toes. While you are slowly touching your skin, focus on your smell, texture, movements, and sounds. Try tickling, scratching, pressing, pinching, and rubbing your body with your hands and fingers. In the beginning, please learn and love your body without any s*x toys or v*brators. Are you ready to be your genuine, authentic s*xual self? Did you know I offer online s*x coaching? Check my drresa dot com. Today is Tap Your Tulips Tuesday. Go and take time and touch yourself. Remember, you are s*xy, brave, confident, and worth it. Love you, s*xy ones. xoxo, DR

Do you love all body types? Do you feel showing skin is sinful or liberating? What does seeing skin do for you? Would you like the freedom to show yours whenever you like? xoxo, DR drresa dot com

Do you go into a relationship already lying? Not being your true self? How does that affect your relationships? Your work? Your friendships? Your family? Are you always on eggshells and not living your true, authentic s*xual self? Do you do more drugs, drink, lie, obsess, and or do something not healthy and not s*xy for yourself? I see this over and over again in my life, especially being in the s*x worker world. Anything s*x-related is already taboo, so if you work in any field with any form of s*x involved(even a s*x talk coach), you are dirty, shameful, worthless, and the list goes on and on. I am not any of those; I am a s*xy, confident, fabulous, ambitious, smart, fun lady, and my list goes on and on. I have been in the s*x industry for 25 years, and I was meant to be in this amazing s*x-positive, healthy lifestyle. Were you? If so, live it, be it, and be true, real, authentic to yourself first, and it will shine bright to everyone who deserves to be in your exciting, wonderful life. Are you Interested in more s*xy photos, videos, and blogs? Your word of mouth helps, so please share, subscribe, like, and become a s*xy patron by joining my Dr. Resa Patreon page. Don’t forget to join, share, repost, like, and comment on my Instagram, YouTube, Facebook, and Patreon, and let's start having more org*sms to make every day a better world! Have a s*xy, wonderful day. You deserve it! Xoxo, DR drresa dot com