04/03/2022
Lots of new parents find that when their baby is born they are at first still quite sleepy. They may feed fairly frequently but immediately fall back to sleep. They may well be much more content to lie in their crib.
Then comes the second night – perhaps for many your first night at home – and suddenly your baby starts crying lots, feeding lots and generally won’t be put down. This is the point many new parents freak out wondering what on earth they have done and worrying it will always be like this - whilst panicking about how to soothe their baby.
Think of this from your baby’s perspective. Until now they have been inside you – snug, warm and with an unlimited supply of food on tap. Then birth happened with a load of hormones and being squeezed before they were born into a big, bright and noisy world.
After a brief phase of being a bit stunned & exhausted, they suddenly realise that constant source of everything they need has disappeared and well, they are not overly happy about that.
Breastfeeding lots and lots on that second night is not necessarily a sign that something is wrong. Once your baby is born it is their job to kickstart your milk supply. The more they feed, the more milk you start to produce so this sudden very frequent feeding is most likely a result of that. They are not starving – they have laid down fat during pregnancy to manage the change from the first milk you produce to having a full milk supply.
Do make sure they are latched on comfortably and clearly feeding, and always check with your health professional if you are worried, but more frequent feeding in itself is very normal on this night – and will be a pattern you will see emerge later when your baby has growth spurts and is trying to stimulate your milk supply.
The very best thing you can do to manage the second night is to recognise that this is about them needing to reclaim that warmth & comfort and that holding them and keeping them close will reassure them that you are there.
Hold them close to you so they can feel your heartbeat. Strip off and have some skin to skin. Keep feeding. Talk to them.
And remember this won't last forever!