03/13/2024
Iโve been sitting with this for almost 3 weeksโฆ
When I got to see Elizabeth Gilbert speak. She was amazing!๐ And she told us about a conversation with her mentor when she was struggling to become a successful writer.
Elizabeth was complaining that it wasnโt happening, or not fast enough. Her mentor stopped her and asked, โWhat are you willing to give up to have what you keep pretending you want?โ
(*Cue collective gasp from the audience)
She responded that there was nothing more to give up and she didnโt have time to do more.
Her mentorโs response: โWhatโs your favorite tv show?โ
(Me: All of them๐ฌ)
She went on to tell us more about this conversation and it was obvious that it was making an impact on the audience.
And the question has been percolating inside of me. Many of us have heard this before: "What are you willing to give up to have what you want?โ
But the kicker this time: โwhat you ๐ ๐๐๐ฅ ๐ฅ๐ง๐๐ฉ๐๐ฃ๐๐๐ฃ๐ you want.โ๐คฏ
Hits kinda hard, right?!
So I journaled about this, listing what I could give up to have what I want in 4 areas of my life (healthy body, healthy finances, a loving relationship, and a bigger home).
And it all came down to self judgment, attachment, and doubt.
Aka: ๐๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ฟ
The lists are longer and include specific things to give up, like too much tv, uber eats, avoiding follow up, etc.
But they all boiled down to giving up self judgment, attachment, and doubt. Ultimately giving in to more self love and confidence๐
Because with less of the first 3 and more of the second 2, the right actions fall into place. The right actions become easier and less scary. The right actions become habits.
After her talk, letting it sink in, journaling about it, and really looking inside, Iโve started taking new and exciting actions and ideas towards creating more of what I want in my life.
Iโm ready to stop pretending. Iโm ready to get out of my own way and start creating again.
And I ask you: ๐๐๐๐ฉ ๐๐ง๐ ๐ฎ๐ค๐ช ๐ฌ๐๐ก๐ก๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐๐๐ซ๐ ๐ช๐ฅ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐๐๐ซ๐ ๐ฌ๐๐๐ฉ ๐ฎ๐ค๐ช ๐ ๐๐๐ฅ ๐ฅ๐ง๐๐ฉ๐๐ฃ๐๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ฎ๐ค๐ช ๐ฌ๐๐ฃ๐ฉ?
Really think about this๐ค And if you're willing, please share in the comments. Let's encourage each other!๐