09/05/2023
September is self-improvement month.
What would you like to improve on?
You can decide to make the changes at any time you want. You don't have to start at the beginning of the month, the beginning of the day, etc. You can decide in this minute, to make the changes you want!
A lot of people think it takes a lot of time and effort all at once to make significant changes. This can feel overwhelming.
Instead, break it down into small consistent changes to make. Focus on 1% change. 1% of our day is just 15 minutes. You can spend 15 minutes of your day making the changes you want, so you can be who you want to be.
Asking yourself what is the worst and best thing that will happen if you make the change, will help you analyze what you might exchange and what you can gain by taking the time and making the effort.
If you want to take the 15 minutes a day to become who you want to be, but don't exactly know what changes to make or how to make lasting changes, Rewire to Sage bootcamp is starting soon.
You can gain more calm, happiness, compassion, confidence, energy, gratitude, clarity, health, wellness, emotional regulation, healthier and better relationships, and have less stress and anxiety.
Email hello@rewireforpositivity to join the next group and get a September discount now!
09/04/2023
Peter walking on water is one of my favorite scripture stories. It's because I can identify with Peter. I can have faith in what God is teaching me and in His capabilities. However, my own self-doubt will make me stumble and fall.
What I love about the story is how Christ is immediately there to pull Peter back up.
But, Peter isn't who I should be identifying with. I should be identifying with Christ. His goal and purpose is to teach me how to walk on water, like he does. Here and now.
He is teaching me how to do the impossible. So, when life gets overwhelming or overbearing, I can take strength and courage to know that I'm being taught how to walk on water and that's what I'm meant to do.
08/24/2023
Back to school time is usually a stress and anxious filled time for everyone. The kids are nervous about their classes and finding friend. As parents, we're trying to get everyone back into a routine and reassuring the kids they're going to be okay, while also nervous for them and hoping it goes well.
In years past, my kids would have a lot of emotional energy to unleash after coming home. They would go through their draining day keeping all of their emotions in check, to come home and decompress. Unfortunately, it was sometimes displayed with some melt downs, frustrations, short tempers, or arguments. This wasn't just hard for them, but for me as a parent. I would be looking forward to hear about all the good things that happened or disappointments they might have faced. It seemed like a normal practice to know part of them breaking down at home, was that they felt home (along with me) as a safe place for their bigger emotions.
Does this sound normal to you too?
Something shifted this year though. All of my kids came home happy, excited to tell me all about school. All the good with the not so good. What didn't happen were the melt downs, the arguments, the short tempers, or frustrations. Instead what happened were smiles, listening to one another's problems and compassionately reassuring the other person, offers for extra help and acts of kindness towards one another. This has been sustained through the entire week, too.
This was in part because we've been working together to create safety in our emotions. We don't see them as threats or negative issues to resist and "contain." We validate and try to lead with compassion and empathy. This is towards ourselves and towards others. This helps each person regulate their emotions better and throughout the day without the need of holding them in all day to unleash "when it's safe." Wherever they are, they are safe with their emotions.
One of the best things we can teach our kids is there is safety in their emotions. They can emotionally regulate themselves in any situation. When they are dysregulated, we can meet them with kindness, compassion, and empathy and offer our safety until they feel safe again in their bodies and emotions.
If this is something you'd like to learn more about, sign up for a free consultation and session at [email protected] and ask about my back to school special for parents!
08/22/2023
When most people meet me and find out I'm a relationship coach, one of the first questions I'm asked is about my own family life.
To them, my credentials are my own relationships.
I'm happy that they are!
A couple of weeks ago, I got to celebrate 17 years of marriage! That's no easy feat, either. But, I'm happy to say it's the most rewarding endeavor I've ever committed to.
What I teach my clients are the same principles I've had to learn through experience, not just through my education and certifications.
The greatest thing you can ever learn really is to love and be loved in return. Learning this and how to apply this can seem like simple concepts, but I've learned through experience that it's not always so simple.
Learning how to love and be loved is a complex journey that requires a deep understanding of oneself and others. It is not something that can be mastered overnight, but rather a lifelong process of growth and self-discovery. To truly love and be loved, one must acquire knowledge about healthy relationships and communication, as well as develop skills in empathy and compassion. These tools, combined with personal experience, help navigate the intricate nuances of emotions and foster meaningful connections. It is through this continuous learning and growth that we are able to cultivate love in our lives and build fulfilling relationships.
Ready to learn how to love and be loved?
Email me at
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