Therapy With Rach

Someone showing up as a SAFE person is never too much to ask. If someone asked me what my biggest mistake I ever made in my relationships was, it would be tolerating behavior that made me feel anxious, insecure, and constantly stressed. Notice I did not say, angry, sad, or even hurt. Because other humans will sometimes do or say things to make us angry, sad, and hurt. Even the ones that love us. And we also might make the person we love angry, sad or hurt. But that does not mean we feel unsafe. Those feelings only lead to activation of our nervous systems when there is no repair or accountability. 🩷

In case anyone needs a response to this question if asked on a dating app 😎

Sometimes the chapter we are in isnt the one we would have ever chosen. I get that 100%. But like any good story, it usually makes us appreciate and get ready for the next one as we turn the page. 🩷

Today has such a feminine power to it, no matter what your “mother status” might be. Two of my most protective, loving, maternal girlfriends dont have children, and yet I see their patience, wisdom, and huge capacity for unconditional love given out everywhere everyday. I hope we all celebrate the maternal in us today. Be too much 😊 And happy Mothers Day to all the amazing moms 🩷

So true 😂 and I would be the raccoon 🤷🏽‍♀️😉😂

Happy May 1st. May you create relationshios that light you up and yet ground you in safety. May you set boundaries that bring out the best in you. May you grow your self-trust by never self abandoning again, AND if and when you do, remember your boundaires are usually all the protection you need with people who care for and love you. (and hint: we dont have to “like” other people's boundaries in order to respect them and love the human setting them). AND May you be so connected to your self worth, that you believe in and make choices to create the relationships, the job, the goals, the health, and the joy you desire. Your worth is your path, your boundaries are your map, and your trust is your compass. But yes, sometimes when its really tricky, we are allowed to also use google maps 😉🩷

Happy Friday 😎🩷

Crumbs will keep you in an almost constant state of feeling needy and anxious in friendships and relationships. Why? Because you will never be full. You will never have your needs met. Instead, it’s a constant state of, well if they just could be different, or if they could just give a little more, I would feel so much better. You become addicted to the potential of being fed, while starving the whole time. 🩷

Lust is fun and all, but have you ever been loved for being exactly who you are? 😎🩷

It always starts with the beliefs you keep and the stories you tell (yourself). If you need help better understanding what your beliefs are and how they may be causing you to make choices you don’t always understand, I can help. 🩷

The quality of our connections is determined by a few factors, but a very important one is by the quality of stories we are telling ourselves about our relationships. The narrative in your head will almost always dictate your truth about connecting to others.
I love helping humans not only better understand their narrative, but create a more powerful, clear, and impactful one. 🩷

if this isn’t love, I don’t know what is 😚🩷