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08/25/2026

She got her 🪽 Rest in peace

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08/22/2026

This.

08/22/2026

*Malignant narcissist* = the most destructive mix in the narcissism spectrum.

Think: *Narcissism + Antisocial traits + Aggression + Paranoia*. It’s not an official DSM diagnosis, but therapists use it to describe people who are both self-absorbed _and_ intentionally cruel.

*Core traits of a malignant narcissist*

*1. Grandiosity + entitlement, but with cruelty*
Believes they’re superior AND deserves to tear others down to prove it.

*2. Lack of empathy + lack of remorse*
They don’t just miss your feelings — they enjoy watching you hurt. Zero guilt after.

*3. Sa**sm / need to dominate*
Gets “supply” from control, humiliation, and making others feel small. Can be psychological, financial, legal, or physical.

*4. Paranoia + hostility*
Assumes everyone is out to get them. Holds grudges for years and plans retaliation.

*5. Antisocial behaviors*
Lies, manipulation, rule-breaking, exploitation. Gaslighting, smear campaigns, and using systems (courts, HR, family) as weapons.

*6. No capacity for genuine love/bond*
Relationships are transactions. People are tools, enemies, or audience — not equals.

*How they’re different from other types*
- *Overt narcissist*: Wants admiration. Loud.
- *Covert narcissist*: Wants validation through victimhood. Passive-aggressive.
- *Malignant narcissist*: Wants power. Will actively destroy you if you threaten their image or say “no.”

Psychologist Erich Fromm who coined the term called it "the quintessence of evil" because of that mix of narcissism + aggression + antisocial behavior.

*Red flags you’re dealing with one*
- Smear campaigns: turning friends/family against you
- Uses legal/financial systems to punish you
- Enjoys your pain and denies it later
- No boundaries. Sees your “no” as a challenge
- Projects all their bad traits onto you

*How to protect yourself*
1. *No contact or strict grey rock* - Any reaction = fuel. Be boring, factual, no emotion.
2. *Document everything* - Texts, emails, dates. They often rewrite history.
3. *Boundaries + consequences* - And actually enforce them.
4. *Don’t argue or JADE* - Justify, Argue, Defend, Explain. It won’t work.
5. *Get support* - Therapist, lawyer, support group. This is not something to handle alone.
6. *Safety first* - If there’s threats, stalking, or violence, involve authorities.

*Important*: Only a licensed mental-health professional can diagnose someone. This is for education and pattern-recognition, not labeling a specific person.

This type does the most damage because they’re strategic, not just insecure. Healing means getting out of their game entirely.

08/22/2026

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08/20/2026

When the medical system becomes part of the trauma. 💔

I’ve been thinking a lot about how difficult it is to live with an illness that other people can’t see—and then have to fight to convince the people who are supposed to help you that something is wrong.

There’s a difference between advocating for yourself and being disrespectful.

When I say, “This doesn’t feel right.”
When I explain my symptoms.
When I ask questions.
When I ask for additional testing or a referral.
When I say, “I know something is happening in my body.”

That isn’t me being difficult.

That’s me trying to protect my health.

And yet, sometimes patients are labeled as dramatic, anxious, demanding, or disrespectful simply because they refuse to stop advocating for themselves.

After enough experiences like that, you start questioning yourself. You become afraid to speak up because you’re worried you’ll be judged. You walk into appointments already preparing yourself to defend your own reality.

That creates trauma.

Doctors and medical professionals are human, and I know they are working within an imperfect system. But patients are human too. We deserve to be listened to, treated with dignity, and taken seriously—especially when we’re experiencing symptoms that don’t have an obvious explanation.

I don’t need every doctor to immediately know what’s wrong with me.

I need them to be willing to listen when I say something is wrong.

And if you’re a patient who has been dismissed, please don’t let those experiences convince you that your voice doesn’t matter.

Ask questions.
Bring your records.
Write down your symptoms.
Take someone with you when you can.
And keep advocating for yourself.

You are not disrespectful for wanting answers.

Have you ever walked out of a doctor’s appointment feeling like you had to apologize for advocating for your own health? I’d love to hear your experience. ❤️

“Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves.” — Proverbs 31:8

08/20/2026

Putting this here because with having trauma as a foundation; chronic illness are inevitable. I couldn’t outrun the trauma or dna and got the royal whammy as far as chronic illnesses go.