Rylea Rose Relationship Coach

Playing hard to get is out!

Everyone is sick and tired of games these days, let’s be honest.

Men (and women) are desperate for women who are REAL, who are authentic, who aren’t afraid to ask for and go after what they want.

When we are first looking for someone to spend our lives with, we pay attention to the type of life someone leads.

No one wants to be with someone who’s whole life revolves around them and the relationship… Not really…

We want someone who can add to our lives!

Let me ask you something, when you first start dating someone new, how often do you drop everything to spend time with them? How often do you clear up your schedule so you can be available when he calls? Be honest.

No man wants a woman who comes running the moment he snaps his fingers.

You can BE hard to get by filling up your time throughout the day doing things that you love, that make you feel good.

For me, I fill my free time with hiking, snowboarding, rock climbing, hanging out with friends, going to the sauna, taking a couple yoga classes, etc. I recently started taking Krav Maga classes a couple times a week.

I have filled my schedule with so many things that I love to do, it’s hard for me to find time to meet up with men!

My time is valuable. It’s limited. And men know that!!!

They see me living this active, beautiful life, and they want to be a part of that.

This seriously elevates your attractiveness and increases your degree of difficulty, because he has to fight for time with you!

You don’t have to act hard to get, because you just ARE.

Fill your life doing things that fulfill you, that make you feel good, that you love, and KEEP doing them, regardless of what a man does.

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Happy Halloween!!

I always love a chance to dress up and express different sides of myself.

Each of us have many different faucets and sides to our personality that make up who we are.

Every part of yourself, the good, the bad, the ugly, deserves to be loved and accepted too.

It’s a terrible feeling, to feel like you have to hide a part of yourself, or tone yourself down to fit some mold or idea of how you’re “supposed to be.”

But the truth is, who you are, all of you, is beautiful, and deserves to be seen.

Of course we have some icky parts of ourselves that we want to hide away, because we think if people saw these parts, then we wouldn’t be accepted or loved.

But if we don’t acknowledge these icky parts, and intentionally give love and compassion to them, then these sides will eventually make themselves known, and not in a positive way.

Everyone feels like a mess inside. And we really only have two choices: 1. Continue to hide these parts, and act like they aren’t there… 2. Acknowledge these parts, and make it a priority to heal, grow, and learn from them. Because they are a part of you!

I love Halloween. It’s such a fun way to get creative and connect to your more playful side😈

Hope everyone has a fun and wonderful Halloween!

Inspire lifelong devotion for you in a man by simply learning how to embody your feminine energy!

Yes, feminine energy is THAT powerful.

Where if you spend one or two days simply embodying it, living in it, the man you are with will do a 180 almost overnight and start stepping up for you.

YES, it can happen that quickly. I watched it happen in my own relationship. I watch it happen in my clients relationships!

I get it. A lot of us are stuck in our ways. Or we think we NEED to be in our masculine energy to get anything done in our lives, whether it be with our jobs, raising our kids, or getting our men to do what we want.

But babe, the OPPOSITE IS TRUE!

Feminine energy inspires men to take care of you, cherish you, and give you everything you’ve ever wanted!

But the biggest hurdle in truly connecting to and embodying our feminine energy is our NEED FOR CONTROL.

The 2nd is our fear of facing the unknown… to the point where we’d rather stay in a situation we know is not right for us, but it’s COMFORTABLE and easy. We make excuses.

These things keep us from being open & able to FLOW with life… Which in turn keeps our men from being able to connect to that flow, open to those life energies, and to experience life outside of his logic and head space.

Feminine energy allows you to take him OUT of that logic, and allows him to experience that openness.

You’re able to invite him into a realm of being and experiencing that he’s never been able to touch before! He just needs a little guidance from the feminine.

Experiencing feminine energy reminds men that it’s okay to be alive! That’s how important women are!

You will never do this operating from your masculine energy.

A guy is not going to stop and smell the roses… but if YOU do, you invite him into that that sensual experience of being and simply experiencing the world!

Women don’t get how important their FLOW of love, APPRECIATION, and REWARD for the good, masculine things about their men are. It changes their will to live!!

Learn to let go of control and embrace FLOW, openness, warmth, sensuality, and femininity, and watch how your life TRANSFORMS.

DM me if you’d like more information!!

Seems a little too simple doesn’t it? But it’s true.

When men are in relationships/marriages their main priorities are to provide for you, protect you, and to see that they make their woman HAPPY!

He wants to feel like he’s doing a good job in the relationship, that he’s valued, respected and appreciated… and your happiness is how he measures that.

But when you’re always nagging him, criticizing him, and nitpicking everything he does, he starts to feel like he can’t do anything right with you…

He starts to feel like he can’t make you happy!

And it’s a terrible feeling, feeling like nothing you do in your relationship is right.

You see, we are so trained to focus on everything he’s doing wrong, and constantly pointing these things out that we forget, and often don’t appreciate him for the things he DOES do.

And Appreciation is to men like Reassurance is to woman. Men NEED to feel appreciated, and when they don’t, they stop trying…

Cuz in their minds, they’ve tried and gotten nowhere, so why keep trying?

Start appreciating him and showering him with praise for the things he does do. Train him with positive reinforcement😉

Well, how will he know when he’s doing something wrong? Like a shoddy job with the dishes?

If you want things done a particular way, you go back over and do it yourself. If he’s trying, putting forth the effort, then appreciate his effort. He won’t get everything right, but it’s the effort behind it that’s important.

Tell him how much certain things he does means to you, and how happy it makes you. And put focus on what he DOES do, not his shortcomings.

You gotta start somewhere, right? This is a good place to start.

Let’s talk about GHOSTING for a second.

We’ve all been there. Being ghosted sucks.
Especially if you are in your 30s or older, you just expect people to be mature and aware enough to know that up front communication. Even if it’s rejection, it feels WAY better than them just dropping off the face of the earth.

Because when someone actually has the balls to just tell you, “Hey, it was nice hanging out with you. But, I don’t see this really working out. Best of luck to you.”

It’s like, Oh wow! Thank you for being honest. I might feel bummed or sad, BUT now I KNOW not to waste any more energy even considering you or thinking about you. What a breath of fresh air!

Because unfortunately, communication skills these days are subpar. Let’s be honest.

Instead of respecting you, respecting your energy, and valuing you as a human being, TOO MANY men (and women!!!) would rather avoid confrontation and communication all together.

And it feels so frustrating doesn’t it? It’s a very powerful feeling that’s hard to stay aware of and not react, and give into the urge to reach out and call them out.

It’s such an uncomfortable feeling that we feel compelled to take action and DO something about it, instead of do the hard thing and sit with these feelings…

This is because it triggers a lot of deep abandonment fears in us. It brings up all of these feelings of abandonment, which then makes us wonder what we did wrong, can make is question our self worth, etc. Basically sends us down the rabbit hole of devaluing ourselves in our minds.

But I want to make something clear. Someone’s inability to communicate has NOTHING to do with your WORTH as a person.

So, what if you just refused to take it personally?

How might that change how you perceive these behaviors??

For me, instead of wondering what was wrong with ME, it got me wondering what the f*ck is wrong with THEM for not being able to simply state the truth? It’s not hard to say, “It was nice meeting you, and I’m not feeling it.” Or whatever it is!?

It takes one minute to text that out and send it. A text takes hardly any effort, and they can’t even give you that?… 😒

Are their egos seriously THAT big that they are worried their rejection is gonna hurt my feelings?? 🤣

Their lack of communication actually communicates their immaturity and inability to have the difficult conversations that are GOING to come up down the road. It also communicates that they don’t respect you enough to tell it how it is.

So, at the end of the day, is this someone you even want to give you energy to??? Probably not!!! They are showing you how they show up. Pay attention🤔

So instead of letting it activate you… getting your inner boy, your masculine energy ready to FIGHT for you, cuz man, your boy wants to DO something. He wants to defend your sacred girl. Man, how dare he! He’s wants to defend and protect! The urge to reach out, call him out, to initiate contact is SO strong… I know.

I want you to take a deeep breath. Tell yourself, “I love you part of me that’s angry. I love you part of me that wants to reach out. I love you inner boy for wanting to fight for me. I love you part of me that’s upset.”

Imagine giving this part of you a big hug, sending love into it.

And then say, “AND, this is incredibly unattractive behavior. I’m not going that direction. This is a TURN OFF, and I want nothing to do with this type of man.”

And do that as often as you need to, as often as those feelings come up.

Acknowledge them, feel them in your body, and re-wire your brain to be TURNED OFF by this behavior by simply telling yourself this, over and over.

You might have to take additional steps to not reach out. If you’re struggling to not send him that text, or keep wanting to reach out… I want you to delete his number.

Make it so you cannot contact him. Yes, I know FB and IG exist. You can delete and archive the conversations if you need to. But by deleting his number, and taking that particular action, gives some power back to you here.

You do NOT need to reach out and tell him what an dumba** he is for not being able to simply communicate. Don’t even send him that text.

You know when you’re being ignored. Do not give him one more ounce of your prescious energy that he clearly does not respect…

Delete his contact information, unfriend him, remove him from your phone. And remind yourself, you deserve someone who is emotionally mature enough, and who respects you enough to tell you the truth, even when it’s hard.

And if he turns back up again? You can say “Your inability to communicate is a huge turn off for me. And I have no interest in a relationship with someone who blatantly disrespected me.”

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There are men out there who will respect you and your time and energy, and you deserve someone who’s willing to at least try to communicate.

Love you guys! Let me know how this resonates with you.

SO many of my clients feel this, almost compulsive, need to over-explain things to their man, and then wonder why they don’t feel heard.

We over-explain because we want so badly to be understood… and we think if we say as much as possible, that the man will hear everything and just “get it.”

This is NOT true.

Let me ask you something...

When someone is telling you something, and they restate everything that happened (when you were there), and they keep going on about what else was going on in their life… and when they express what they want, there are so many extra details that your brain can’t clearly figure what the point of all of this is?

How does that feel?? Exhausting? Confusing? Frustrating? Do you start tuning them out sometimes?

Too many words just overwhelm the man, and push him away.

You’ve made it over-complicated. He can’t hear what exactly you’re trying to communicate because you’ve said SO much, that your message was lost in the incessant chatter.

He feels frustrated. You feel unheard. And the resentment builds.

Stop talking and explaining so f***ing much.

LESS is more when it comes to expressing your needs and wants.

State simply how you are feeling, in feeling messages. “I feel disconnected, and I don’t want to feel that way.”

Then simply state what you WANT/NEED. “I want to feel more connected to you. It would feel amazing to spend more quality time with you when you’re able. What do you think?”

And that’s IT! Literally 3-4 sentences, MAX. If you’ve gone over 3-4 sentences, you’re over-explaining, and you’re mucking up the clear, straightforward message that you’re trying to communicate.

Keep it simple. Use as little words as possible to state your feelings, needs and wants… so that it’s abundantly clear for the man to hear!

DM me for more info on how to authentically express what your feeling and what you want from your man, AND bring him closer in the process🩵

Wow… Textbook narcissist and gaslighting🤯 What do y’all think??? Does this feel like gaslighting to anyone? Does anyone else get serious narcissistic vibes from the black boxes??

This person definitely said WAY too much, and I can feel her defending and over-explaining. It can be hard to stay present and stay in your feminine energy when someone is talking to you like this. You almost feel compelled to defend yours. How could you not?

While he definitely hit a trigger spot, and caused a bit of a reaction in her, I can see she tried to bring herself back, and not come from a place of anger. I noticed that there’s this NEED to call out his behavior and bring attention to a couple of things, so that he wouldn’t do the same thing to another woman.

Yet, that’s not her job. She should simply speak her truth, authentically communicate her feelings, and graciously wish him well and let him go.

Well, it certainly wasn’t very gracious, was it? 😂Sometimes we just feel compelled to convince someone of something who’s just never going to get it. Like, “Hey, I see something. And I care about you enough to point it out so you can see it too and maybe grow and do better with someone else.” And how does that work?? How long do we keep beating that horse? 🤔

Narcissists simply are unable and unwilling acknowledge the needs and feelings of others. They will deny your reality, concerns and feelings, and then turn it around on you, gaslight you, and contradict your reality with lies. They will try to invoke guilt to distract you from your original statement. They will call you crazy for speaking your truth, and make you feel like YOU did something wrong, like YOU are the problem.

It’s easy to want to try to “fix him,” and maybe point these things out and hope he sees it, because you want to believe that he’s a good person. You want to believe that if you point these things out, maybe he will realize it, and do better with other women…

Ladies, do yourself a favor… Just don’t. You jump in your masculine energy when you do that… Don’t waste your energy with these kinds of men. You will not win with them, and they will only drain you.

Graciously let them go, and wish them the best. And be grateful for the lessons that you learned. You can’t do anything about how other people are. You can’t fix or control anything or anyone except for YOURSELF… and how you respond in the present moment, and grow/learn from your experiences.