03/29/2026
I had one of the most gratifying client experiences of my life this week.
Last year, I started working with a client I met through a friend of a friend. We connected in that rare, meaningful way…where I can tell the truth and it’s received with depth. I loved working with her.
At 38, her past dating experiences had been deeply disappointing. I’ve seen discouragement before… but hers was unique.
I’m naturally a ray of sunshine, but it’s grounded in 20+ years of experience and research. Don’t shoot the messenger.
We got to a point in our work where she needed new photos before we could move forward. We scheduled the shoot! But, she canceled it the day before.
And then she disappeared.For 8 months, I heard nothing.
She still had sessions left, but wasn’t scheduling them. I reached out a couple of times to no response.
Then, nearly 9 months later, she popped back in.
She told me she had started dating someone from her past…and it was going well!
And… she wanted to talk about it with me.
We had that session this week. During our conversation, she poured out all these thoughts and feelings she’d had in our initial run.
She said the coaching had been really hard for her. That I had pointed out things about the future she didn’t want to see…things she wasn’t ready to face. She said I was loving… but the truth was uncomfortable.
So she stepped away. And wrestled with it.
Growth often feels like wrestling. If it was easy, everyone would do it all the time.
It stretches you. It disrupts you. It asks you to look at what you’ve been avoiding.
But if you stay with it…it changes everything. And everything is changing for her.
What felt really gratifying to me was that: She didn’t waste the work we’d done. She used it.
Every hard truth.Every uncomfortable realization. It all turned into personal architecting. And now… she’s building the thing she really always wanted.
The clients who resist the most, and are the hardest to work with because I feel mean, often become the ones who grow the most.
Enjoy some of her quotes from our session.