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Take Flight Coaching and Wellness I help women in toxic relationships take their power back and find confidence. http://www.marissami

You can love someone and be no-contact with them.You can know that no-contact is the best option for your emotional, men...
03/26/2021

You can love someone and be no-contact with them.

You can know that no-contact is the best option for your emotional, mental, spiritual, and/or physical well-being.

And it can still hurt terribly.

What’s good for you doesn’t always feel good. 💔

And sometimes being no-contact provides the most beautiful liberating, weight of the world on your shoulders lifted kind of feeling. 🙌

Which one are you? 💔 or 🙌? Tell me below! 🦋

Flying Monkeys are the people sent on missions for the narcissist.They are aware of the abuse, but remain supportive of ...
03/18/2021

Flying Monkeys are the people sent on missions for the narcissist.

They are aware of the abuse, but remain supportive of the narcissist…

A prime example of this is when a narcissistic parent sends a co-dependent sibling to pressure an adult child back into submission and relationship with them.

This may look like:
✔️An invitation to a family/holiday gathering,
✔️Stating that everyone is talking negatively about you,
✔️Sharing rumors of you being written out of the will and,
✔️Smear campaigns on social media.

The flying monkey is fully bought into the lies and abuse of the narcissist. Even though they will try to manipulate you into thinking they have your best interests in mind. (They do NOT).

Strong boundaries, including no-contact, will protect you from this on-going abuse.

Drop a 🐒 below if you have flying monkeys in your life!

The first time I tried to set boundaries was during my first marriage, and I failed terribly.I read a couple chapters in...
03/15/2021

The first time I tried to set boundaries was during my first marriage, and I failed terribly.

I read a couple chapters in a book and thought I wouldn’t have to deal with the poor treatment anymore.

I was so wrong.

Now, setting boundaries is one of my super powers! There is so much freedom in being able to communicate my needs and have

If you’ve never set boundaries:

1️⃣ Start by figuring out exactly how you want to be spoken to, treated, spend your time/finances, etc. Write it all down.

2️⃣ Evaluate your relationships to see if they support the above.

3️⃣ Make a list of the relationships that need boundaries.

4️⃣ Tie consequences to your boundaries.

5️⃣ Have the tough conversation.

6️⃣ Be ready to hold your boundaries against resistance.

Send me a DM if you want me to walk you through the process of setting boundaries with the people in your life (toxic or not).

Relationships with narcissists & toxic people are like a slow death of your spirit.Every passive aggressive jab,Every cr...
03/12/2021

Relationships with narcissists & toxic people are like a slow death of your spirit.

Every passive aggressive jab,

Every cruel word,

Every criticism,

Every time they gaslight you,

Every time they lash out at you,

Every time they devalue you,

They chip away at who you are.

It changes you and how you see the world.

If you are ready to heal from these toxic relationships, you’re going to have to step away from them.

Because you cannot heal while being continually cut open by their abuse.

Allow me to guide you toward the life and relationships that you deserve and desire.

Questions on what coaching with me looks like?

Send me a DM with any questions you have.

It’s time to fly.🦋

Have you had enough yet?Do you really want to continue the unhealthy and abusive cycle with the narcissist in your life?...
03/08/2021

Have you had enough yet?

Do you really want to continue the unhealthy and abusive cycle with the narcissist in your life?

You can gently step away, heal, and create a life you are not yet able to imagine.

I can’t promise you that it’s going to be rainbows and butterflies.

But I can promise that if you do the work, you can have a life filled with:

PEACE instead of tension,

LOVE instead of anguish,

JOY instead of mourning, and

INSPIRATION instead of discouragement.

What are you waiting for?

How many times have you wanted to access your inner Charlotte?💁🏻‍♀️You may not be able to confront the narcissist…so how...
03/06/2021

How many times have you wanted to access your inner Charlotte?💁🏻‍♀️

You may not be able to confront the narcissist…so how can you release these feelings?

1️⃣ Write down EVERYTHING that you aren’t able to say out loud. No judgment.

2️⃣ Go into your closet by yourself and “confront” the toxic person. What would you say if they would just listen to you?

3️⃣ Move your body to allow that energy flow out of you…what movement would feel good to you? Dance, walk, yoga, weight lifting…listen to your body.

How are you going to release the negative feelings toward the toxic people in your life or past? Tell me below. 👇

We (women) are conditioned to be pleasant at all times. Especially in toxic relationship!We change our appearances so me...
03/04/2021

We (women) are conditioned to be pleasant at all times. Especially in toxic relationship!

We change our appearances so men will find us desirable.

We subdue our personalities to keep our friends satisfied.

We mute our voices to keep our families comfortable.

We spend so much energy pretending, so that we will be chosen by someone who doesn’t want us as we truly are.

Let’s decide now, that we are worthy of showing up unfiltered in every area of our life.

And the people that fall away are just lightening the load and making room for the right people!

Raise your hand 🙋‍♀️ in the comments below if:
1)you’ve been carrying the dead weight of toxic relationships around &
2)you’re ready to see their rejection as a gift!

I knew in my gut that I was going to regret rushing into my first marriage.I listened to fear instead of my intuition.I ...
03/02/2021

I knew in my gut that I was going to regret rushing into my first marriage.

I listened to fear instead of my intuition.

I didn’t want to be alone.

It didn’t take long to realize being with the wrong person is much more lonely than actually being alone.

That was an incredibly painful lesson to learn the hard way.

Now, when I feel a nudge within me I know to stop, pay attention, and listen intently.

My intuition leads me.

It’s how God speaks to me and through me.

And He’s never wrong.

Drop a 🙋‍♀️ below if you need to start trusting your intuition.

Narcissists are notorious for over-the-top displays of affection aka love bombing.Love bombing can be used in different ...
02/23/2021

Narcissists are notorious for over-the-top displays of affection aka love bombing.

Love bombing can be used in different ways and for either a positive or negative purpose.

This may be a significant other, ex, or even a family member who is trying to get your attention and gain emotional control.

Once they receive the reaction they desire, they often disappear/ghost you.

Here are some methods of love bombing:

Luxury Trips
Lavish Gifts
Physical Affection
Love Notes
Flowers Delivered to Your Home & Workplace
Excessive Texts

If you have ever been love bombed drop ❤️💣 in the comments below!

Not everyone is going to understand why you don’t have a relationship with your family.Or why you left the guy who seeme...
02/11/2021

Not everyone is going to understand why you don’t have a relationship with your family.

Or why you left the guy who seemed perfect on the outside.

It won’t make sense to them.

Because their experience is different.

Or maybe they aren’t willing to make themselves a priority.

Know this…

It’s not your responsibility to make sure everyone understands your boundaries.

It’s not your job to make sure people are comfortable with your choices.

Your responsibility is to yourself.

To your future.

To your mental and emotional health.

If you were take inventory of ALL your relationships would there be more checks under healthy relationships or toxic rel...
02/03/2021

If you were take inventory of ALL your relationships would there be more checks under healthy relationships or toxic relationships?

Are you willing to do what it takes to create the healthy relationships you deserve?

And set the boundaries that are needed? 🙋‍♀️

I know it feels threatening to ask open ended questions like this after having toxic relationships.There is a huge diffe...
02/01/2021

I know it feels threatening to ask open ended questions like this after having toxic relationships.

There is a huge difference between healthy feedback and destructive criticism.

It takes courageous vulnerability to expand, deepen, and strengthen your relationship.

If you don’t have a healthy romantic partner at this time, try asking some of these q’s (or a version of them) with a trusted friend.

Raise your hand below if you are willing to push through the discomfort and get vulnerable?🙋‍♀️

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