09/10/2026
It's September and your kid doesn't look like the same player they were in July.
Nothing about their ability changed in six weeks.
Summer had no scoreboard. Nobody deciding who starts Friday. Now every rep is being watched — and that changes what they're playing for.
They stop playing to make something happen and start playing to not screw up.
You see it as tentative. A half-second late. Passing up the shot they'd take in practice all day.
Same kid. Different player.
And it's not just the coach. It's the question running in the back of their head all game — am I good enough? When that rides on every touch, of course they play tight.
Try this tonight.
Skip "how'd you play?" on the ride home. That asks them to grade themselves, and trust me, they grade hard.
Ask "did you try something new today?"
Now trying is the win, not the result. Do that for a couple weeks and watch what they start attempting in games.
This is the practice-to-game gap. More reps won't fix it.
Sound like your kid? Comment GAP and I'll tell you what's really going on.