08/19/2026
One of the hardest parts of healing is realizing that loving someone and carrying someone are not the same thing.
Sometimes the most loving thing we can do is return responsibility to its rightful owner.
People can feel hurt by accountability.
People can feel shame when no shame was intended.
People can feel criticized when someone is simply naming reality.
That distinction changed the way I understand relationships. Today's essay explores why.
https://bemojo.substack.com/p/when-love-stops-carrying-the-difference