Blueprint Life Design

We naturally pick up unhealthy relationship messages and models from family, friends, society and media. We don’t question these beliefs even though they keep us stuck, missing opportunities to grow and deepen connection.
Click on link below to learn the 3 common lies that create frustration, pain and unhealthy dependency along with 3 truths that can help make your marriage healthy and meaningful.

“Curious” is one of them.
There is a part of you, your core, your true Self, that is untouched by life’s traumas. This Self can be described by 4 words (click on link in bio). When we lead from this place, this true Self, our lives work. We get to be the people we want to be, create our right lives and build meaningful relationships. My coaching can help you remember who you really are and access your Self more often.

Happy Mother’s Day! See the link in my profile to read the letter I wrote to my three daughters and you!

We are dealing with two types of stress right now - the stressors of the Coronavirus and quarantine - and the stress we are holding in our bodies in response to these stressors. We are implementing planned problem solving - social distancing, hand washing- to manage the outside stressors. But we are likely ignoring the stress in our bodies. There are ways to send signals of safety to your nervous system right now even in the midst of stressors. I’ve described 3 tools in my blog (link to website below) and now have a bite size coaching program to help you release the stress you are holding tightly in your body.
I’d love to help you take care of you!

If there is one tool that I’m finding helpful right now, it’s this one. It can take me out of my mind where all of the chatter is created (“I’m not doing enough,” “We are going to run out of everything- food, money, energy”) and into my senses (where life is experienced in the present). In 10 seconds, this exercise can help you stay present and grounded even in the midst of an emotional storm. Try it at least 3 times a day or whenever an emotional storm hits.

If you are looking for ways to release the stress you’re holding tightly in your body (not just your mind), click the link below to learn about my Tightly Wound Woman program. Now is the perfect time to learn how to calm your nervous system.

How are you holding up? Are you feeling the stress in your body? Our nervous systems are releasing hormones that prepare us to fight or flee. If your body doesn’t recover from this state, the constant flow of stress hormones can cause wear and tear on your body, cause you to age more quickly and make you more prone to illness. You may notice muscle tension, digestive distress, difficulty sleeping and concentrating, irritability.
Before covid 19, I developed a coaching program to help release emotional and physical tension to calm the nervous system, increase energy and sense of safety and boost mood. I call it The Tightly Wound Woman program. We are more tightly wound and in need of these tools than ever! Find out more in link below

“This shouldn’t be happening!” How many times have we thought that lately?
It’s normal to think this when the world does not work according to the rules we have in our heads. It’s just not helpful. It’s resistance. Here is the first step toward freedom. Link below.

Do you tend to put others' needs before your own? Learn what may be under your people pleasing habit.

Is People Pleasing a Form of Avoidance? — blueprint life design Back in April, I described people pleasing as a control strategy - a way to manipulate people’s opinions of us, an attempt to gain approval and likability. But there is something deeper under people pleasing. What is the reason we want others to like and approve of us? Because others’ disli

Think that something shouldn't be happening? Or someone should be doing something or shouldn't be doing another thing? Find relief here.

This Shouldn't Be Happening This shouldn’t be happening. She shouldn’t…He should… How often do you think or say these thoughts? If you have a mind like mine, it is frequent. Every few minutes, life throws something at us that we don’t want – traffic, dirty dishes, a gray hair, a screaming child, an uncooperative pa...

Have you considered what's underneath people pleasing behavior? What looks like love or kindness may be fear or a desire to control. Learn more here...

Is People Pleasing a Control Strategy? Do you think of yourself as a people pleaser? Perhaps you have a hard time saying no, feel responsible for others’ feelings, avoid disagreement and conflict. You may find great discomfort in someone being angry at you or discomfort with negative feelings in general. Setting and keeping boundaries

My article " The Problem with Getting Your Hopes Up," is now on Medium!

The Problem with Getting Your Hopes Up What are you hoping for right now?

Looking for a quick tip to hop off of the anxiety train (even for a short break)? Check out my latest post.

The Future is Not Here Yet A young client of mine worries that her future self will never have what she desires - the house, the husband, the kids, the dog (you know, the things we think we need in order to have a good life). Another client worries that her 3-year-old’s intense tantrums mean that her son will have serious e...