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09/09/2026

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AITAH for eating dinner without my husband?

Me and my husband (f23 and m29) have been married a year and I am pregnant with our first child.

We also work extremely different working hours, with him being a typical 9-5 while I work around 3;30/4 am- around 1 pm. I own and am the pastry chef for my bakery. Because of this, I am obviously always home before my husband and do a lot more cooking and cleaning in our house because I have the time to do so.

That said, sometimes when my husband doesn't leave work until 5:30 and then has a 30 min commute that is inevitably made longer because of after work traffic, he doesn't get home until 6:30 or so. So, I usually eat dinner myself and wait around for him. This has become more common since being pregnant and being literally starving every day at 5 pm on the dot lol.

Well, my husband asked me to stop doing this and asked me to just wait for him so we could have dinner together. I told him I did not want to wait until 6:30 to eat so if he could make it a point to leave work on time, then yes. He swore he would.

Well he did not. I waited for him a few times, but I was so annoyed that I was literally having to wait on him all the time that I told him I was not doing it anymore, that I was eating at 5:30 and it was up to him to be sitting with me.

Well I was...

09/09/2026

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AITA for not inviting my “daughter” to my wedding?

I (37M) am getting married this fall and have made the choice to not invite my daughter Bella (16F) due circumstances I will explain in this post. Before people tell me that we should sit down and talk. Or do therapy. Those options have been exhausted and are no longer viable. Me and my ex wife Theresa (38F) do not have a good relationship. We started dating at 16 and then had Bella at 21. At first everything was awesome. But then my wife started hanging out with a group of women. Just not very good people. I refused to hangout with them. My wife started drinking heavily with this group and going out at night leaving me with our daughter. I didn’t like how she was keeping up our home either as I worked full time and she didn’t. The final straw was when I was forced to come along bar hopping. Theresa got embarrassingly drunk. Then started calling me a loser in front of everyone. This was not the first time she had publicly disrespected me. She had a habit of trying to show off to her friend by belittling me. I filed for divorce the next weekend. The original custody agreement was 50/50. Which then changed because I asked for a DNA test on Bella. I had heard rumors and wanted to confirm. My ex blew up and refused to allow a DNA test to be done. Solidifying what I expected. My ex went back and got pretty much full custody because I refused to pay child support without a DNA test. This has been...

09/08/2026

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AITA for forcing my stepdaughter to pay me back after she ruined my house?

AN UPDATE HAS BEEN POSTED I (43F) and my husband (47M) have been married for 4 years now. We both have children from our previous marriages, (12M) and (10M) and “O” (18F). My husband and I dated for 3 years prior to getting married but moved in all together 2 years ago. O lives with us full time and it had a bit of a rocky start with mine and O’s relationship but we managed to push through it. I told O from day one that I wasn’t her mom but if there was anything she wants to talk about or need, she can come to me. After a few months, we became quite close and she talked to me about anything she was too embarrassed to talk about with her dad. Recently, O has been trying to make friends at College since she just started in the spring. On campus residence is very expensive for the college and its close to our house so O decided to stay at home. That’s not a problem, the problem is that O keeps bringing her friends over to hangout but living it a mess. Normally it’s not a major deal (I have OCD so sometimes there is issues depending on the situation though) because she picks up after herself but I recently hired a housekeeper to clean the house once a week since I’ve been working overtime more often and me and my husband just don’t have time. It is expensive but I cannot stand it when it becomes too messy for me so I think it’s worth it. This...

09/08/2026

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AITA for being rude to a girl who had my water bottle?

Throwaway since my account is followed by people I know, and people from my college and I don’t want to make a whole deal out of this.

I (F20’s) am a senior in college. I carry a water bottle everywhere with me, that is very recognizably mine, and that I have stickers on. Also, my name is on the bottom. About a week ago, I forgot it in one of the cubbies in our college gym (many people leave stuff in the cubbies long term, so it’s not like this was a bad thing), and when I realized a few hours later and went to get it, it was gone. I was pretty bummed. But I figured it was my fault, I’d left it, and someone had stolen it.

Today, I was walking into the library, and I saw my water bottle, sitting on a table! I went to go grab it, but when I picked it up, a girl sitting at the table said, “hey! That’s my water bottle!” I said no, it isn’t, I accidentally left it at the gym a week ago. It was mine. She tried to grab it back from me, told me I was stealing her water bottle, and that she would call the campus police on me. She had a few friends with her at the table, who were getting annoyed as well. It was at this point that I got pi**ed. I asked her where she’d gotten the bottle from, she said off of Amazon. So, I tilted the bottom towards her, and said, “Then why does it...

09/08/2026

AITAH for asking my parents not to leave me any money in their will.

My parents are only on their late sixties. Hopefully they have many many years left. Last year they called me siblings and I to talk about their will. They want to spread everything evenly. I don't think this is fair.

Firstly they are still alive and active. They need to take care of themselves first.

Secondly I don't need their money. I am a pipeline welder. I have more money than I will ever need. Not bragging. I have worked hard d for every cent. If you think it's easy why doesn't everyone do it?

Thirdly my brother and sister are greedy as****es. Let them have whatever is left after our parents are done with it.

I said that nicer though. I also said I want some sentimental stuff they have. My grandpa's rodeo buckles, and Stetson. My mom's recipe book. A copy of the family photo albums. Even just scans are fine. That sort of stuff. I will come clean here and say the buckles are silver and gold. They are also collectors items. But I want to display them not sell them.

My brother and sister think I'm playing some sort of reverse psychology game on my parents. My parents seem offended that I don't want their money. I'm lost. I thought being honest was a good thing.

09/08/2026

AITAH for going out drinking with a male friend even though I am in a committed relationship?

27F 29M BF/GF

I (27F) am in a committed relationship. Last night, I went out to dinner and had drinks until the bar closed down with a male friend who was visiting out of town. Nothing happened beyond just enjoying ourselves with catching up on each others lives. I’ve never been romantic with this individual, we’re just good friends.

My BF (29M) didn’t join and I never asked him to join because he doesn’t know this person. I got home past 2 am and he didn’t like that I went out on a “date”. Began to explain to me that if things were flipped, I would entirely have a cow over it. And I admit that I didn’t like him going to a platonic lunch with a girl he slept with prior to our relationship, but remained friends with. He was open about seeing her for lunch and catching up. He says he doesn’t have a problem with me going out to dinner, but said I could have caught up by just having dinner and come straight home and this extended alone time wasn’t appropriate regardless whether it was also a platonic date. He says guys don’t go out with pretty girls unless they have a s__ual interest in them and this friend was probably interested in more than just catching up.

Should I feel guilty over this or is he just being a bit extra?

Clarification: we met late at 10pm and stayed til 2 am. It was a late dinner. We also lost track of time playing mobile games because that’s what...

09/07/2026

AITA for telling my MIL she can never visit us or my SIL again?

My SIL Alice is a single mom she had her first child at 16 and her second by 19. Alice lived with her parents but was often mistreated by my MIL Pat.

My MIL is a mean petty women. She wore a light beige dress to my wedding and anything I do isn’t good enough. My grandmother died and I inherited a double condo town house. My husband and I moved into one and the tenants next to us moved out about 6 months ago.

Alice was having a hard time so I told my Hubby if she could keep it nice she could move in. Alice is working part time and going to orthodontics assistant schooling. She’s not a troubled person that my MIL makes her out to be. In 6 months she hasn’t been a problem and the boys are now 7 and 4 so not bad children just boys. They remind me of my cousins.

My MIL was visiting Alice and the 7 year old was outside playing and knocking over a planter on my side. Not a big deal.

My MIL screamed at him and called him a little “N” word because he’s a mixed child. I was so angry at her. I told my MIL to leave the property and not come back to visit ever. My SIL was shock but cried saying her mom often spoke to the 7 year old like that.

I told my hubby and he thinks we overreacted to his mom and his mom just isn’t used to children playing rough because they...

09/07/2026

AITA for letting my oldest daughter take my youngest daughter's dog when she moves?

My husband and I have 3 daughters, Phoebe (21), Maddie (18), and Lily (16). My husband spoils Lily. We've fought over it many times but he still does it. The example relevant to this story is that Lily wanted a dog in April of 2020. Phoebe and I didn't want a dog, Maddie couldn't care less. Beginning of July 2020, my husband came home with a little pomchi puppy, Charlie. Lily adored Charlie and took great care of him for around 3 months. Then she decided dogs are too much work and she wanted a cat. We had a cat, Duncan, by Christmas. Then Charlie couldn't sleep in Lily's room because Duncan was sleeping there. Lily stopped walking Charlie because Duncan doesn't like to be alone and she stopped playing with him. Phoebe became attached and let Charlie sleep on her bed, she started taking him on his walks, she cooks for him, buys him new treats and toys, and handles all of his vet and grooming appointments. Hell, she even takes Charlie to work with her at least once a week. Phoebe just graduated and is planning on moving out. She planned on staying near us because she wanted to be near Charlie but we live in a HCOL area and she'd struggle here so I told her she can take Charlie. She came to me the other day and said she found the perfect apartment for her and Charlie. It has a low pet rent, there's a back patio connected to what would be her apartment, the building has it's own dog park, and her friend...

09/07/2026

WIBTA if I moved out because my mom wants another baby and marriage?

I (15f) told my mom and family that if my mom has another baby I will move out and go live with my dad. My mom already has 7 kids. I’ve been basically helping raise them since I was 7 due to absent fathers for most of them. I love my siblings to death but another one would drive me crazy. the youngest just turned 1. About 2-3 months ago my mom came home bringing a guy from the inner city with her. He’s my aunts child’s father. My moms sister. While I want my mom to be happy it makes me feel really weird and sad for my younger cousin. it is an understatement to say that her side of the family is angry. Not even a week after her bringing him home she tells me they plan to get married very soon. I told her that If she had another one I will leave. She thought I was joking. About a month ago she found out she was pregnant but miss carried. After that she says she feel’s something missing and that they’re gonna try for another one. The fact that she is trying to have one after nit even fully raising the ones she already had kind of angers me. I wouldn’t treat that child as if they were my sibling and I feel bad for saying that bc it’s not their fault but I wouldn’t. She thinks she’s pregnant again and I’m still dead set on leaving. Would I be the a***e?

UPDATE: my sister came to pick me up yesterday morning and...

09/07/2026

AITA for kicking my son out of the car?

It’s very effective. She and my Dad are in assisted living. He’s 90, and she will be this summer. Usually she will call me in a week or two and tell me sincerely how much she misses me. I’ll show up with some new magazines or other treat. She can’t even walk anymore. Most of the time she is pretty sweet and she has suffered a few minor strokes that can affect her behavior. I’ve forgiven her bad behavior and abuse because I Don’t want it to make me bitter, which is a form of imprisonment. I just treat her kindly like the impaired little child she has become. I’ve become my own healthy Mom and have other healthy Mom surrogates in my life. I know she loves me in her own disordered way and I am willing to accept that. (She kept trying to get me to try her Chicken a la King the other night when I pulled up an extra chair to their table in the dining room of the facility. She was holding up bites in front of my face like I was a small child. Who knows what was going on in her mind? A flashback to my childhood? It made her happy for me to eat a few bites because I had told her I skipped dinner. And it WAS delicious, I have to say. These are all gestures of love that come from a good place inside of her. I want whatever time she has left to be happy and peaceful for her. It’s something easy I can do.

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