08/17/2026
Understanding the Skill Gap with Difficult Behaviours
Rather than viewing difficult moments as intentional defiance, clinical child psychology frames them as a clash between environmental expectations and a child's current executive functioning capacities. Some research highlights several core skill areas that directly impact how a child navigates daily demands such as:
• Emotional regulation – the ability to process frustration before responding.
• Flexible thinking – adapting when plans change unexpectedly.
• Impulse control – pausing before reacting to internal or external triggers.
When a situation requires more regulatory skill than a child’s brain has developed so far, distress naturally emerges. Recognising this reduces shame and self-blame for both the child and the parent. Problems are simply signposts showing us where a child needs quiet support and skill-building.
References:
Greene, R. W. (2014). The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children. Harper Paperbacks.
Moffitt, T. E., et al. (2011). A gradient of childhood self-control predicts health, wealth, and public safety. Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, 108 (7), 2693–2698.
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