Angela Wetzel- Love Coach

Valetine’s Day is about celebrating love: the love we have, the love that’s on its way, the love we desire…

Manifestation isn’t really a woo-woo thing —it’s just how we hone in on a desire, take actions + prepare ourselves for what we want so we can receive it.

Some things are really easy to manifest, like good burritos (if you live in Texas, then very easy). You notice a desire for a burrito, you happen to get inspiration for a good burrito place or someone recommends a good spot, you order it + expect it to be good and guess what? It is. Easy. Yummy.

But what about something like a relationship? Especially when what you saw growing up was not good relationships. In fact, they may have been very chaotic, unsafe and hurtful relationships.

But your experience of those painful relationships made it very clear you wanted a healthy, happy, safe relationship.

But like a burrito, you don’t actually know if a good, healthy relationship is even possible. You’ve never seen it personally. Maybe your friends tell you all relationships are going to involve cheating or toxicity…

What then? If you believe your life experience or that of your friends, you may feel disempowered and never try to work towards what you want.

Or you may notice that you attract unhealthy relationships over and over again so you assume that’s just how it is.

But a part of you knows that there has to be a better way, and that is willing to hope and have faith that there is.

You have to be willing to let go of your victimization story in order to have what you want.

You have to focus on what it is that you want and have the audacity to move toward it and take the practical steps to have it.

It’s not some magical thing. It takes your participation, it takes your involvement and it takes your commitment.

You can do this. You can have what you want. You deserve to create the kind of love you want to see and experience in this world.

I help high-achievers and purpose-driven people heal their unresolved relationship and blocks to love so they can experience deeply satisfying relationships.

Have you ever felt trapped in a relationship that you couldn’t figure out?

Circling and searching and wondering and doubting?

If you have, there’s nothing wrong you with and even if you’re an intelligent person, know this doesn’t have to do with your IQ.

This is dealing with your EQ — your emotional intelligence and mastery.

Confusing love isn’t confusing because it’s something that should be straightforward…it’s not. It’s complex, it’s layered, there are many things to consider and they all converge into this Gordian knot.

It’s confusing because it’s kryptonite to your own patterns and you’re lost in the maze.

What most people try to do is:

1) Fumble around in the dark — this looks like hopping from one thing to the next looking for quick relief.

2) Find a manual, or 70 that they hope they can read in said dark maze to try to exit it.

3) Talk to the other people also lost in the maze to try to get directions from them.

None of these work (quickly anyway…you may find your way out in a decade).

Wouldn’t it be better to follow a guide who’s got a lantern and knows the labyrinth like the back of their hand?

Your next level will require you to sacrifice your idea of who you are and how you think this will work.

If you’re interested in learning more about what the way out looks like, I’d love to light your way.

I help high-achievers and purpose-driven people uncover their unconscious blocks, illuminate their blindspots and heal their attachment styles so they can finally have the deeply satisfying relationships they truly desire.

DM me ACTION for a complimentary Thrive in Love Secure Attachment Strategy Session to discover how this can work for you and get you out of the maze and seeing results.

Ever tried to play Captain Save-a-Ho?

Have you ever tried to change someone else to get the love you needed?

Have you ever struggled to put yourself first?

Showing up and doing the work even when you don’t always know what the reward will be at the end of the line is also a flex.

When we’re not in alignment with our truth and self, we’re in codependence.

That’s a victim mindset — whether you’re the fixer, the victim or the persecutor (each one believes in the b.s. of their own or others powerlessness and is convinced they are justified).

It takes being uncomfortable to tell the truth and stand in your integrity.

People are magnetized by confidegce, but that doesn’t matter nearly as much as you being confident in you.

Grounded in you.

In love with you.

And the life you’re creating.

If you like help mastering any of the above, let’s chat.

My speciality is helping others break out of their blindspots and patterns so they can take back their power and level up.

It’s time for there to be more love, more fun, more ease, more joy, more passion in your life and relationships.

I help high-achievers and purpose-driven people heal their attachment styles, unconscious blocks to love and unresolved patterns so they can finally experience the deeply satisfying relationships they truly desire.

Do you get frustrated with, irritated by or overwhelmed by your emotions? ⁣
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We’re taught as children how to relate to ourselves and our emotions. When we don’t have emotionally mature parents, but instead those that can’t or don’t respond well to emotions, we can internalize it without questioning it. ⁣
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We can very easily repeat the same emotional alienation within ourselves that we felt at home…then we wonder why we feel so alone, so anxious, so depressed. It’s because we have so many emotional messages trying to make their way to our conscious mind to be heard, held and expressed, but we’re literally ignoring them, punishing them or silencing them. ⁣
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Healing our relationship to our emotions is what heals our inner relationships…it’s how we create healthy relationships with others. ⁣
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This life is an emotional journey…but just because you feel unskilled doesn’t mean you’re destined to be alone with your pain. Holding and navigating your emotions is a learnable skill set. ⁣
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You can learn this just like you learned any other thing you’ve invested your time and energy into master. ⁣
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I help high achievers and purpose-driven people heal their attachment style so they can experience deeply satisfying relationships. ⁣
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Familiar with the anxious-avoidant tango?💃🕺🪩💔

There are so many unconscious things at play in relationships, especially the more trauma-bonded and wounding you feel coming up around them. ⁣
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When we have deep wounds, they act like magnets attracting to them and causing us to be attracted to similar or complementary wounds (think of jagged puzzle pieces that fit together or two porcupines hugging) in others. ⁣
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The tricky part is, it’s addictive, juicy…the attraction, the spice is all there. The highs are highs and the lows are lows. ⁣
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You can know you have this kinda thing happening when you see yourself playing both roles in relationships and/or flip-flopping back and forth within the same relationship. ⁣
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The good news is, the pain is highlighting where the light needs to be let in, the pain is a guidepost pointing to where we need healing. ⁣
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Healing is possible. You can have satisfying relationships, you can experience deep love, being seen, heard and held. ⁣

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I help people heal their attachment style (and unconscious blocks to love) so they can attract deeply satisfying relationships.

Community coming soon 🙌🥳 comment or DM ‘Connect’ for more details. 💕

If changing your relationships, attractions or healing your attachment style has been a challenge…

Consider that you may have more going on than you originally anticipated.

Your attachment style may be more complex than you initially thought because you may have been identifying with only one aspect of your attachment style.

You may also have accidentally taken for granted the amount of impact your childhood has actually had on your nervous system…

Which means, you’d make a lot of sense.

There’s a good 31 some odd psychological coping strategies that help us to survive childhood but don’t necessarily help us understand what we went through.

You may have disorganized or a fearful avoidant attachment style and not know it.

You might have realized if you’ve ever had partners that pursued you before and you weren’t as into them and then you flipped into chasing and pursuing or vice versa.

The good news is your attachment style has the same qualities of neuroplasticity. This means, you can change your attachment behaviors you can change your attractions and how you bond to people.

Thank goodness, it’s not rocket science 🚀… it’s neuroscience ✨🧠🤓✨ You can heal and change.

When you change your inner relationship, what you attract and opt into in your relationships changes.

I help purpose-driven, big-hearted people heal their relationship wounds, so they can finally attract deeply satisfying soulmate love.

Luck is simply opportunity meeting preparation. When you know what healthy love looks like and feels like and you can hold those standards…guess what kind of relationships you find yourself in? ❤️❤️❤️

It’s been a long journey and process but I have a community coming soon where we heal attachment through weekly coaching, a book club (ACOTAR anyone?) where we can dive into all the relationships from an attachment and spiritual lens and with free courses and a resource library.

Want to know when it opens? Just comment or DM ‘Open House’ and I’ll make sure you’re notified 🤓🫶

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P.S. I specialize in helping high achievers and purpose driven people heal their attachment styles, unconscious blocks to love and energy leaks so they can experience deeply satisfying relationships and more passion and joy in life.

If you’re interested in the above, doing so affordably and with friends, comment or DM ‘doggy’ 🐶 and I’ll alert you first about upcoming free events and goodies.

What does that change look like?

“Ok, I can accept your apology…that you didn’t intend to do that or mean to do that, but before we just move on and continue on with business as usual…I need to step back.

See, I’m no longer just accepting apologies or talking about things as the change that I need.

I need to know specifically what you plan on changing.

I need to know how things will be different.

I need to know what that will actually look like in real life.

And I need to understand what you will no longer do and what you will start doing.

I might also need something in writing so that we can make sure we’re on the same page.

No more blind trust, no more “I think we said, or I misunderstood…” we’re going to get uncomfortably clear. Detailed.

Because I’m not going backwards. This, I’m not going to tolerate this anymore, and while I’m not looking for perfection, I’m looking for accountability.

I need to know how you plan to do this.

When you will do it.

And what the process will be.

I need to see you take action. I need to see consistency. I need accountability.

Without which, you will not have full access to me. I can only commit to someone as much as they’re committed to being healthy and fully willing and able to be reciprocal.

And it’s okay if that’s not what you want, who you are or who you want to become. I will wish you well and be grateful for the lessons we learned together.

Above all, I’m the main protector, lover and keeper of ME. I am my main responsibility and I will let no one treat me less than the beautiful being that I am.

I deserve love and I am beginning to show it to myself by setting these boundaries and creating clear consequences and being accountable to myself.”

This is what self love looks like.

If you’re interested in stepping back into your power in love, healing your attachment and resolving blocks and old painful patterns so you can experience deep satisfaction in your relationships, DM or comment ‘ELC’ so I can notify you about my upcoming community and free events.

It took me nearly going blind in one eye and getting dumped without warning to realize that I may not have been feeling my feelings like I thought.

You see, I was very emotional. I could feel my feelings…”what did people mean anyway when they said to ‘feel your feelings’?” 🤔 I could feel them alright.

It was confusing because emotions were my profession; I’d been an actor since age six. I loved emotions, I loved analyzing characters and studying all the dynamics. What was the subtext? What was the character’s motivation? What was their back-story?

But what I failed to recognize was that while I was good at seeing and understanding other’s emotions, regularly practicing with them, I wasn’t really attuned, fully processing or holding space for my feelings.

In some cases, I began to realize that it would take me up to two weeks to know what I was feeling.

I got better. The first layer was to really spend time with my feelings to and continue to check into my body again, and again. This is an ongoing practice.

The second layer came as an aha moment. Understanding how to be with my feelings instead of just in them. This is another one of those life long practices.

If you notice that you’re feeling stuck in certain kinds of relationships, if you notice repeating patterns that aren’t healing, if you’ve tried all the things, and you don’t know what else to do, consider that all the work that you have been doing has been leading you to this moment, where it’s time to go deeper.

You’ve mastered the intellectual. You are smart. You know so much about healing. I invite you to further consider that this isn’t an intellectual problem. If it was, you would have figured it out already.

This is an emotional “problem” and I’m using quotes because it’s not exactly a problem, it’s a conditioned perspective. It’s an old paradigm and in order to shift, you need to step into a new one.

Click on the link in my bio to learn more.

Anxious but learned to hide it? Anxious but learned to care less? Show less?

Counterdependent is another way of saying it.

Want to heal your counter-dependence, anxious, avoidant, disorganized or fearful avoidant behaviors?

Got unconscious trauma-driven behaviors sabotaging your relationships and life?

It’s possible to heal this inauthentic behavior so you can discover the real you and let yourself be loved for who you truly are. Not the games you learned to play.

If you’d like to heal your attachment style and unconscious blocks to love, so that you can be ready for the right kind of relationship, I’d love to offer you a complimentary Thrive in Love secure attachment strategy session with me.

DM me REAL 💕

This work is deeply transformative and it’s exciting.

I would love to meet with you and see if this is the next aligned step for you on your healing journey.

I help high-achievers and purpose-driven people heal their unconscious blocks to love and their attachment style so they can finally experience the deeply satisfying relationships they truly desire.

I hope this finds you and helps you to remover who you are.

That deep down inside, though the world is in chaos, your connect and strength can be found in your connection to the Source that never changes.

That loves you unconditionally.

Knows where you are.

Knows your heart and what you want.

Knows every place of pain, fracture and despair, but also the things that light you up.

I hope it helps you to remember the power you have inside of you and your reason to keep going.

Sending you love.

You are not alone.