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The World Needs Our Attention .... It is Time to Unite the Human Race.

In our world there is always someone in need of our best efforts to rally a group of helpers and healers. We humans have a knack for coming together and rising up to our potential in the face of a tragedy. Natural disasters and acts of violence bring us out of our small selves and into the world, ready to lend a hand to those in need.

This experience is often life-changing for those who are willing to step into the position of helper. We feel as if we are finally doing something really important, and this leads us to feeling more self-actualized. We feel more connected to the people we are helping, as well as more connected to humanity in general.

As we expand beyond the boundaries of our individualistic pursuit of happiness there can be a complete reality shift. We often find that it is much easier to be happy when we are motivated in an effort to make the world better in tangible ways.

Considering the many benefits of serving people in need; we don’t have to wait for a tragedy to come together, as a family, as a community or a nation, and offer ourselves in service. Sometimes it’s easier, of course, to respond to an event that has just happened rather than to ongoing problems like homelessness, poverty, and illness. But the truth of this world is that there is always someone in need of our best efforts to rally a group of helpers and healers.

The more we promote, applaud, and actively inspire humanitarian efforts in the world, the more others will be drawn to this kind of work. The more attention we pay, the more we will inspire others and ourselves to be of service in a world that greatly needs our attention .....love and light, Christina

Creating a Balance of Strength, Healing and Love

Our life force energy brings to us the power of light by which we “see” the spiritual truths. This light embodies strength, healing and love. It is incorporated in our field of energy as the light that shines from within and is the light by which we live in the physical world and see in the spiritual realm. This light allows us to have a deep abiding bond to the nature of all that exists.

Calling in this light force energy and balancing this light allows us to focus on abundance, health, unconditional love, pleasure and ease. We will need to develop these qualities within ourselves by keeping our life force energy balanced between a good work ethic and giving ourselves permission for delight and pleasure.

Health is vitality and resilience and comes from our life force energy. Health means we have regenerative ability and can create reserves of this energy for times of challenge. Being healthy requires a willingness to move and live the life of the body. Learning to love the body, just exactly as it is, this is the gift of a healthy and loving mind and heart.

Our levels of unconditional love, brings healing to everything we do and is behind every experience we have. Our ability to love our self, forgive the past and honor our needs defines who we are. It is through unconditional love for ourselves that we bring in the life force energy and the forces of healing into our lives. It implies we love ourselves without reserve or doubt.

Ease and pleasure fuel our well-being; by providing joy, and both are essential components for a healthy physical life. They are the ways we relax, let our hair down and have fun. We might want to see them as not an end in themselves but rewards for hard work and responsibility. Living your best life requires finding the middle ground; the balance of self-love and discipline.

Prosperity and abundance reflect a belief in our innate worth to be loved, blessed and fully supported in life. Spiritual teaching says money and love come from the all that is. Allowing prosperity to come into your life reflects a belief that you are worthy of receiving your good. Abundance reflects your right to pleasure and joy while living your best life.

It takes both will power and emotional intelligence to create our best life. May we all live with healthy guidelines that encourage us, ones that support ourselves and support our spirit and may we all realize that gentleness, tenderness and love are the attributes we need to create and enjoy the fruits of life. …Love and light Christina

Be Driven to Discover, Explore and Change

Constraints that might otherwise have limited our learning potential may mean little to us today as we explore our environment. Because the media reports we get from around the globe are likely to inspire curious and controversial moods, we may find our self drawn to subject matter that is quite disturbing.

If we feel we should avoid such topics, consider that our ability to expand our personal boundaries may hinge on our willingness to reach beyond the borders of our comfort zone. Allow that which intrigues us to be our guide. We likely will not agree with every piece of information we encounter, but our overall view of the world can change as a result of our willingness to think critically about it.

The strength of our curiosity will help us to overcome the misgivings we frequently experience when we encounter beliefs and opinions that differ markedly from our own. Concepts that we never knew existed can frighten us because they challenge the individual worldviews we have established.

However, when we look past the discomfort we initially feel and allow our general love of knowledge and learning to guide us forward, we find that we can explore even the most controversial topics with a clear head and an open heart. Though we may not choose to integrate the information we unearth into our own value systems, we can nonetheless explore the worth of such knowledge within the context in which it has proven significant.

We can encourage our self not to hesitate to expose our self to unconventional opinions and beliefs, however difficult they may be for us to grasp. Living life from a place of “the wonder of uncertainty” is a stepping stone on the path to change.

Everyone has their own path. Walk yours with integrity and wish all others peace on their journey. When your paths merge, rejoice for their presence in your life. When the paths are separated, return to the wholeness of yourself, give thanks for the footprints left on your soul, and embrace the time to journey on your own... Love and light, Christina

Thank you for being one of the passengers on my train.

At birth, we boarded the train of life and met our parents,
and we believed that they would always travel by our side.
However, at some station, our parents would step down from the train, leaving us on life's journey alone.

As time goes by, some significant people will board the train:
siblings, other children, friends, and even the love of our life. Many will step down and leave a permanent vacuum. Others will go so unnoticed that we won't realize that they vacated their seats! This train ride has been a mixture of joy, sorrow, fantasy, expectations, hellos, goodbyes, and farewells.

A successful journey consists of having a good relationship with all passengers, requiring that we give the best of ourselves. The mystery that prevails is that we do not know at which station we ourselves will step down. Thus, we must try to travel along the track of life in the best possible way - loving, forgiving, giving, and sharing.

When the time comes for us to step down and leave our seat empty - we should leave behind beautiful memories for
those who continue to travel on the train of life. Let’s remember to thank our Creator for giving us life to participate in this journey. Love and Light, Christina

A prayer for Peace on Earth ... by Paramahansa Yogananda

“Heavenly Father, Mother, Friend, Beloved God! May Thy love shine forever on the sanctuary of my devotion, and may I be able to awaken Thy love in all hearts.”

Close your eyes and concentrate deeply at the center of divine consciousness between the eyebrows. Feel the infinite love of God within your heart. Let your heart emanate that love for all the world. Pray deeply that the clouds of war fade away. Let us with all our hearts pray to God that His heavenly forces of goodness and love, ever subtly vibrating in the ether, be not overpowered in the hearts and minds of men by Satan’s suggestions of discord and enmity. For the forces of evil are aggressive, while the forces of good are humble and unassuming.

“Heavenly Father, bless our brothers and sisters living under the dark clouds of war, that they may be relieved from the obses­sion of Satan’s ignorance and hatred; and may Thine unassuming power of unifying love and peace conquer the aggressive forces of evil. We send out our deepest love for all, that they may receive Thy light of brotherhood and understanding, and be thereby guided to stop destroying each other and creating vibrations of evil that bring the mass karma of depression, catastrophe, and destruction all over the world.”

Feel that your love is going forth like an invisible X-ray, coursing through space into the hearts of the dictators and prime ministers and heads of all nations, that they may bring peace and international prosperity on earth instead of destruction. Include in the powerful radiation of your love all peoples of the world. May our united healing rays of love be surcharged by the infinite love of our Father and bathe the entire earth, permeating the hearts of all leaders and citizens of the world, that they may be filled with the universal amity and harmony of Spirit—bringing peace on earth, goodwill toward all, under the Fatherhood of God.

“Heavenly Father, bless the nations of the earth, our own large family, that all may realize their eternal kinship as Thy children. Thou art our one spiritual Father, the Beloved of the Universe and the Beloved of our hearts. May the strong thoughts of love we broadcast today possess the brains of the dictators and generals, that they may be filled with Thy wisdom, and so desist from working toward the common ruin of humanity. Bless them all. Bless all citizens of the earth, that they may establish a cooperative unity among all souls, and live in a united world with Thy power and light of love guiding us to Thy kingdom.”
Aum. Peace. Amen.

Now Is the Time ……. “WE Bloom Where We Are Planted”

The time to blossom is now, not sometime in the future. Having a vision for our future that differs from our current circumstances can be inspiring and exciting. There are no guarantees in this life, so when we hold back we do so at the risk of never fully blossoming.

This present moment always offers us the ground in which we can take root and open our hearts now. What this means is that we live fully, wherever we are, not hesitating because conditions are not perfect, or we might end up taking on too much, or we haven’t found the time. But this notion that we have to hold back our life force now in order to find happiness later doesn't really make sense. What might really be happening is that we have a habit of presenting life with a set of conditions—ifs and when’s that must be fulfilled before we will say yes to the gift of our lives.

Now is the time for each of us to bloom where we are planted, overriding our tendency to hold back. Now is the time to say yes, to be brave and commit fully to ourselves, because until we do no one else will. Now is the time to be vulnerable, unfolding delicately yet fully into the space in which we find ourselves.......Love and Light, Christina

Light is Who We Are, Love is How We Share it....

We all desire to be loved - and if possible - unconditionally. We need to feel that others accept us, respect us, admire us and love us. When we feel that others do not love or respect us, we feel pain, rejection, loss of self-esteem and even insecure and fearful - in other words - unhappy.

Deep down inside in the core of our being, we equally need to feel love for others. When we do not experience love for others, we do not feel connected to them. We feel separate, lonely, alienated and sometimes fearful.

Love aligns us with our higher self. Love may begin as a feeling of attraction, but eventually becomes a state of identification and unity. On the emotional level it is the basis for positive and healthy energy exchange between humans and beings of all types. When are loved or feel love, we experience an energy connection that relaxes, rejuvenates, affirms and heals us allowing us greater access to our true spiritual and magnificent inner being.

Love brings out the greatest and highest aspects of our being. It breeds compassion, understanding, forgiveness, selflessness, courage, healthy love-based-sacrifice and ultimately transcendence of our mental and emotional limitations, allowing us to overcome programming’s and fear. Ultimately, love frees us from ignorance and allows us to experience our true spiritual self.

The opposite of love is not anger nor hate, but rather ignorance and fear. If we examine the moments that we lose our love, we will find that we are being controlled by attachment and fear.
Why does love have this effect on us? One explanation is that, in reality, we are not these bodies but actually immortal souls who temporarily identify with these bodies in order to develop and perfect our ability to express our divine nature while focused in and expressing ourselves through these bodies. Our true nature is in fact love, peace, wisdom, selflessness and all other higher human qualities.

We consider the values important and absolute, because in fact they are our true inner nature. We seek to experience love, because we are reminded of our true inner nature which is love. We seek peace and do not like the opposite of peace, because we are actually peace - within. We consider justice and equality to be absolute values because they express our highest nature which is already a reality in the core of our being, but not yet a reality in our mind, words, emotions and actions.

We seek love, peace, justice, and unity, because we are in fact all of these. We seek ourselves. Thus love is not something to be exercised but rather released from within. We do not learn to love, but rather remember to love. We do not need to try to love, but simply need to remove the fear, attachment and ignorance that prevent us from experiencing the love that is already there within us.

Perceiving love in this way, allows us to free ourselves from the feelings of pride or guilt when we are able or unable to love. We are no more worthy nor more loved by the Divine when we love, than when we do not love. It is not a matter of good or bad, but rather a matter of ignorance and wisdom, a matter of bo***ge in fear and programming or freedom from false perception and fear.

Real freedom has nothing to do with being able to do whatever we want in every moment so that we can have what we want to be happy. Real freedom is not to make others do what we want them to do in order to satisfy our needs. Real freedom is the freedom to be happy and feel love regardless of whatever happens and whatever others might do.

How can we Describe Love? To define love would be to confine it. As with the wind, we cannot see it, but we can perceive its results. What are some of those attributes or indications of love? Loving ourselves is a prerequisite to loving others.

Here is what I consider 15 Aspects of Love:
1. One aspect of love is that we feel joy, peace, and gratitude simply when we think of or come into contact with the ones we love. Their presence brings us happiness. In the earlier stages of our spiritual development this usually occurs when others behave in ways that satisfy our needs. As we evolve, our love is purer and independent of what they do.

2. Love and understanding augment each other. Understanding enables love to be stable even when others cannot be as perfect as we would like them to be. Loving allows us to have greater understanding and patience towards those we love.

3. When we love, we respect the others, their needs, fears, weakness, strengths, virtues and qualities.

4. Sacrifice out of love is totally different from fear-based sacrifice, in which we give up needs or rights out of fear of conflict or rejection, or of spoiling our image as a "good person". When we sacrifice with love, we are making a conscious choice to let go of something we need, in order to help others. There is no pain, we do not expect something back; we keep no records or balances. We forget it immediately. The experience of love is our reward, and we need no other.

5. Although love is an inner state, it frequently needs to be expressed in action. We cannot imagine loving someone and not helping them when they are need. Expressing love with action sometimes means sensing what others need even when they do not have the ability to express themselves.

6. Love allows truth. Love demands truth and integrity. When others do not tell us the truth, we usually feel that they do not love us. When we love others, we will natural want to be truthful with them.

7. The same goes for keeping agreements. When others do not respect their agreements with us, we naturally feel that they do not love us. We cannot perfect our love for others until we keep our word with them.

8. Love creates a feeling of unity and peace. Our tensions are based on the illusion of our separateness and our inability to be natural and relaxed with another. Love breaks down those feelings and we find ourselves sharing and expressing aspects of ourselves that we fear letting others see. It is important for us to be able to share all aspects of ourselves with at least one other person. This allows us to feel both worthy and secure.

9. When we love others we want their health, happiness and success. We are happy about their progress and success in life. We feel no jealousy or pain even when they surpass us. We encourage them to proceed and blossom in their lives rather than competing or obstructing them.

10. We want the others to be happy in the ways they themselves are guided. True love does not fear when others find happiness or life solutions through others, rather than through us. We do not need to be source of their happiness or progress. We simply want them to be well.

11. Love allows others to perceive reality in their own unique ways, and does not demand that they agree with us. We need others to agree with us when we are insecure about our own perceptions or self-worth.

12. Love does not demand that others obey us or live as we believe. We love them regardless as to whether they can give us what we need or want and whether their life style coincides with our expectations or needs.

13. Love enables us to forgive others for their mistakes and weaknesses. We perceive them as souls in the process of evolution and are thus free to love them even when we do not agree with their actions or choices.

14. Perfect love can even forgive the worst of all human behaviors, just as Christ asked forgiveness for those who killed him because, "they know not what they do."

15. Love is the source of greater creativity and humane works around the world. Our love for others inspires us to perceive and manifest ways of helping others live happier and more fulfilled lives. Love creates selfless actions and works.

Christ encouraged us to love others as we love ourselves. He did not say, love others and not yourselves or love yourselves and not others. The reality is that we can love, accept, understand and forgive others only to the degree that we love, accept, understand and forgive ourselves. The opposite is also true. We can have as much understanding and love towards ourselves as we do towards others. These are interdependent. We are all blessed by love…..it is who we truly are……. Love and Light, Christina

Facing Our Powerful Potential

Throughout history, this wrestling with strength and power has been characterized in all cultures which represent the best and worst of what it means to be human. Both of these energies live within each of us, and we are able to respond instantaneously to whatever challenge we are faced with. When we are living in pure awareness and from our center, like a lion with her cubs, a connective embodied power arises that unifies all life and such embodiments, such as facing the dragon, can be heroic in the deepest sense. Yet when we are cut off, even for a moment, we feel numb, we have lost center, we grow powerless and we are consumed with fear of the unknown outcome.

When we face our challenges head on and from our center, we discover and are able to take a stand in our place in the Universe. Facing our potential, we are called to enter a journey of discovery and not surprisingly, at the center our, Source and Oneness gives us the strength to manifest the highest possible outcome in the experience we find ourselves in.

There is duality in this potential, as there is in all things, at the same time we are called to face the dragon or unleashed power of others. Standing up to things and people, who are not living from their center and have become disruptive agents that dishearten all they touch, and we are charged to stand in our center in order to not be over taken by this energy. Perhaps it is a function of the Universe to balance that causes us to face these sometimes troubling and confusing experiences.

On a deeper level, perhaps facing our potential is the call to summon our best qualities in order to face some one, some thing, some force that is challenging. And perhaps this one thing, one force, or someone, is not always bad or dangerous; it is simply that life often demands that we face things in order to transform…. a process we often miss or tend to resist. If persistent, facing our challenges can transform us into our truest self. To “face” does not mean to resist or to defeat, but to encounter honestly. And to ”be” does not mean to retreat from this world, but to merge with it from a centered place of strength.

Perhaps, the question has always been: How do we define these elements? Is strength the art of authority, of achieving domination over situations and others, as rulers throughout history have shown us? Or is it the strength of the art of embrace, of surrendering to the power of love and truth rising up within us? We all carry the seed of each element; the power of authority and the power of embrace. May we all use our power for our optimal potential to live as illuminated beings …. Love and light, Christina

Ways to Harness Your Life Force Energy

As humans, we are receivers and transmitters of the cosmic Life Force Energy — the Universal Energy that gives life to all things. Our thoughts are energy and give rise to our emotions, which in turn are simply energy in motion — like invisible clouds hovering above and around our physical body. High-frequency emotions, such as love and joy, are bright. Lower frequency emotions, such as hate, humiliation, blame, despair, regret and anxiety are dimmer — and sometimes dark.

Using our conscious awareness, we can learn to harness Life Force Energy to create success and good fortune with effortless ease. Everything in our Universe is made of energy, and the universal laws of physics tell us that like energy attracts like energy. We must become an energetic vibrational match to what it is that we wish to attract into our experiences. Here are some effective techniques to practice to tap into the positive goodness of Life Force Energy:

1. Practice acceptance. Following the laws of nature, the law of least effort as nature teaches us, we need to learn how to accept people, situations, circumstances and events as they occur. This kind of acceptance will raise our Life Force Energy. Within the flow of Universal energy lays the wisdom of uncertainty — which allows us freedom from our past, and from the known. By being willing to step into the unknown, we enter the field of all possibilities — a place where we can surrender ourselves to the creative mind that orchestrates the dance of the universe.

2. Practice awareness. Each level of energy vibration holds your own particular resonance. Some of us create with conscious awareness of this process. But others continue to live life unconsciously. To live a conscious life is to become aware of our own thoughts, actions and deeds.

3. Let go of limiting beliefs. It is easy to raise our Life Force Energy when we view ourselves as consciousness rather than as separate bodies and minds. If we want to experience the joyful divinity of every present moment, we will need to let go of any beliefs that limit and distort it.

4. Allow happiness. When we are lost in our emotions, we are unable to experience higher levels of energy. We may refuse to feel any happiness if certain conditions are not fulfilled during life experiences. But we set those conditions ourselves. Many emotions can distance us from our own happiness — and we will never find the answer to our experiences solely with logic.

5. See thoughts and words as actions. The moment you have a thought, you have created an action, the same way that the moment you speak you have created an action. Just as a deed is an action, thoughts and words are creative actions as well. They are all energies at a level of creation.

6. Overcome your feeling of separateness. Feeling separate from others is an illusion: in fact, we are one spirit, one with all energy, and even one with all matter. But feeling apart from others and from the forces around us causes us to become fearful — and develop defense mechanisms that lower our Life Force Energy, and seriously obstruct our happiness.

7. Feel the energy, name the emotions, and celebrate these milestones. When someone asks how we are feeling, we often answer vaguely: “bad,” or “unhappy,” “upset,” “disturbed,” negative.” It’s important to be more specific when describing our emotional state. We also want to feel into our energy level. Each time you take a moment to feel into your energy and name the emotions accurately that either heighten or lower your energy level, you reach another milestone. Celebrate these milestones by recognizing them — and slow down to feel what is true for you, instead of simply answering with an automatic, habitual response.
Try to feel things fully on emotional, physical and energetic levels.

Few of us have intimate contact with our Life Force Energy. But the quantity and quality of our energy flow deeply affects all parts of our lives — our emotions, thoughts and reactions. The quality of our relationships, productivity, creativity and health all depends upon our being able to create a high level of harmoniously flowing energy. Our inner harmony is deeply affected by our relationships with those around us, and the opposite is even truer: our relationships with others will simply mirror our relationships with ourselves. By practicing these seven steps, you can become more conscious of – and more connected to — the transforming power of the Life Force Energy within all of us. ... Love and Light Christina

Strengthening the Bonds with our Children

Dear friends/parents, I know this is a rather long post, but it seems to be coming up for many parents I meet. More and more in these trying times there seems to be a general lack of education in effective communication and overall bonding with our children and many parents are feeling a large gap between our “children’s world” even our grown children and our longing to develop a closeness with them.

It is important to remember that there is no shame or blame in how we parent; in fact, a lot of what we learned about parenting skills, we learned through imitation from role models, such as our own well-meaning parents, grandparents and caregivers’. We repeat their patterns of behavior and how they communicated or did not communicate. We contain within us much more of our parents’ programming than we are aware of and we now mechanically repeat this type of communication with our children. We tend to create experiences similar to those that existed in our childhood role models. If our parents were self-suppressing and non-communicative, we tend do the same. If they were competitive and aggressive we are likely to act in a similar way. In some cases, out of reaction, we may do the opposite, but this is also a programming.

If we are having communication problems with our children, it may be useful to work on transforming our own childhood experiences. What we believe to be a problem with our children, may actually be simply a projection of a problem we had with one of our parents. Perhaps we had lots of rules and controls in our own childhood and lots of expectations that went along with those rules. For example: Respect is a big one! If we were taught to respect our parents no matter what then we will expect our children to respect us no matter what. We need to ask ourselves; “Does this make any sense?” If we don’t respect them as children or young adults, why would we expect them to respect us in return. In this case we must take full responsibility for our reality.

It does no good whatsoever to blame the other for what we are feeling as parents. If we do we might also expect that our children will just harden their stance and stay that way. No one likes to be criticized or blamed. Even if down inside we know that we are wrong, we do not like to admit it as long as we are being blamed.
Another question we might ask ourselves is "Do we really expect our children to fulfill our needs and expectations? Do we believe that they, in some magical way, are going to supply us with what is lacking within us?" The truth is no one can give us inner security or self-worth if we do not have it. If we want to create a harmonious relationship with our children, we will first need to be in harmony with ourselves, which means developing inner security, strength, self-confidence and self-acceptance in all situations.

Sometimes as parents we tend to create considerable tension when we want to place limits on or seek to change our child’s behavior so we can be accepted by others. An example might be; When we pressure our child to change, not because what he is doing is morally wrong, but because we need society’s approval. Think about that... WOW... the child must truly feel that we are putting others above them in our heart. We are placing our needs for acceptance or recognition above our love, acceptance and respect for our children and ignoring any of their needs and wants in the experience. Perhaps, as parents we should ask, "What is more important to me - this affirmation based on appearances, or maintaining a deep and loving relationship with my children? Do we want to force our children to fit into a social mold and risk losing our communication link with them, or do we prefer to risk losing social recognition for the sake of maintaining our communication?" Remember: we are not talking about sacrificing ethical values, but rather subjective and often quite superficial and materially oriented social values.

Nurturing healthy relationships requires energy...life force energy. I have seen a number of relationships between parents and children fall into disharmony and even separation because one or both of the parties let their energy level fall to a dangerously low level causing them to become a negative element in their relationship. When we do not care for our bodies, minds and spirits, we begin to function defectively, creating negativity for ourselves and those around us including our children. We have less clarity, less patience, less understanding for others’ needs and problems.

A person without energy is naturally defensive because they feel the need to protect them self. They do not feel safe. When one person in a relationship is in such a state, problems are created for everyone. When both parent and child are in this state, a harmonious relationship cannot endure. We have an obligation in any relationship, especially within our homes and with our children. No one likes an emotionally polluted environment full of complaints, criticism, negative thoughts, negative feelings, blaming, fear, hurt, anger or depression.

Then there are other times we may believe the children are conflicting with us, but the reality is that we are conflicting with ourselves through them in the experience. An example of this is that we are not living in the present moment. Throughout the years, we may have formed a mental image of who our child is, perhaps they got into mischief or committed some error in judgment and now we see our image of the child in the past and not the person that child has become in the present moment. This image is unfortunately permeated with many misunderstandings and wrong assumptions which we have created, through our inner subjective beliefs and programming. When we as parents have come to an inner reconciliation between our own various conflicting needs and beliefs, we will find that the children will be freed from our "perceived" temporary antagonistic role and the external conflict will disappear.

We must try not to hold a running account of how many times the child has erred or disappointed us, in some way, and any interaction with them will be difficult, if we have this "balance sheet" hanging in front of our eyes. Holding on to the hurt of the past prevents an opening to who the other actually is in the present. This accumulated resentment or feeling of injustice obstructs our clear perception and communication in the present.

We must learn to forgive and approach our children with ease, love and respect, forgetting whatever they may or may not have done in the past that has hurt us. If we can remember that there is a divine law which allows only what is necessary for our evolutionary process to occur, we will realize that our child was only the means by which this experience came to us as parents.

This is what it means to “hold space” for our children as they grow. It means that we are willing to walk alongside our children in whatever journey they’re on without judging them, making them feel inadequate or trying to impact the outcome. When we simply hold space for them to express themselves, we open our hearts, offer unconditional support, and let go of judgement and control.

This is truly supporting them in their own growth and transformation. We are not taking their power away, trying to fix them, shaming them, or overwhelming them. We have to be prepared to step to the side so that they can make their own choices, offer them unconditional love and support, give gentle guidance when it’s needed, and make them feel safe even when they make mistakes. In other words we can "spend our love" on our children!

Remember we were not born parents, we grow in our parenting roles just as each child is unique and gifted with there own life purpose. It also helps to remember that we all create our own reality and we have been the creators of everything that we perceive was ever done to us. This may be difficult to swallow, but it is true. Thus, there is no one to forgive except ourselves for creating such realities for ourselves. Let us forgive ourselves and all others including our children. Let us start each day with a "new" relationship with our children, bringing them closer to us into a circle of unconditional love. ….Love and light Christina