09/24/2026
About 10 years ago, I finally realized something important—I didn’t choose my career based on what I wanted my life to look like. I chose it based on what I was afraid of
I grew up in a family where money always felt scarce. Every month, I’d watch my dad sit at the kitchen table paying bills with this defeated look on his face. I could literally feel all the joy leaving the room
Combine that image with frequent phrases like
“We don’t have enough money”
“We can’t afford that”
“If you break it, you’re not getting another one”
Etc, etc…
I realized early on that:
Money isn’t safe
Money is stressful
Money is hard to make
Money can disappear at any moment
And all of that made me feel like if I wasn’t careful, I could lose everything
Looking back, I can see how much those beliefs shaped my life. Because instead of focusing on building a career around something that made me happy, I built my career based on what would keep me financially safe
And I know so many people who do this same thing
My own money fears were the reason I went into tech. And later, they were what kept me there even when I knew I was deeply unhappy
Not because I loved the work
Because I was afraid of what would happen if I left
And the crazy part is that there are thousands of ways to make money
But fear has a way of convincing us there’s only one
That’s why I think it’s so important to understand your money stories
Not so you can blame your parents. They were doing the best they could with the beliefs they inherited
But because you deserve to decide whether those beliefs still belong in your life
The next time you catch yourself saying:
“I can’t afford to leave”
“I’ll never make this much money doing something else”
“What if I lose everything I’ve worked for”
Pause for a moment
Ask yourself:
Is that actually true... or is it a story I learned a long time ago?
That one question has the power to change far more than your career. It can change your entire relationship with what’s possible
Follow if you’re ready to build a life that’s guided by possibility instead of fear. ❤️