Charlotte E-mediation & coaching

So happy to be part of such an outstanding group of divorce professionals. This was a lovely evening!

Not infrequently do I come across couples divorcing where we no longer try to work out a co-parenting plan that will work smoothly with two separate homes nearby; these families need to find the best solution to how they can best co-parent across not only state lines but nations. Being a divorced ex-pat myself, living in another country than where I grew up and where my family is, I understand the various reasons someone may opt to make a long-distance move; sometimes it’s an amicable understanding of why it’s best to move “back home,” sometimes it’s a necessity of various reasons. I will outline in today's blog how an amicable divorce and co-parenting situation can work across borders; this is not likely to happen if it is an adversarial divorce. Keep in mind that any legalities are for your attorneys to work out; this article simply gives ideas of how to best manage an international co-parenting situation.

Link to the full blog "10 tips for co-parenting in separate countries" in bio.

So now you are divorced. Your children and you are learning to navigate transitions between two homes.
How are they doing?
How are you doing?

Follow the link in BIO to read the blog on how to best help your children adjust. Feel free to reach out with questions or additional tips in the comments or DM.

"The greatest burden a child must bear is the unlived life of its parents."

Carl Jung, the Swiss psychologist and psychoanalyst, is widely viewed as one of the pioneers of modern psychology. One of his most notable quotes is, "The greatest burden a child must bear is the unlived life of its parents." This phrase speaks to the intergenerational transmission of trauma, i.e., the passing down emotional, somatic, and psychological wounds from one generation to another. I think it is worth considering when it comes to parenting and divorce, how it encapsulates the idea that when parents are unhappy or unfulfilled in their own lives, it can inadvertently affect their children. Children absorb and carry the emotional weight of their parents' unfulfilled aspirations, suppressed desires, or unrealized dreams. This burden can manifest as emotional or psychological stress, impacting the child's own well-being and development. It emphasizes the importance of parents striving for fulfillment and happiness, not only for themselves but also for the sake of their children's mental and emotional health.
Make sure to take care of yourself, and give your children the greatest gift of not worrying about your happiness.

Food for thought. Be kind to yourself, especially as you go through major life transitions.

Here is food for thought and why nonadversarial divorce is a good option. When most people divorce, the details don’t make the newspaper. But the reason that the play-by-play is out there and available is because Costner and Baumgartner are testifying to all of this in open court and asking a judge to decide.

You keep control over both outcomes and privacy if you reach a resolution outside of court.

I think it’s safe to say that you know, as do I, that life is a journey filled with twists, turns, and unexpected challenges. When a relationship that once bloomed with love and promises begins to lose its spark, it's natural to find yourself at a crossroads. Deciding to divorce is never an easy choice, especially when precious hearts are involved – In my case, it was those of my three little ones. I did not make the decision to divorce quickly or easily; it was a very long process, sometimes, I wish I had filed much sooner, but in hindsight, I think I went about it and followed a timeline exactly the way it was supposed to happen.

As you embark on this emotional journey, know you're not alone. I hope these words will feel like a soft embrace, a reminder that your courage and strength will guide you through the motions, helping you navigate the complexities of divorce while keeping your children's well-being at the forefront. Life is a symphony of change, and as you navigate the intricate melody of divorce, one of your most significant roles becomes that of a conductor – orchestrating stability and consistency for your children. Amidst the shifting tides, your unwavering commitment to their well-being will serve as a guiding light, illuminating their path through uncertainty. As the conductor of stability, your actions speak volumes. Demonstrate resilience and optimism in the face of challenges, and your children will learn to mirror these qualities…

Read more in the blog,
https://charlotteejderberg.com/blog/f/navigating-the-path-of-divorce---conductor-of-stability

If you ever get the chance, go alone. Walk alone, travel alone, live alone, dance alone. Just for a while. If you ever get the chance, learn who you are when the world isn’t demanding you be one way or another.

Most people only know how to stand on their own if someone else will stand beside them. Don’t let that be your story. When you get the chance, know that the opportunity to walk alone, even for a bit, is a rare gift, one that will hand you insight that can change the course of your life.

Need an idea on how to check in with your teen?
Teens have to eat and they tend to love coffee shops, so make time for coffee or lunch, and check in what’s going on with them. The conversation may be short sentences, and not the most cohesive at times, but it is their attempt at opening up at a level they are comfortable with. Let it be just that, don’t force anything, just be present, enjoy what is - and your coffee! ☕️

That smile, that's me bursting at the seems of joy and feeling proud of my first born who had an amazing last showday of her summer. It is also a reflection of accomplishment… Having wanted to provide and be able to provide this opportunity for my girls, the opportunity to ride, to learn the ropes and responsibilities of horse ownership from a very early age. So, when I knew I was getting divorced, I had to start rethinking how to continue to make it happen, as a single mom, without a farm to keep the horses, and sadly without the financial or emotional support from their father.
I have hustled, I have at times wondered what would have to give, but here we are, my senior in college just completed another goal of hers and I got to show up, watch and enjoy her accomplishments. Bliss!

To all single parents - I see you, I see how you pull strings and work hard. I know you pour your heart and soul into your children’s well being and to make dreams come true, and I am so proud of you!

Supporting Your Children Through Divorce ❤️💔

Divorce can be a challenging journey for everyone involved, especially our precious little ones. As parents, it's our duty to provide them with the love, understanding, and support they need to navigate these uncharted waters.

Click the link to jump over to the blog to read on and learn about a few valuable tips to help you support your children during this transformative time.

https://charlotteejderberg.com/blog/f/%F0%9F%92%94%E2%9D%A4%EF%B8%8F-embracing-change-supporting-your-children-through-divorce-%E2%9D%A4

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