Comprehensive Consent, New York, NY (2026)

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03/21/2026

Which of these surprised you the most? 🤔

Teaching consent can be challenging, with traditional approaches often emphasizing legal definitions while inadequately addressing the gray areas that students inevitably ask about.

Creating space for these deeper conversations isn’t easy, but educators of and Sarah Casper of are here to help you learn how.

True consent literacy starts internally, with awareness of and familiarity with our body sensations, emotions, and instincts.

Rather than centering external behaviors, intellectualization, and yes/no, give/get binaries, Consent Beyond Binaries’ mind/body approach will help you move beyond insufficient explanations and rigid scripts, and toward consent education that truly connects.

Reserve your spot now!

02/23/2026

In this kind of scenario, it's natural for a person to want to defend themselves profusely.

These boys want to tell the girl, and everyone around them, how off-base the accusation is and how sure they are that they’re right.

In this moment, I had the opportunity to help these kids reflect on their past conflicts and consider what has been effective vs. what hasn’t.

When given a moment to pause and think, they easily realize how it’s possible for two people to have an entirely different relationship to the same experience.

We need to help our young people move away from “who’s right and who’s wrong?” and towards “how can I better understand you while also being understood?”

Sometimes accusations are intentional lies. But more often, boys and men use the phrase false accusation to say, “I’m not bad - I didn’t try to hurt them. I shouldn't be called a criminal or grapist for what I did.”

And I agree, they shouldn’t. They also shouldn’t be able to use “it was consensual” or “it wasn’t SA” as a reason not to be accountable when they violate a boundary or cause harm.

This is the position we find ourselves in when we use the binary of consent and SA, and when harm isn’t taken seriously unless the harm is criminal.

If you're a teacher seeking new tools for meaningful conversations about consent, join and me for Consent Beyond Binaries on May 1 and 2.

02/21/2026

Consent and assault *can* exist within the same interaction.

There was a time when I believed that if someone did anything unwanted or unagreed upon during syx, that the interaction *wasnt consensual*. And I see why some people might still make this argument.

However, if we want students to 𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐮𝐬, to 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧, and to 𝐟𝐨𝐥𝐥𝐨𝐰 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐝, we need to meet them where they’re at.

Binaries make it really hard for people to connect. You can’t find a shared ground because binaries mean no middle ground — just two points.

There’s good reason for saying, “believe women” (like reeeeaaally good reason), but when a student asks a question that frames consent as a binary, our first task cannot be to defend the woman.

First, we must make sure we understand their question.

Then, we can reframe their question in a way that holds their curiosity while challenging their binary assumption.

Finally, with an understanding of why this new frame matters, we can answer the question at hand.

Here, I demonstrated steps one and two. Stay tuned for step three, where I answer the new question.

How would you respond in this scenario?

06/28/2025

Teaching consent isn’t as simple as telling students what valid consent is and that they need to get it.

Where is your curriculum getting it right? Where could it use some upgrades?

Creating space for these deeper conversations and real skill building isn’t easy, but and I are here to help.

Join us on August 22 and 23 for a workshop on teaching consent with more nuance and care.

06/13/2025

Which of these surprised you the most? 🤔

Teaching consent can be challenging, with traditional approaches often emphasizing legal definitions while inadequately addressing the gray areas that students inevitably ask about.

Creating space for these deeper conversations isn’t easy, but educators of and Sarah Casper of are here to help you learn how.

True consent literacy starts internally, with awareness of and familiarity with our body sensations, emotions, and instincts.

Rather than centering external behaviors, intellectualization, and yes/no, give/get binaries, Consent Beyond Binaries’ mind/body approach will help you move beyond insufficient explanations and rigid scripts, and toward consent education that truly connects.

Reserve your spot now!

10/20/2024

I fear being too much or having too many complaints. It’s hard for me to trust that someone actually cares when they ask, “What’s wrong?”⁣
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I feel like I’ve almost been trained to say, “Nothing, I’m good.”⁣
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I’m working on this…AND the people around me can help get comfortable and feel safe sharing my concerns by asking the question in a different way,⁣
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Bonus points: Talk about this with your kid or partner ahead of time. Suggest that this question be a prompt to take a deep breath and then answer.⁣
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ID: Bright blue background with bold white and navy letters. Text reads: Instead of asking "What’s wrong?” try asking, ”What are you feeling?”

10/10/2024

Follow these steps and your kids will FEEL what it’s like to navigate their wants and limits.⁣
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They’ll get practice in :⁣
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🧘🏽‍♀️ Noticing what they want ⁣
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📣 Advocating for what they want⁣
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🚧 Setting boundaries around their limits⁣
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😷 Putting safeguards in place⁣
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✏️ Designing their own experience⁣
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Give it a try and let me know how it goes⁣
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09/19/2024

Read (or listen to) the full essay on Substack questions

09/16/2024

How do *you* talk about consent?⁣⁣
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Most courses and workshops on teaching consent will emphasize what real consent is and what "counts" as consent. ⁣⁣
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But this is setting our students up to exploit technicalities instead of embodying the skills for caring for their boundaries and desires alongside the boundaries and desires of others. ⁣⁣
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Come learn a new way for teaching consent. All the info is where you'd expect it 😁⁣
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08/27/2024

Which of these do you use with your kids? With your partners? With your friends?⁣
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08/25/2024

What are your students missing?⁣
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ID: Seafoam green background with hot pink and white text. Text reads, Your students know they should only say “yes” to what they want but do they know how to figure out what they want? Your students know to pay attention to body language but do they know what to do with what they see? Your students know that they shouldn’t pressure others but do they know how to share their perspective in a non-coercive manner? your students know they should respect a no but do they know what to do with their disappointment?

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