Sam Mills

Might might ruffle some feathers on this one…

but…

You know what’s really easy?

Doing the same thing over and over again

But it won’t get you any results.

You know what’s hard?

Deciding to

change your mind

Change your narrative

and change your behaviors.

But you WILL get results.

What results?

Being happy. Being in love. Feeling safe.

For starters at least…

See if you choose to do things differently you get different results

But if you choose to have your own personal groundhogs day

Reliving the same events again and again

Maybe with slight variations…

But nothing that exceeds the comfort zone of stillness

Then you will not get results

You will be a statue of sadness

In a mausoleum of misery

And perhaps some will come and lay roses at your feet

And shed a tear for your fate

But you’ll be living off pity

Resenting those who won’t provide it freely for you

Fueling the sadness the stillness and the misery

The vicious circle of justification and sadness

Preventing any chance of breaking free of the concrete that encases you

of getting to the day after groundhogs day

Time feels slow motion

The mind feels unsafe

The world becomes small

Does this sound like something worth choosing?

Because you can if you want

It is your right to choose whatever life you’d like

I exercised that right for far too long

Frozen. Suffocating. Overwhelmed.

Until I changed.

Changed my mindset

Changed my narrative

Changed my story

Then life started happening FOR me

Instead of TO me

But most choose never to choose change

To remain a stiff sulking statue.

Which is why I ask you to choose different.

Now if you are reading this saying

…Sam that makes no sense

If you are unhappy all the time…

… why would you choose to stay still?

To avoid change?

Well the truth is your brain likes patterns

It likes knowing exactly what to expect

Even if that means expecting to be depressed and anxious

Even if that means expecting to be angry or in pain

Even if that’s expecting to be a victim

Predictable is comfortable

Comfort leads to complacency

And complacency is the killer of change

And change is the only thing that can save you

From the misery mausoleum

Because nothing changes if nothing changes

So choose change

Get comfortable being uncomfortable

Because comfortable does not equal safety

You create safety inside of yourself.

So be open to change

Change your narrative and change your mind

You are not your past

You are not your trauma

Your are not your current state of being

Change your behaviors

Just because you have done something over and over

Does not mean you need to do it again

You are not stuck

You are capable of taking action

action takers get results!

Change your habits

Change your life

What if you find happiness?

What if you find fulfillment?

What if you find Love?

What if you create your own safety?

You can.

You just have to choose it.

What is one thing you can choose to do differently to grow and improve today?

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I married my prince charming

♾️💍❤️‍🔥6/15/23❤️‍🔥💍♾️

A love that lets me feel seen, safe, and overwhelmingly loved

No big ceremony, no expensive wedding gown, no limo to chauffeur us there and back

Just me and him and all-consuming love

Pure perfection

Now don’t fret

We will still share our celebration with you in the future 🥳

Life just intervened and sped up our timeline

Now I know you haven’t heard from me for a while

And I’ve overcome a lot since the last time we chatted

One of those things was fear of being seen.

But he saw me when I didn’t want to be seen

When I didn’t feel worthy of being seen

When hiding felt safer than rejection

He saw me

He pushed me to push myself

To believe in myself the same way he believed in me

To see me like he saw me

And showed me it doesn’t have to be so scary

👉Because when your true believers see you

❤️‍🔥You get to feel safe

❤️‍🔥You get to feel loved

❤️‍🔥You get to feel connected

So I will let you see me

Because real love is something that shouldn’t be invisible

In fact it's impossible for it to be

Real love illuminates our life

It’s light is undeniably seen

So I invite you to see me and see us now

To see real true love that feels magical

🎉And invite you to celebrate our love with us

Now and everyday in our Happily Ever After 🌹❤️‍🔥♾️

Could your love survive BOTH partners being diagnosed with progressive incurable chronic illnesses?

Ours did.

And we didn’t just survive we THRIVED 🔥

♾️💍❤️‍🔥Officially married as of 6/15/23❤️‍🔥💍♾️

It wasn’t anything fancy we got married in the county court in front of a judge

Our timeline escalated for the need for health insurance to afford infusion medication

But this did not take away ANY of the magic ✨of being able to marry my real true love

My soulmate.

A mere two months after our engagement in 2021 I was diagnosed with Ehlers Danlos Syndrome and Dysautonomia

Three months ago 2023 Mark was diagnosed with Tumefactive Multiple Sclerosis

Hearing a doctor speak these diagnoses felt like trap doors opened beneath our feet dropping us into a dark narrow hole that felt overwhelming and inescapable.

But neither of us ever considered leaving. Not even once.

Instead we both took turns shinning light into the others holes reaching our hands out into the darkness to pull the other back up and out

No team mate left behind EVER

We challenge each other to consistency improve by showing up for ourselves and each other

We create balance by working as a TEAM and understanding our strengths and weaknesses

A lot of people are under the incorrect assumption that relationships need to be 50/50 every single day to have balance

To me that just feels silly.

Haven’t you had days where you where you woke up feeling sick so your partner took up some extra slack? How about the other way around?

Of course!

Because some days you may wake up able to give 90% and other days you may only have 10%

and that is OKAY!

👉The important thing is always showing up authentically for your partner 100%

👉To be a PARTNER, a TEAM MATE

👉To remember that 50/50 is not a daily thing - it’s an in total thing

When you and your partner refuse to sit in the dark together and always pull each other closer to the light

When you can problem solve through limitations and act as a team showing up for each other 100%

Your love will be able to THRIVE through ANYTHING ❤️‍🔥

We made a perfect day out of imperfect circumstances 💖

That’s what REAL love does ❤️‍🔥

Officially forever 6/15/23 ♾️

Im getting married TOMORROW
How did you feel the day before your wedding?
👇👇👇

TWO DAYS until I marry my real true love ❤️‍🔥
I couldn’t be more certain.
You are worthy of your real true love too 💖

I marry my soul mate in THREE DAYS ❤️‍🔥

Saying this brings me absolutely no feelings of cold feet
No anxieties and no feelings of regret.

I instead feel certain.
Unwaveringly certain.
Like there are no other choices in the entire world

I know he is my perfect partner.
He loves the authentic me
The me that wants to change the world. the me that wants to wear a onesie and just cuddle watching movies and all the me's in between

Being in a place of certainty makes me sad for those who are not.
For those who feel insecure with their partners
For those who feel anxious around their partners
or those who don't feel like they are worthy of love.

Let me tell you right now.

👉You ARE worthy of real love
👉You ARE worthy of being loved for your authentic self
👉You ARE worthy of being certain.

But how do you become certain?

First, you must decide that YOU ARE WORTHY.

You decide that. No one else can.

Then you find the person who loves you exactly as you are when no one is watching.
The person that you are excited to spend all your time with
The person that you pine for when they are away

✨Love should light you up.
✨Love should be the thing that makes you discover your REAL smile

Are you CERTAIN about your love? If not what would being CERTAIN bring to your relationship?