A Zen Stoic

There are times where you don't stay stuck because you don't know what you want.
Rather, you stay stuck because you know exactly what you want and you're terrified of what wanting it will cost you.
The 'fork' doesn't disappear. You just stop pretending you're not standing at it.

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If you've recognized yourself in any of this, the book 📓8 𝙏𝙤𝙭𝙞𝙘 𝙋𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙚𝙧𝙣𝙨 𝙏𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙆𝙚𝙚𝙥 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙞𝙣 𝙇𝙤𝙤𝙥𝙨 goes deeper into the patterns underneath. The ones you can't see while you're in them. The ones that keep the fork looking impossible.

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And perhaps the real question is not whether you are seen…

…but who is seeing through you.

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Some patterns don't look harmful until you map them.

Pathological egoistic people destroy the very place they live in, just like cancer cells do. And they're almost never aware of it, until it is too late...

Or, in some extreme cases, their behavior is closer to the words of Sun Tzu: “An evil man will burn his own nation to the ground to rule over the ashes.”

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This is not always the case, but there’s much truth to Dostoevski’s irony, because it’s something that happens often. And it happens because people have a tendency of taking people for granted.

Appreciation often comes late. While we’re here, people hesitate and observe. They form opinions, but keep them to themselves.

And then, when you’re gone, the words come. Surely some are hypocritical. But a lot are kind and honest ones. The ones that might have mattered when you could still hear them.

It’s not always intentional. Sometimes it’s discomfort. Sometimes pride. Sometimes the assumption that there will always be another moment.

So we wait…

We delay saying what we see in others. We hold back recognition. We keep appreciation unspoken. Until time removes the chance.

There’s something to notice in that. Not as blame, but as awareness.Because if we know this tendency exists, we don’t have to follow it.

We can choose to speak now. To acknowledge what’s real while it can still be received.

And maybe, just as important- to not wait for absence to recognize what was there all along.

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From the outside, this kind of softness is easy to misread. It's easy to misread active tolerance for weakness, patience for passivity, and vulnerability as lack of strength.

We’re taught and programmed (quietly, unconsciously, collectively) to avoid those states, and stay guarded, react quickly, o harden before we’re hurt again...

From one side it is an understandable defense mechanism, meant to protect us from being overwhelmed with anxiety and pain. But still, the thing is that these mechanisms have mutated to become dysfunctional most of the time.

Softness, when it’s real, isn’t avoidance, it’s restraint. It’s the ability to feel something fully without immediately turning it into reaction. To stay open in a moment where closing off would be easier. To respond without becoming what hurt us.

And that requires something deeper than instinct. It requires awareness. A kind of inner strength that doesn’t need to prove itself through prepotency, in a forced way.

Surely, we don’t always get it right. Sometimes we harden. Sometimes we deflect. Sometimes we pass forward what we once received. But life (karma) has a way of bringing us back to those moments. The ones where we’re asked to choose again.

To react... or to remain present.
To close... or to stay open just enough to not lose ourselves.

For many, this won't come naturally, that's why practice and quiet perseverance is needed.

And each time you choose it consciously, you interrupt a pattern that could have easily continued through you.

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Sometimes we don’t receive what we’re chasing because, without the inner roots to sustain it, what we want may harm us more than help us.

That is one of the main reasons masters across many domains insist on returning to the fundamentals.

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The moment someone steps into leadership, a power imbalance appears, and that’s natural.

What matters is what you do with it. The mistake many people make is confusing this power difference with ego imbalance, or a difference in personal worth. This can cause them to believe they are more important than the rest of the group.

A mature leader knows this:
Power imbalance does not require ego imbalance.
You can guide without dominating.
You can decide without needing to feel superior.

A good leader is mature and wise enough to understand that having power does not make them better than others. They see leadership as a temporary role meant to serve and support the group, and the cause. However, when people become too attached to the title or role, they often end up feeding their ego instead of truly leading.

Leadership, at its core, is a form of service, a willingness to carry weight for something larger than yourself.

those who forget that -who become fused with the position- often lose sight of the very people they’re meant to serve.

This doesn’t always happen consciously, but if one is not vigilant and honest with themselves, the unchecked ego will gradually extend its tentacles.

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Not every storm comes to destroy. Some come to rearrange.

At first, it doesn’t feel that way, because things fall apart, what you built gets shaken, what felt stable is suddenly uncertain, and the instinct is to call it loss.

But sometimes… what gets taken was in fact something that was draining you, mentally and emotionally. Or perhaps it was misaligning you, keeping you in something that quietly wore you down.

There are storms like that. Not all of them. But some. They don’t just break things, they remove what you were holding onto out of habit, fear, or attachment. And in doing so -immediately or eventually- they create space. A space where you can hear yourself again. Where you can reconnect with what truly matters to you. Where you can start building, and this time with more clarity.

This event is mostly not comfortable, we don’t see the change in the moment, because it feels like disruption, like something went wrong. But looking back, you sometimes realize:

You didn’t just lose something. You were moved in a direction that yes, you might not have chosen on your own, but it cleared what no longer belonged, so you can begin again... 🌀

Most moments don’t come with a sign or manual -telling you what they mean- while you’re living them.

It may be that something closes, changes, or doesn’t fit the way it used to.

In moments like these, the instinct is to ask, 'What is this?'- but the answer doesn’t always come from outside. More often than not, it forms in how you meet it.

You can see it as a loss, something that ended before you were ready. Or you can step into it as an opening, something calling for a new version of you.

The moment itself doesn’t change... What changes is the meaning you give it. What changes your INTENT.

Not everything is clearly one or the other. Sometimes it becomes a beginning because you choose not to stay in what has already ended.

This might feel harsh to some, but admitting we experience it (and why) has helped many people feel more whole.

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The thoughts that come back when there’s nothing to manage. The images that repeat without being invited. That quiet drift tends to reveal something honest about your inner world.

It can show what you’re drawn to, what you’re carrying. or what still has a hold on you. Surely, it’s not always clear. and it’s not always comfortable, but it’s rarely random.

Oftentimes, the mind wanders toward what feels unfinished… or meaningful. And somewhere in that movement, you start to see a pattern. It is not necessarily, a conclusion, but a direction.

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