Candace Frazer: Pathway to Spiritual Rebirth

I AM NO LONGER THE SAME

Yes! I admit it, I was a caterpillar BUT…… now look at me. Can’t you see that I’ve become this magnificent new creature?

Behold…The old has gone, the new is here!!

I know that I wasn’t very desirable to you in that state, even though you, too, were once a caterpillar. I know! But….look at me NOW.

Can’t you see that…I…AM…different? My movement is different. My thinking is different. My love for you is different. WAIT!!!! My love for me is different.

And because my love for me is different, I can love you…… even though, you, too, were once a caterpillar. And, because my love for you is not defined by your past disposition, I can love you with a purity that can only come from my spirit.
YESSSSSSSS………I do remember being a caterpillar. I’m not proud that I was a caterpillar. But, I thank GOD that today, I can stand here and say, I am no longer a caterpillar. And……..even though……..you still….on occasion choose to see me as a caterpillar….. even after witnessing first hand my work as a butterfly. So, in this case, would you have me to believe that……you……are no longer conducting yourself as a caterpillar? Since that is all you choose to see me as? Hmmmmm
So, I’m sorry that when you look at me, you only see a caterpillar.
 I’m sorry that when you look at me, you only hear the enemy telling you that I’m not worthy to be seen as a butterfly, since we know his only mission is to steal, kill, and destroy.
 I’m sorry that when you look at me, you can’t see me as a butterfly saying to you, YESSSS, I was….but in Him, I have been DELIVERED.
 I’m sorry that when you look at me, you can’t hear me saying I LOVE YOOOOUUUU……BUT….. it is….. in HIM that I live and move and have my being.
 I’m sorry that when you look at me, you can’t allow yourself to touch me….but….that, too, is okay, because I have offered this body as a living sacrifice, holy, and pleasing to GOD…and He touches my very soul.

So, when you come to your senses and recognize the BUTTERFLY, you have been blessed to receive…I will still be here to love and care for you.
May GOD guide you to your Pathway to Spiritual Rebirth.
Candace Frazer

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What have you been struggling with that keeps you from living your best life?

SHAME?

It’s time for us to journey to the mountain to relinquish it.

For many years, I’ve struggled with shame. Shame weighed on me like a fifty pound anklet that I dragged around day in and day out. Shame kept me from living life to its fullest. Although I smiled, was soft-spoken, and pleasant, I was so afraid that people would still see through it and know the truth about me. The truth that I kept in my bosom, so close to my heart, but no matter how much I tried to conceal it, they could see right through the facade.

For those of us plagued by shame due to feelings of unworthiness, rejection, abuse, infidelity, or weight, I am here to tell you that you, too, can have your mountain moment. RELEASE IT!!! LET IT GO!!! NEVER to pick it up again. Dr. Brenè Brown defines shame as, an “intensely painful feeling or experience, of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging.” Let’s ponder this thought, if we accept this definition of shame as being “…intensely painful…flawed and…unworthy…” then, we must ask ourselves, “What is the root of our shame?” and “Is it truly ours to claim?” What about making the conscious decision to release ourselves from the pain? What would it take for you to journey to the mountain to release the shame? Not “your” shame because we will no longer hold any claims to it. The first step to embracing life without the burden of shame is to stop claiming it.

Welcome to the journey toward your Spiritual Rebirth.

Candace Frazer

When I ask myself the question of why I am doing this work of a counselor, I always come back to the same response, I want the same care for others as I would want for myself. I know what it feels like to need to speak with someone, and that person cannot relate to me or my situation. I would hope that there would be someone out there who would be able to take care of any family member or person in their time of crises. I am relatable and believe that this is what makes my service stand out.

I am a Licensed Minister, and a Certified Life Coach. I also have a Master's degree in Pastoral Care & Counseling, and have been working with clients for over ten (10) years. In addition, I am a Spiritual Director with a non-profit organization where I am a Public Health Advocate who specializes in trauma and behavioral health where employment is the stabilizer that helps to move women from dependency to self-sufficiency. We help women who are currently dealing with homelessness, sexual trafficking, abuse, and addictions. They are also overcoming issues relating to shame, self-worth, and unforgiveness, to name just a few.

I started in this business as a Life Coach but felt that I was unable to fully serve my clients in a holistic way. The holistic approach takes care of the whole person, such as, the mind, body, spirit, and the social emotional aspect of a relationship. As a Spiritual Director, I felt led to returning to school to further my education in Pastoral Care and Counseling. Having done so, it has afforded me the ability to work with my clientele on a deeper level.

LOVE IS SOMETHING YOU DO ON PURPOSE

“Girrrrrlllll, he is just so fine!!!” or “I love me some him!! or “Yo, man, she is soooo fly!!

Remember when the love was fresh and new…we just couldn’t wait to see them. “You hang up, no, you hang up…!!” Then the years start to slowly pass by and there are times when you barely acknowledge one another. Things become so routine that you hardly even notice that he is wearing a new scent or she has lost some weight. People are quick to say that they have nothing in common, but it was that commonality which brought you together. What most couples neglect to realize is that love is something you do on purpose. Just like it takes work to maintain a job, as we have to undergo yearly evaluations. We need to make it a point to always remind each other and ourselves, why that person, initially, put that spark in our eyes. Why there seemed to be such an urgency to get to that person just to be in their presence. How often do you hear people say they “love” somebody? “Love” is probably the most overused word in our vocabulary. Let’s not just say “I love you” but say why you love. If she is Maya Angelou’s Phenomenal Woman, then tell her that it’s “In the arch of her back, The sun of her smile, The ride of her breasts, The grace of her style…” How much more do you think you could get from that woman, YOUR WOMAN, if you said those words to her?

Hey Ladies, what if you said, “What I love about you is, “The sparkle in your eye. The warmth of your skin. Your breath on my neck, that shakes me within…” (unknown poet). This would surely bring him home to the love waiting for him.
People! Love is something you do on purpose!! This is not limited to the love of a man and woman, but for those who at times are just so unlovable. The dreaded checkout girl, who always has a stank attitude. She needs love, too. What we don’t know is that her child is sick, but she is forced to work for low wages to cover the expenses. Show her some love, ask her how her day is going. The old man living next door to you who complains about everything. What we don’t realize is that the only reason he complains is because he has no one else to talk to. His kids are too busy to call him. Let’s take the time to remove our egos and Love on purpose.

“And now these three remain: faith, hope, and love. But the greatest of these is love.” 1 Corinthians 13:13
Let’s walk the Pathway to Spiritual Rebirth, together.

Candace Frazer