Shibari Unravelled

Tomorrow I’m hitting the main stage for Sessions Live with Esther Perel in NYC! I will be leading 200 people into the depth of the body, trust, & connection in the ropes.

The just after there is a special VIP dinner where Jaiya author of the The Erotic Blueprint will be leading a sensual dining experience. Of which she will introduce me into a Rope performance, into the Amenti dance group, weaving into my performance and beginning of dance!

I have had this remarkable experience the last year where every book that I’m reading I’m meeting and sharing intimate time with the author soon after! This happened with Esther Perel, Terri Cole, author of the boundary boss, Andy Buru, Amenti Movement, and now Jaiya!

I am beyond thrilled be amongst the leaders in their field of work!

Did I do drugs? I had no idea the ropes could be such a psychedelic experience, completely sober!"

I can't even count the number of times people have said these exact words to me as the ropes glide off their body. In awe and mysticism, they touched something deep within their consciousness they though was only possible with psychedelics. What they learn in this moment, is that their OWN BODY can take them to NEW DIMENSIONS!

Rope & Ritual does what meditation, breathwork, shamanic plant ceremony, and Psychedelics have always done: quiet the part of the brain that narrates, judges, and controls, and open the part that actually holds your deepest patterns. Science calls that quieting the 'default mode network' which is the inner critic, the self-monitor, the voice that keeps you small.

The DMN is what gets shut down during therapeutic psychedelic sessions and plant medicine journeys. This is why transformation can happen in just one session compared to 10 years of talk therapy.

(I'm leading you to the EDGE)

What kinksters call subspace, neuroscientists recognize as a measurable altered state where the brainwaves are shifting, stress hormones dropping, the prefrontal cortex standing down. In that window, you're not just experiencing pleasure. You're accessible to reframe, rewire, and redesign yourself. The rope becomes a portal to expand and explore the subconscious.



Rope has been a tool of transformation since it first entered my hands and touched my body. My devotion to the ropes lead me to create spaces for people to fall apart, to break down, to tend to old wounds, to break the walls around their hearts and bodies, to activate the voice, and to remember who they are.

Rope holds so much symbolism, of being trapped, restrained, loss of power, abuse, contained, swaddled, held, saved.

And no… not just any Rope rigger or practitioner can take you there. There is a route, there is a path, there is a way to enter these spaces that allows transformation to happen. That is why having a guide changes the experience.

When held in conscious intentionality, Rope & Ritual can be a conduit for change in the nervous system. The intentionality, the surrender, the total sensational presence (listening to, feeling, breathing with all the sensations).

Memories are stored in the body (ask all the somatic researchers…this is relatively new scientific research that has had groundbreaking impacts for aiding in trauma healing).‍ ‍Accessing the body through sensations provokes that memory. Smell, touch, taste, feeling the skin, hearing…

If all of this is mind-bending and unbelievable, GOOD!
It is something that is meant to be felt in your body rather than understood in your mind, anyways. Once you feel it, you will understand the transformational power.

Want to go into the deep end with us, into the subconscious, into the sober psychedelic playground where life shifting experiences unravel the coding, conditions, and limitations that have been placed upon you?!

We will be going so deep into this transformational space in the upcoming
Rope & Sensation Retreat: EDGE in Portugal this September 2026. For couples and solos!

www.eros-Unravelled.com/edge

In 11 days we are heading to Wyoming for Spicy Rope and Wilderness Retreat! Sharing the Wild West with Wild Women is an absolute dream come true. Horse, Hotsprings, 19 Hotties and Spicy Ropes EVERY NIGHT!

If you missed it, hop on the wait list for next tour and be the first to know when Outdoor Mavens and I collaborate agains for Ropes + Adventure!

https://www.eros-unravelled.com/wwestwaitlist

Rope & Healing
A controversial topic.
Are ropes inherently healing?
NOPE

Are all rope sessions transformative?
NOPE

Does it matter who you work with?
YES!

Tune into this conversation with Rina Fialka and myself about exactly this!

Rina and I have travelled the world studying ropes together from various masters. Something we don’t talk so much about is what else we have studied that greatly informed our work and has a stand apart as Rope practitioners.

Listen to our episode in Rina’s Podcast “The Happy Place”

Listen here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6SOGVZXXSVDlNaAeU1AWlW?si=wLfcnjoVQDioZ_WOXquuEA

Ep. 75 Sh***ri Isn’t the Healer - You Are Happy Place · Episode

𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐚 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝐰𝐡𝐲 𝐄𝐬𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐏𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐥 𝐢𝐬 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐦𝐞 𝐛𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝟑𝐫𝐝 𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐚 𝐲𝐞𝐚𝐫 😉

𝐒𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐋𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝟐𝟎𝟐𝟔:
𝐂𝐮𝐥𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐀𝐥𝐢𝐯𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬 —
𝐃𝐞𝐬𝐢𝐫𝐞 & 𝐈𝐭𝐬 𝐃𝐢𝐬𝐫𝐮𝐩𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 in NYC

I will be leading a Sensual Rope Ritual, taking people into states of presence, depth, and intimacy they had no idea was possible in 1.5hrs.
My work packs punch, leaves a mark on your heart in a way that leaves you yearninggggg for more.

"I had no idea Sh***ri could be like THAT!" people will say...picking their jaws on the floor.

Esther Perel is gathering some of the most brilliant, boundary-pushing minds in intimacy, desire, and human connection for two days!

A two-day gathering for therapists, clinicians, and
curious minds who want to think deeply about desire, connection, and vitality in the modern world.

Get promo and details here!
https://www.eros-unravelled.com/Sessions-Live

Check out this FIRE LINE UP!

If this looks like the debut of a major motion picture for a fine arts film… it’s because it is!�Is it another Clint Eastwood cult classic? Butch Cassidy & the Sundance Kid? Kevin Costner in Dances with Wolves?��Nope, it’s better.

What they have in common is the vast and expansive landscape of the Wild West, where you can see for miles and miles. Where sagebrush rolls by and high desert wind whistles in your ears. Where a hank of jute rope hangs off your belt loop as your horse slowly trots across the Teton Range terrain. ��“Horses, Hotsprings, & Sh***ri” a fine masterpiece of Wild West grandiosity, a retreat experience like no other. This is where women hold the reins, steering their majestic horses through desert sage along a mountain range. Rejuvenating nature drawn baths made of mineral-rich hot spring water. Eyes in awe of unspeakable beauty.

This is just what happens while the sun is up…��As the first stars appear, the fire crackles and glows within. A slither of Sh!bari rope moves across the skin, enticing, enchanting, and entertaining not only the one who ties but the one who receives the gift of this mesmerizing touch. It’s a dance, it’s a surrender, it’s a bliss, it’s a game, it’s a giggle, it’s a letting go. She plays. She holds. She relaxes. She connects. What by day was an external bedazzlement becomes a riveting, sensational internal experience by night. ��We know a woman wants the best of both worlds. She wants her cake. And she’s gonna eat it too.�If you are a soul quester, a life experience seeker, novelty adventurer…then this retreat is for you, woman. ��The perfect full body blend of western outdoor adventure and Sh***ri Ropes for Women, this retreat will leave you feeling restored in ways you never dreamed possible.��Earlierst Bird is live now!
Bring yourself and snag your lasso (aka sh!bari rope) because it’s gonna be one you don’t want to miss. ��Sh***ri & Wilderness Women’s Retreat�May 21-26th, 2026
Tetons, WY��Hosted by yours truly and Traci of Outdoor Mavens, the best loyal steed of an adventure guide I know!

Just as I hosted a Shi.bari rope workshop for 50 couples at the Esther Perel Retreat, most of which were terrified and hesitant. They vocalized this to the entire group. And then….everything they thought they knew about intimacy, connection, touch, the taboo, was flipped on its head. Their jaws were on the floor. Their heads were in the clouds. They said it was transcendent, life changing, transformational. After just 1.5 hrs, they will never be the same. Forever changed.

Why?

Because they felt something they had never known before. You can talk about it all you want. Read about it. Think about. But until you feel it, you don’t really know it.

I know how to guide people into feeling. Into experiencing things they never thought possible. This is my gift. This is what I am here to do.

In just a few short weeks, Katya and I are hosting the Untamed Woman Experience. Notice we say, experience and not retreat. This is a high-touch, high vibe space designed for women to transform, to unravel, to reclaim, to feel more alive than fxcking ever!

We know how to take you there. To guide you into your aliveness. And to take it from the leading expert in intimacy, e r o t i c i s m, and relationships, Esther Perel: Aliveness is cultivated by doing something unexpected—something that breaks the norm, stepping outside of the routine, taking risks, and flirting with novelty. Having an experience of yourself that you haven’t had before.

So here is your last chance. The last call to join us, The Untamed Woman Experience in Costa Rica—Nov 6-11th.

What waits on the other side is a version of yourself you have been dying to meet.

Chose aliveness. Take a risk. 😏

http://www.matriarch.love/untamed

🧶Salt Lake City: Ladies Sh***ri Play & Practice
❤️Hosted by Dona

•When: April, 26th 7-9pm. This is a sober space. Food and drinks are optional after 9pm.

•Where: Dona's house, Millcreek

•Who: Women who have taken a class from Kati Bird

•What to bring: ropes, food/drink to share if you plan on staying after 9pm.

📲Contact/RSVP: direct message Dona
801-834-0606

Ayyyy my loves!
I’m coming back to you in the USA. I’ve been touring through Costa Rica & Thailand the last couple months. Having some remarkable experiences teaching at retreats, including one with the one and only Esther Perel 🤯💕 and also joining Sh***ri Festival in Bangkok.

I am in Thailand until April 20th: if you want to be tied!

🇺🇸Then to the USA—
Utah in May-June
July- Asheville & NYC 😏
August- Boulder
Sept- Utah—-I have a women’s retreat in mind! Stay in the loop!

🧶📸Check out the workshops and photoshoots!!

If you want private classes and sessions. Let’s book now! I have limited time in each location.

Hey you Salt Lake Students! Save the Date! Dec 10th we are having a class for previous students. This is a chance to learn and connect with other locals who want to develop their rope skills!

Rope Skillz: Learn to Tie: Dec 10th & Dec 17th