Coach with Steph

If you are struggling reach out if you need help!

Please, please, please! ❤️

You don't have to struggle alone.

I can help...reach out to me at https://schedulemyappointmentwsteph.as.me/
I'd love to talk to you.

If you don't resonate with me...that's ok! But please reach out to someone!

A friend, a family member, a priest, a co-worker, your doctor....

You don't have to do it alone. xoxoxo

I live unapologetically me and can help you live unapologetically you. xo

I just got home from an amazing time away.

I was reflecting on it yesterday while I was waiting for my flight and this is what I wrote and posted for another FB page that I belong to and work in.

“I am currently in the SLC airport waiting for my flight home after an amazing 12 days away (feels like longer, but in a good way).

I feel so blessed that I was able to see Alex and Nick, with a trip to Vegas with Greg in between.

I am always sad when I have to say goodbye to my boys, but this time was easier.

Nick is working full time, has a great girlfriend and group of friends and is on his way to becoming financially independent. We put a spreadsheet together with all of his expenses and income and have set on the schedule to talk at the end of every month to go over it. This is a big step for both of us! He’s been up and down with his employment since he left college, and honestly, Greg and I haven’t pushed him enough to become gainfully employed and start moving towards independence. I finally decided that enough was enough and he and I have been having conservations about it since the new year. I pulled back some of his “freedoms”, like being able to use one of our credit cards for everything and he has adjusted, and now it is time for more. We have a plan for him and he is on board and excited to work towards being financially independent. I’m proud of him!

Alex is almost one year clean!! Woo hoo!! He is also thriving in the aftercare facility that he is in. He has made friends, has been working part time and is looking towards his future. He leaves tomorrow for training at a youth wilderness facility to become a guide. He is so excited to share his love of the outdoors with the young people and to share his experiences and struggles with drug abuse and his mental health. It is SO amazing to see him so excited about something. I am super proud of him as well.

So, yes, I am sad to be leaving them…my visits are never long enough. But, I am leaving with my heart full of love and pride, not grief and worry.

This has been a long time coming, and obviously I know they will still have struggles…cest la vie…but I know we can all handle it.

I can 100% say that if I hadn’t done this work with Angela Mascenik, I would not be here and my family would not be here. I wouldn’t have been able to mentally and physically endure everything that we have gone through as a family. I know this because in the past I had drowned out everything by drinking. I put my head in the sand like an ostrich and then panicked and tried to ‘fix’ everything when I ‘came to’.

People can change! You can change! You do not have to continue to do things that you know are hurting you.

Do the work, do the work, do the work.

It’s a real pain in the ass at times, and can feel rather redundant…but that’s ok.

Do it anyway!!”

I felt this was important to put here because the tools I learned from my life coach has helped me to totally change my life, and I know I can teach you the tools to change yours.

This work rolls into every aspect of your life if you let it.

I am the Get Real coach for women, what you see is what you get.

Click the link to schedule your free 30 minute consultation and let’s talk about how we can change your life.
https://schedulemyappointmentwsteph.as.me/

I live unapologetically me, and can help you live unapologetically YOU! xoxo

Am I wrong? 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️😂😂

Someone was videoing me! 😂😂😂

Never forget. 🙏🏻

Happy Monday and welcome to a new week!

This is your reminder as we go into this new week that it is OK to make yourself a priority!

It is imperative to your mental and physical health to make yourself a priority!

IT IS NOT SELFISH!

This is what making myself a priority looks like to me:
Sit outside with my coffee and journal
Getting at least 10,000 steps in every day
Going to the gym and getting my 3 workouts in
Drinking just about a gallon of water every day
Taking breaks throughout the day when I am working
Going to bed when I am tired
Do some sort of MELT method, yoga or stretching for at least 10 minutes each day
Get pedicures, manicures, facials, etc at least once a month (Yup...I like to do girly things sometimes! lol)
I get coached from my life coach
And, probably other things I can't remember right now.

These things help me to feel good!!
These things keep me sane...well mostly! lol

What would making yourself a priority look like?

I am the Get Real coach for women, what you see is what you get.

I challenge you to make yourself a priority this week!

I challenge you to click the link to schedule your 30 minute consultation with me if you don't know how to do that or don't think your "allowed" to do that!
https://schedulemyappointmentwsteph.as.me/

I live unapologetically me and can help you live unapologetically you!
xo

Happy September!

August didn’t go as I had hoped.

I had planned to spend the month at our shore house with grand plans of getting all of my workouts in, get on a good eating plan, call a repairman to fix some things in the house and a bunch of other maintenance things around the house.

I went down on the 8th and wasn’t feeling great, but thought it was allergies.

Went to the doctor on the 9th and found out I had Covid and a sinus infection and continued to feel pretty horrible for most of the month.

I tried to look at the bright side.
I was at the beach…there’s no better place to convalesce.
I was alone so I could do as little or as much as I wanted.
I was able to order groceries and have them delivered.

However, it took a toll on me.

I ended up feeling extremely cranky because thoughts about this month were swirling through my head.

This is my journal entry from last week…

“I haven’t journaled. I haven’t gone to the gym. Stayed up to late. Slept in too late. Yup, this is how I chose to live the last couple of weeks. I wasted August. Didn’t call the repairmen, didn’t clean the outside furniture, didn’t clean the garage. Haven’t gone to the beach except for the full moon ceremony. Haven’t hardly walked. I have done NOTHING! I have been a lazy f**k. There I said it, I am a lazy f**k! Yes, I’ve been sick but seriously…you could’ve gone to the gym a few times by now. You could’ve washed the floor. You could’ve called the handyman. You could’ve done SOMETHING, you lazy F**K!”

Woah!! I would not talk to ANYONE else like that!

If any one I know told me they wrote that about themselves I’d say....

”you had covid and a sinus infection. You did EXACTLY the right thing by resting. You are not a lazy f**k and you did do something. You gave your body the chance to recover and get better. None of that stuff you listed is more important than taking care of yourself. You should feel proud that you took care of yourself.”

And that’s what I’ve chosen to tell myself since that day.
I decided I was going to stop being so mean to myself.
I did not want to stay in that nasty thought spiral anymore.

What helped me get out of that thought spiral?

The things I have learned through life coaching.

-I sat down and journaled all of that s**t out of my head.

- I recognized how I was feeling.

-I allowed myself to feel cranky after I wrote that in my journal without trying to force myself to think and feel differently.

-I got coaching from my coach.

And, through those steps I was able to remind myself that feeling that way was a choice.
I could choose to continue to feel so hateful towards myself.

Or, I could choose to accept that I did the right thing.
I chose the latter and that’s what I’ve been thinking all week, which leads me to taking action that feels good.
I’m giving myself grace.
I rest when I need to rest.
I’m getting some walking in.
I’m doing some lighter workouts in the gym..
I’m eating well.
I’m drinking my water.
And other supportive things.

This is your reminder that our brains tell us some pretty s**tty things at times.

We don’t have to believe them…we can challenge them (if we want to) and we can change them (if we want to).

I am the Get Real coach for women, what you see is what you get.

I can help you identify your s**tty thought spirals.
I can help you challenge your thoughts.
I can help you figure out if you want to change your thoughts or not.

Click the link and schedule your 30 minute consultation.
I’d love to talk to you.
https://schedulemyappointmentwsteph.as.me/

I live unapologetically me and can help you live unapologetically you.
To learn more about me, click the link.
https://www.coachwsteph.com/

xo
Steph

Hello Moon!

This isn’t wrong! 🤣

No truer words have ever been spoken!!

Last week I had the pleasure of attending a sober retreat with my coach/friend/boss in Washington State.

There were 7 of us and oh what a week we had!!

We…

-Hiked 4 miles up and 4 miles down Mt Si in typical Washington weather…rainy, misty, cold and dark.
-Had an amazing spa treatment and walked to a waterfall afterwards.
-Did restorative yoga followed by a nice relaxing sound bath.
-Swam in Lake Desire.
-Skinny dipped in Lake Desire! (some of us…lol)
-Went on an awesome food/history tour in Pike Place Market (where this picture was taken, lol).
-Journaled, ate great food, forest bathed, kayaked, got coached, talked, laughed and cried.

All of the above was amazing, but the most amazing thing was the women.

We were women from all walks of life that most likely would not have come together without this retreat (and our willingness and desire to attend).

We were all from different economical backgrounds.
We had different political views.
We had different religious beliefs.
Different familial styles.
Different ways we live our lives.
(I couldn’t help but think of The Breakfast Club movies as I was writing this.)

We had all of these differences (and probably more that I’m not aware of) and lo and behold we all got along!
We all bonded.

We listened to what each other had to say, and felt safe in expressing our views.
We knew we were in a judgement free zone.
We knew we could speak our hearts.
We knew we could learn from each other.

We didn’t always agree with each other and that was ok!
We accepted that we could have differences of opinion and still have these conversations.
We accepted each other exactly as we were.

Isn’t that AMAZING!!

We could have different opinions and still be friends!
We could still enjoy being around each other!

There is not enough of that in the world today.

People are quick to nasty when others don’t share their views.
Families and friendships are destroyed because of differences of opinions.

When did we stop believing that everyone doesn’t have to be like us?
When did we stop just listening to each other?
When did we stop having conversations about what makes us different?
When did we stop being curious about people?
When did people become so narrow-minded?

It makes me very sad.
We miss out on so much when we don’t open ourselves up to others that are different than us.

I try very hard to be open minded to all types of people.
To listen to what others have to say.
To appreciate that we can be different.

I am the Get Real coach for women, what you see is what you get.

I challenge you to talk to someone that is ‘different’ than you.
I challenge you to ask questions and listen to the answers to see if you can learn from them.
And, if not, just be.
Be ok with the differences.
Without judgement.
They have a right to be who they are, just as you have the right to be who you are.

Want to talk about this?
Click on the link to schedule your free 30 minute consultation.
I’d love to talk to you.

I live unapologetically me and can help you live unapologetically you. xo

As always, feel free to leave any questions or comments.