Test Your Why

🎉🎊Happy birthday to my best friend, and the person riding shotgun with me through all of life’s plot twists & adventures…Dr. Jay🎉🎊 Testing our why in real time, asking a million questions, laughing mid-sentence, changing plans on the fly, and somehow still making it all work. We keep it real, we keep it fun, and… half the time we don’t fully know what we’re doing, but we’re absolutely going for it anyway. And that’s what makes it us. There is no one else I’d rather be on this ride with. The way we show up, the laughs that turn into tears because we’re laughing that hard, the real conversations, the “wait… what?” moments, the let’s just try it energy…it’s everything. Your kindness. Your heart. Your grit. And yes, your savage stubbornness…I love every bit of it. You don’t just talk about showing up, you live it. You lead with who you are, unapologetically, and it makes everyone around you better. Me included.

We’ve had the highs, the messy middles, the moments where we look at each other like “are we really doing this?”… and every time, it’s a yes. Because together, we are better. Always have been. Always will be. Cheers to another year of going all in, laughing way too hard, and making memories that only we could make. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! 🔥🎉💯❤️🚀

The only thing more powerful than hate is love ❤️

Your why is what calls you forward when something in your gut says, “step up.” Your why is what pushes you to stand beside someone even when the moment feels heavy. Your why is what reminds you that kindness, courage, and connection are choices we make every single day. So when life puts you in front of a moment like that classroom yesterday, do not look away. Lean in. Stand up. Show up because the world does not change through comfort. It changes when people are brave enough to live their why. And when enough people choose courage over fear, something powerful begins to happen. Communities get stronger. People feel seen. Love moves forward. That is the work. That is the courage. That is Test Your Why. ❤️ - Tay Tay & Dr. Jay

Surround yourself with people who see you. Not just when you are winning. Not just when it looks polished. But when you are scared. When you are questioning. When you are standing at the edge of something exciting and terrifying with your hands shaking a little, and still carrying that solid f**k yes, we are doing this energy.

The last several weeks have stretched me. I have had to sit with real fear. The kind that hands you a list of what ifs and tries to dress them up as truth. What if it fails? What if you are not ready? What if, what if… When my fears were loud, my mom said, Tay Tay, you cannot focus on the what ifs. All you can do is focus on what is. Hot damn. Because that is it. Fear will always offer hypotheticals. Courage plants its feet in reality. That is Test Your Why. It is not just a phrase. It is an anchor. When your mind starts drifting into every worst case scenario, your why pulls you back. It reminds you what matters. It reminds you who you are. It asks, is this aligned? And if the answer is yes, then you move.

So I made a decision. A big one. & the people who truly want to see you win will connect you to others who want to see you win. Solid people. Grounded people. People who help make it happen. People who sit with you in your fear and Still make you feel excited about your journey and the next chapter. They do not shrink when you grow. They help you rise. & that is this guy. Thank you, Andy. For being steady. For being calm when I was going cray & for reminding me who I am when the noise got loud. Also yes, we are in March with Christmas trees in the background & a February 29th calendar moment. Nobody has it all together. We are all just out here building courage in real time.

Here’s to 2026 gettin’ unexpectedly bold. Badass. & beautiful. Own your pace. Own your race. Fck fear. Fck yes. Here we go.🏡❤️💯🚀

Talking about s*x can be uncomfortable due to implicit and explicit messages around s*xuality. Talking about s*x involves vulnerability as there are aspects of our lives we often hide and have fear of judgment about. Embracing this discomfort requires courage to communicate openly.

Dr. Jay will be presenting to students at the University of Wisconsin, where this will be a safe space & questions are encouraged & welcomed to better understand ourselves & others. Good luck, Dr. Jay! & if anyone has additional questions or interest regarding this topic, please reach out directly.

Single, silly, stayin’ spicy, & keeping my standards high. I’m excited about this piece of art I got, why? Because to a lot of people it might just look like lines… but I saw an S. And that’s all I needed. Because that “S” is my reminder of the energy I’m carrying into this season: Spiciness. Silliness. Softness Standards. Superpowers. SWAG

And the best part? It’s going right in my entryway, so every single day it’s a visual check-in before I step into the world: Stay silly, even when life gets heavy. Stay spicy, even when people try to dim you. Keep your standards intact, even when it would be easier to accept less. And remember your superpowers, especially on the days you forget how strong you are…SWAG.

Because real love, real growth, real healing, and real confidence takes softness & grit. It takes showing up for yourself when nobody else is clapping. It takes choosing you, again and again, even when it’s uncomfortable. And since we’re on the topic of love…Love isn’t just for today. It’s not just for a holiday. Love is how you move every day.

Show love on a random Tuesday. Show love when it’s inconvenient. Show love when it’s quiet and nobody’s watching. Because yes… flowers are great. But flowers on a random Tuesday? That hits different.

And truly I’m just out here having solo adventures so I can have some good stories for my friend/trainer HJ next week. Because with me, you never know what’s gonna happen. It’s always a good time, and it’s always a story. 😂🔥 Self-love tour? ✅ & I prefer cookies over cocktails 🤷‍♀️💯🚀 ❤️ - Tay Tay

And now a chapter comes to a close & a new one begins… Dr. Jay’s moving office space. And if those walls could talk. Whew. That space holds history. I came to Minnesota in the middle of the pandemic and sat in that office. Test Your Why was born in that room. It became an official company in that room. We’ve cried there. Dreamed there. Questioned everything there. Celebrated milestones there. Shared secrets, fears, belly laughs, and the kind of conversations that change you.

So of course, we documented it the only way we know how. A little chaotic. A lot of heart. If you want the definition of stubborn grit, it’s Dr. Jay taking down curtains by herself, debris in her hair, refusing help, fully committed. And me being a full goofball, laughing, filming, and quietly soaking in how much this woman has carried in that office.

Jennie navigated cancer in that space. Treatments. Clients. Kids. Life. All of it. That office held some of the hardest days and some of the strongest moments. She didn’t just work there. She fought there. She healed there. She led there.

We’re still shedding the snake. We’re stepping into the year of the horse. We don’t know how fast this ride is about to move, but we’re buckled up and ready. Giddy up. Let’s see what’s next.

If you’re trying to slow down a woman who’s stared cancer in the face and a woman who’s lived her whole life proving limits wrong, you’re messing with the wrong ones, baby. We’re built different. A little stubborn. A lot of grit. Relentless determination.

We’re turned all the way up. Let’s Gallup 🤪 🔥

Out with perfection - none of us are. Keep progressing toward how you want to be in this life.

2025 11,000+ steps every day. How’d Tay Tay do? 364/365 ✅💯🚀. It is s*xy to follow through. Fck yes, we made it. 2025 goodbye 2026, ready🔥

Behind the scenes at TYW looks like this. Dr. Jay in the kitchen cooking up the Sunday secret sauce asking, what’s it missing. Tay Tay posted up like a sous-chef of chaos saying spice, baby, fully aware that dishes are more her lane. Candid comedy on the stuff that keeps us laughing when things get real & messy.

Somewhere in the middle of it all, Dr. Jay told me to F off, with love & precision, after I casually suggested maybe I should move from Minnesota.🤣 That is partnership. That is honesty. This is how we talk end-of-year fears, big dreams, wild ideas, & the stuff we are both excited & terrified about at the same time.

We wipe tears. We laugh hard. We own the mess. Then we move anyway. Because that’s what we do. We rise. We keep stirring the sauce, and sometimes we stir the pot too. Growth needs both.😉🔥🙌🤜🤛💯❤️🚀

I have makeup on. I have jeans on, no hat & I went out on a Saturday night. My couch was side-eyeing me. My sweats were confused. They were like, ok girl, I see you, do your thing. Life is gettin’ wild & bold over here. Then there are the shoes. I heard a woman say they were ugly and I said, say less, I’ll rock em’. Asked for my size, checked out, no hesitation, no fear. I love them. They are different. They are not trying to be liked. And yeah…same.

I cannot keep up with what is in, what is out, what is cool, what is not. I am officially tired of the assignment. So I say do not play it cool. Play it you. Playin’ it cool gets you burned. Doing what feels good to you, that is where the real 🔥 lives. This whole Cloud Dancer year feels like a blank canvas to me. No rules. No outline. Just paint what makes you come alive. The messy. The brave. The quiet wins. The loud risks. All of it counts. Show up for yourself even when it feels awkward. Yes, this is a selfie. When you live alone, you become the photographer, the hype crew, the voice of reason, and the one who says, no really, we are doing this. &, I’m here for it.

We have 24 days left in 2025. Twenty four chances to choose grit over comfort. Fire over fear. You over expectations. To wear the shoes. To take the chance. To be seen. To be different. To keep becoming. Just sharing my silliness, the spice, & the exact lane I am in right now. Bold. A little unhinged in the best way. Still standing. Still choosing me. And if the color of the year chooses to be bland, add your spice, baby. Buckle up. Let’s go. ❤️ - Tay Tay 🚀