Whitney Gale Coaching

I’ve wrestled with an inner struggle around expressing how and what I felt and sharing my thoughts and perspectives. I too often got caught up in my worries about not being understood, sounding dumb, whether or not what I had to say was valuable, and being judged.

This web of worry and self judgment often prevented me from fully expressing myself, limiting me in many aspects and areas of my life, including work, relationships, creativity, and enjoyment.

This challenge has also been one of my most significant areas for growth.

I recently accessed a flavor of courage which allowed me to share an untold slice of my story with an acquaintance whom I adore, appreciate and admire. I figured this was an experiment to see how scary this would be.

Over time, I’ve learned that my thinking can sometimes convince me of things that aren’t actually true.

On the surface, this was just another conversation between two fabulous women who are fond of one another. But under the surface, in my experience, this conversation was evidence of a massive inner shift taking place within me.

I fluently shared aspects of my story that I hadn't been able to articulate before. As I opened up to her, touching on chapters of my story that I had never shared, I began to notice my perception of my experience shift in a big way.

It wasn't about what I WAS feeling, thinking, or experiencing overall. This time, it was very apparent that I was NOT experiencing certain thoughts or feelings that previously prevented me from opening up and sharing.
This time:
I did NOT feel apprehensive to share.
I was NOT scared of being judged.
I was NOT lost for words to articulate what I had to say.
I was NOT searching for ways to sound smart.
I was NOT paralyzed by thoughts that she wouldn't understand me.

Holy shift! My interaction with her helped me recognize a stark contrast to previous internal struggles, which, to me were an arrow pointing me to my progress.

Previously, fear, worry, and self-judgment would have mostly consumed me but they were conspicuously absent this time.

This time I felt a sense of liberation and relief.

As I told her parts of my story from a wholehearted place, she was wide-eyed, engaged, curious, intrigued, and supportive.

Our conversation flowed from both sides and as we talked, we danced. The more I opened up with my unique lived experience, the more she met me there, matching the energy I brought.

The power and connection with our conversation directly resulted from the environment I had consciously created within myself. I viewed her through a lens of appreciation, admiration, acceptance, and nonjudgment. But to see her through that lens, I had first to view myself in the same light.

The course of our conversation led to:
Connection
Curiosity
Compassion
Acknowledgment
Expressiveness
Empowerment
Delight

What I experienced in our conversation is an example of what can take place when I consciously choose my inner stance, despite what my former worries had me nearly convinced of.

My inner stance is where true colors emanate from.

I had created a spacious, loving foundation to show up in, lightheartedly and joyously. I embodied my true colors in our conversation which in turn allowed her to share the space and freedom of expression as we talked for hours.

A chosen inner stance continues to empower me and can serve to empower those who I come into contact with. When I operate from my true colors, the true colors of others can come out to play too.

The inner stance is a lens I live through. It shapes how I perceive myself, shows me the beauty and love that surrounds us in this world, and allows me to see the brilliance and greatness in others.

Remember, as a wise man once said, "Everywhere you look, you see what you're looking for."

What are you looking for within yourself, the world, and others?

With love,
Whitney
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Live Your True Colors is an experience curated for a select group of seven brilliant, vibrant women. It’s a unique opportunity to express your truths in ways that are uniquely and authentically YOU.

It’s about connecting and aligning to your vibrance, being anchored in the truths of who you are, and standing in your brilliant light so it can shine. Who you are is whole and complete, a divine expression of life. 

It’s about shining the innate light of love within you onto the lies you have innocently believed about yourself, the world, and others to unveil the most beautiful truths of who you are at your core. 

Embark on a transformative journey where you will uncover what is uniquely true about you, and align your life with these authentic self expressions. This is your opportunity to discover how to turn up the vibrancy on what lights you up. 

When we no longer hold ourselves back, dim our true colors, or hide behind our shadows, we allow our light of brilliance and greatness to flood the lives we lead and shine on everyone we come into contact with.
If a dimness inside is making you feel so small, it may be the whisper of your wisdom, inviting you to seek out and find the truth within you.

LIVE YOUR TRUE COLORS is for you if:
🩷 You want to experience more vibrance in your life
❤️ You wish you could express yourself more fully and freely
🧡 You’re tired of holding yourself back from being unconditionally YOU
💛 You’re curious to explore and live what your true colors look, feel, taste, smell, and sound like
💚 You know there’s more inside of you to tap into and express, and you’re not sure how to go about this by yourself
💙 You want to be a part of a supportive, curious, expressive, creative group of like-minded, wholehearted people like you 
💜 You want to give yourself the gift of letting yourself lean into your self-expression, letting your true colors shine in ways you’ve not yet explored.

If this stirs something in you, an invitation awaits you. Following the nudges within is often the first step in welcoming a beautiful gift into our lives.

With Love, 
 Whitney

I’ve upgraded my forgiveness from instant, to instant, infinite forgiveness ♾️🙏🏼💥

I’ve always had the power to do this but I didn’t realize it until recently.

For a while, I had been practicing instant forgiveness. This looked like me catching myself in the act of judging myself and then working on forgiving myself.

With practice, I got pretty good at this.

But working on forgiving myself gave me one more thing to work on! It was an unconscious creation I had made which kept the freedom that forgiveness offers me just out of my reach. I had to work on it, and earn it.

It took me a while to see that this was a system I had created, to extend the length of the process, and amount of effort required. I had made it so much harder and more complicated than it need to be.

But once I saw this, I could see through it and choose something different for myself.

So, I choose to drop the idea that there was work needed, and collapse the amount of time it was taking me to forgive myself. Bam! Instant forgiveness in an instant.

Now, in relatively no time at all I choose to forgive myself without needing to do any work on it - I can simply drop it, forgive myself, and come back to myself with unconditional love, compassion and carry on.

My forgiveness practice had once been lots of work, time, and required significant mental and emotional energy.

Anything that was once in the way of forgiving was always my creation. Any reason I had, or excuse I was secretly looking for was only ever created by ME as a sneaky way to keep blaming, shaming and judging myself.

It blew my mind to see that forgiveness did not need to require anything more, other than to notice, and simply forgive. It was simple. This was not a complicated process as I had convinced myself of before.

I’m choosing to create all of that differently now, and it is another expression of personal freedom. I’m choosing this because I can, and because I am that I create myself powerfully, and from unconditional love.

Now, forgiveness is instant, and infinite. This not only works on myself but I use it with the way I see other people, and situations in the world I live in.

Seeing this lesson has been massively helpful for me and has added to my list of ‘what I know’.

And living what I know is a now way of being that is bringing me so much joy and a peace that is really special. So I’m gonna keep doing this.

Living what I know means that instant, infinite forgiveness is always there for me any time I need it.

What would instant infinite forgiveness mean for you?

With love,
🧡 Whitney

Ever feel as if you’re expanding into yourself?

I am creating an expansion of myself. 

The woman I have been growing into has been within me all along. She’s been waiting for me to demonstrate wholeheartedly that I can hold her.

I have needed to evolve into and through various versions of myself to understand that I DO have the space within for her to exist and be expressed. 

There is an evolution taking place within me. 
This evolution is being expressed to me and through me in various ways, shapes, and forms. 

I have been creating a conversation with my YOUniverse to facilitate this evolution.

This conversation is the central point from which this evolution occurs and expands. 

Every day is an opportunity to lean into this evolution.
Every day is day one. 
Every day is a day WON.

There is no failure. 
Only learning, and growth. 
Only learning to love more and unconditionally, starting with myself. 

The more pure unconditional love I can generate from within and give to myself, the more pure unconditional love I can offer others and need nothing in return. 

To activate this unconditional love, I use a daily dose of self-forgiveness.

Forgiveness backed by unconditional love is like a skillet so hot that it melts away the harsh, hurtful, and unnecessary judgements I had placed on myself and carried with me.

When these judgments melt away, I cook up something beautiful, delicious, and nourishing to my soul. When a soul is nourished, it can nourish souls that desire to be fed. 

Who would I be to be daring enough to allow myself to be fully expressed?

I’m about to find out.

Who I create myself to be on a daily basis is fueling my evolution from within. 

I am the conduit through which this evolution takes place.

The fulfillment I continue to experience throughout this year and years to come is always only up to me to create.

It is a creation I look forward to cookin’ up in this hot hot skillet where forgiveness and unconditional love sizzle. 

When I enter this place, my mind is often full. Full of thoughts, ideas, memories, stories, to-do lists, tasks, and objectives.

The first breath I take here is an act of letting go of all that occupies my mind.

With each conscious breath, my intention is to surrender to what is.

In doing that, I can open myself up, to marvel at the beauty and magnificence of nature that surrounds me.

I permit myself to embrace the wonder.

As I immerse myself in the simplicity, stillness and silence of my surroundings, my mind becomes still.

With very little effort on my part, my mind slows down, quiets, and empties itself.

Through this process of walking, breathing, and being in complete awe of my surroundings and delighted with my company (which sometimes is only myself, and usually my dog), I am able to clear all that occupies space in my mind.

I empty myself out.

Yet somehow, without fail, every time I emerge from this place, although I am entirely emptied, I am completely full.

This is a simple and beautiful experience while it is also quite profound. It’s something that greatly contributes to the fulfillment I experience in my life.

If you’ve ever been to this place, or somewhere like this one on a morning like this, I imagine that you may have had the delight of experiencing something similar.

What are some ways you empty yourself so that you can be completely filled up?

🧡✌🏼
Whitney

Who do you get to be as you nurture the seeds you’ve planted?

So often in the past, I’d wrestle with questions like:
🤨 “HOW am I going to find the time to accomplish the things I’ve committed to?”
🤨“HOW can I possibly manage everything I’ve said yes to?”
🤨 “HOW can I say no without missing out?”

Wrestling with those questions only put MORE pressure on me. It was exhausting. The answers were never as rewarding, or fulfilling as I wanted them to be.

Instead of asking HOW, I now ask myself: WHO?
✨WHO do I want to create myself as?✨

🤨 Do I want to create myself as overwhelmed, overcommitted and unfulfilled?

👎🏼 Nope. Tried it. It’s not the way I want to get down.👎🏼

I’ve seen a different way of being that I prefer.

And, lucky me! I get to choose the way I get to be, I get to choose my get down. 💃🏻🪩🕺🏻

So, the question I’m exploring is:
🤩 Who do I get to be to tend to the seeds I’ve planted?
🤩 Who do I get to show up as, to honor my commitments by expanding into them instead of shrinking into overwhelm?

The life I’m creating, living, creating, and living is an incredible gift. It is a huge privilege and a constant stream of miracles, when I keep my eyes open to seeking them, seeing them and let them in.

⚡️I am present to the powerful creator that I am.
⚡️I create the space and time needed to meet my commitments eye to eye, heart to heart.

⚡️What I commit myself to is an extension of my word.

🌱One of the seeds I’ve planted is to share more of what’s happening in my life. What’s unfolding before me, within me and around me.

🌱 I’m compelled to nurture this seed EVEN IF it’s not always comfortable.

🌱 I choose to nurture this seed EVEN IF I have temporary thoughts of worry that this won’t make sense to you.

🌱 I nurture this seed EVEN IF it resonates with anyone who reads it.

I have FAITH in the process. I’m learning to love the process now, more than ever.

✨What are some seeds of WHO you are being that you’re nurturing?

Whitney
🧡✌🏼

Noticing where I overcommitted myself is a lesson and an opportunity for growth.

What I commit myself to is an extension of my word.

I value, admire, and respect being a woman of integrity. I cherish this quality of being in myself, as well as in others. I am a woman who honors and keeps my word. And, I strive to clean up any mess I’ve created if and when I am not able to keep my word.

I noticed that I overcommitted myself, and I decided to embrace it as an opportunity and a lesson instead of another way to be hard on myself and shrink into self-judgment, people-pleasing, and hiding in the shadow of an old way of being that wasn’t serving me anymore.

So often in the past, I’d wrestle with the question, “HOW am I going to find the time to accomplish these things?” Or, “HOW can I possibly manage everything I’ve said yes to?” Sometimes, in the past, I would ask myself, “HOW can I say no to them?”

Instead of wrestling with a question that only puts MORE pressure on me, I’ve flipped that question into one that’s more interesting, empowering and FUN to play with and explore…

Instead of asking HOW, I now ask myself: WHO?
WHO do I want to create myself as?
Do I want to create myself as overwhelmed and overcommitted? Not particularly… I’ve tried it, and I’ve seen a different way to be that I prefer, and since I get to choose… well, it’s pretty clear which option I want.

So now it’s question of: WHO?
WHO do I get to be? To surrender what isn’t serving me, allow myself to pivot, expand, and stay ALL IN on what I’m committed to?
I ask that with very intentional language and for a very significant reason.
Did you catch it?
WHO do I GET to be?
I am letting go of the HAVE to, NEED to, or SHOULD.

The life I’m creating, living, creating, and living is such an incredible gift.

It is a huge privilege and a constant stream of miracles when I keep my eyes open to seeing them and let them in.

This is a growth edge, fueling my fulfillment.

🧡✌🏼

FAITH is an act of SURRENDER
FAITH is an act of CREATION

I’ve been given countless gifts by life, for which I’m incredibly grateful. One of my most recent and impactful gifts has been SURRENDERING to an untrue story:
I hesitate, and hold back because I am uncertain.
I am uncertain because I hesitate and hold back. 

These two concepts were massively tangled up and had been causing me quite a bit of silent suffering. 

I’d never let you see this because I was hiding and holding back. I’d never tell you about it because I hesitated to take up the space to do so. 

For a LONG time, it was as if I was trapped.
I could not see a way out. 

Today, I experienced a pow-WOW-erful shift. Today, with the loving support of my incredible peers, coaches and mentors, I could see, and surrender the false idea that I require certainty, and let go of one of the lies perpetuating my hesitation and holding back. 

I am no longer living in a hesitant state of being. 
I am not holding back or timidly shying away.
I don’t have to see everything clearly before I take action. 
I do not require certainty before I speak up. 
I only require commitment and faith. 

Clarity often comes as a result of action, especially when dealing in the realms of the unknown. FAITH is strengthened by taking action despite the uncertainty of the unknown. 

FAITH is what moves mountains. Doubt is what creates them. 
 Whenever I would hesiate and hold back, I would experience a plethora of mental and emotional discomfort. I often incorporated an unhealthy dose of beating myself up, topped off with heavy self-judgment, which would fuel my self-doubt. 

That way of being is entirely in the past. 

Now, I CREATE opportunities to activate my inner certainty and faith in life and myself.

I have FAITH I’ll see what I need to see and understand what I need to understand if I keep my eyes and heart open.

I am CERTAIN that these things are true.
I am CERTAIN that these things can be true for you, too.

🧡✌🏼
Whitney

Playing Hide And Seek 🫣 🤗
I used to love playing hide and seek as a kid. I was an itty bitty little girl, and I could fit into some tiny, awkward spaces. At the time, this worked in my favor. I remember playing hide and seek and sometimes wondering if anyone would ever find me because I was hiding in a spot so tiny that most people wouldn’t even think to look there. After all, ‘how’d anyone fit into that tiny space in the first place?”

This realization is a big one for me and I’m choosing to shine a loving light on it. Right here. Where else in my life have I been playing hide and seek?

I have been seeking and finding that hiding from and avoiding things I am/was afraid of only ever feeds the source of my fear. By hiding, what I’m scared of doesn’t go away; it only grows larger and becomes scarier. This hiding perpetuates the fear and fuels my desire to hide. 

I am far less interested in what fuels my fear at this stage. I’m WAY more interested in and curious to live into the ways I fuel my fulfillment. To do this, I am required to alter my relationship with fear.

For a long time, one of my most significant sources of fear has been sharing myself on social media. I’ve felt so much safer and far more comfortable in hiding - not sharing my story and the legs of this journey with you (whoever you are reading this). 

In my mind, I created this as much more complicated than simply sharing my experiences. I’ve been seeking a way to overcome this fear that suits me. It’s been a great challenge because so far, this suit has been lined with a fear-fueled discomfort that’s been SO unbearable I opted not to wear the suit at all. 

Until recently, I kept choosing to hide in a tiny, hard-to-find place. 

Well, I’ve been doing some ‘work’ as they say.

In this work, I’ve come to see that how I had created my relationship to fear no longer serves me. I’ve outgrown it.

Now that I can see that, I can offer myself a hefty dose of love and compassion to fuel a source of fulfillment from within.

I can love the little girl hiding in tiny, hard-to-find places and seek her there, inviting her to come play a new game of show and tell. 

🤗✌🏼🧡

So, how 'bout that ten-day cleanse?

Long story short, I'm SO grateful to have done it.

Big picture, I feel better these past two weeks than I have (through and through physically, mentally, and spiritually) in about three months. Truth be told.

Today marks two weeks since I've had coffee (traditionally a staple in my morning routine), and lemme tell ya, I feel energized. I don't crave coffee. I thought I would, but I don't.

I was reminded that listening to myself (and most importantly, acting upon the wisdom that whispers to me) is not one to steer me 'wrong.'

I was reminded that my body is capable of things my mind may not think possible at a particular moment. I was reminded of how relatively easy it can be to prove my mind wrong.

Every day presented different challenges that I was able to overcome somehow, someway. Despite these challenges, every day became more manageable because I was actively choosing to keep trusting the process, allowing whatever was happening to run its course.

There were numerous times when I began to second-guess my decision, and there were plenty of times when I noticed that my mind began to wander into wonder, attempting to plant judgemental and self-critical thoughts in the flowerbed of my mind. In those moments, I pulled them weeds right at their wiry roots.

I got more in touch with what was happening (and not happening) in my body, my senses elevated, and my overall awareness increased.

I became more aware of things I had dozed off to - such as giving into habits like eating when I wasn't hungry and not being as mindful as I was about what fuel I added to my tank.

I was able to reconnect with the messages, signals, and sensations my body constantly gives me. Like a clearout of an internal cobwebby mess that I couldn't see but knew was there.

I noticed where I had been willy-nilly, neglectful, frivolous, too strict, and sometimes not as disciplined as I know what's good for me in my relationship with my body, food, sleep, and self-care. And there's also the adage of 'everything in moderation, including moderation). Also, my sense of smell - woah, my sniffer was next level.

At about halfway, things were still challenging at times, but by then, I had collected more evidence that I could continuously overcome those mini-challenges within the greater challenge; I had lots of proof.

I've been reminded to stay the course even after crossing the finish line.

The thing is that there is no line, but there IS a direction I'm looking in with a clarity and freshness that I would not have been able to get from 'out there.' This only always comes from within, from the same source that whispers to me, nudging me.

It's up to me whether I listen and act accordingly or not. I've found that the more I listen, and act upon this whispering wisdom the more I continue to see more clearly, from the inside out.

With love,
Whitney

"Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. ​​​​​​​​
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Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too. ​​​​​​​​
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A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents, meetings, and material assistance, which no man could have dreamt would have come his way” - WH Murray ​​​​​​​​
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UNREASONABLE COMMITMENT has had a MASSIVE IMPACT on my personal fulfillment. ​​​​​​​​
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Five weeks before an international flight, my passport was in the process of renewal, which was said to take 7-10 weeks.​​​​​​​​
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I remembered something a peer coach said in a discussion about commitment. 👉🏼 "Outrageous action creates outrageous outcomes." ​​​​​​​​
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To reinforce my commitment, I took outrageous actions:​​​​​​​​
- I booked an international flight and a hotel without a valid passport.​​​​​​​​
- I emailed my Congresswoman and State Senator to ask for help (yes, they both did!). ​​​​​​​​
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Taking these actions wasn't crazy. It was a demonstration of commitment to a high degree.​​​​​​​​
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My actions issued a stream of events I could only have hoped for, leading me to my desired, outrageous outcome, and then some. ​​​​​​​​
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The 10 days I spent in the UK, and 2 days in Iceland have had immeasurable impact on my life. The people I spent time with and the experiences I had are priceless and I’ll carry them with me forever.​​​​​​​​
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What outrageous outcomes might show up for you, if you were to 'outrageously' commit? ​​​​​​​​
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