08/19/2026
How do you know when it might be time for therapy if your life is still “working”?
This is a question I’ve heard many times over the years, especially from capable people who are used to being the ones who hold things together.
You may be functioning well on the outside and still notice that something feels off. Maybe you’re more anxious than you used to be. Maybe the same relationship or work pattern keeps showing up. Maybe you understand exactly what you’re doing and why you’re doing it, but you still can’t seem to change it.
And then comes the thought: “I should be able to figure this out myself.”
I understand why that thought can be so powerful. When you’ve spent years being resourceful, responsible and independent, asking for support can feel surprisingly difficult.
Therapy doesn’t have to begin at the point of crisis. Sometimes it begins when you’re ready to pay closer attention to what keeps asking for your attention.
I wrote more about this in my latest blog post, How to Know If You Need Therapy, Even If You Don’t Feel “Bad Enough.”
If you’ve been wondering about this for yourself, I hope it gives you a thoughtful place to begin.
Maybe your life looks pretty good from the outside. You’re working, taking care of your responsibilities, showing up for the people you love, handling the appointments, the emails, the decisions, and the things that need to get done. Nothing is dramatically falling apart, and yet you may still fee...