Melissa Lee Parent Transformation Coach

03/01/2025

Rabbit Rabbit!

It’s a new month. 🎉
According to folklore, saying rabbit rabbit as your first words on the first day of the new month will bring you good luck all month. It’s origins are uncertain, but it can be traced back to the 1500s.

So here’s to a month filled with luck

02/20/2025

🚨 Little t Trauma: The Wounds You Don’t Always See 🚨

When people think of trauma, they often imagine major, life-threatening events—war, assault, natural disasters. But what about the wounds that don’t make headlines? The ones that seem “small” but leave a lasting mark?

This is Little t trauma, and it’s just as real as the big stuff.

What is Little t Trauma?

Little t trauma includes distressing experiences that aren’t necessarily life-threatening but still impact your emotional well-being. These experiences can be dismissed, invalidated, or overlooked, yet they shape how we see ourselves, others, and the world.

Examples of Little t Trauma:

💔 A painful breakup that left you questioning your worth
💬 Constant criticism that rewired your self-confidence
👥 Bullying or rejection that made you afraid of connection
🏡 Growing up in a home where emotions weren’t validated
💼 Losing a job or experiencing financial stress
🚪 Feeling abandoned, even if unintentionally

Why It Matters

Little t trauma doesn’t always trigger PTSD, but that doesn’t mean it’s harmless. Over time, these experiences accumulate, leading to:
🔄 Negative self-beliefs (“I’m not good enough”)
💥 Anxiety, depression, or chronic stress
🚫 Fear of vulnerability or relationships
😞 Emotional numbness or overreaction to small triggers

What makes Little t trauma tricky is that it often gets dismissed.
❌ “That wasn’t a big deal.”
❌ “Other people have it worse.”
❌ “I should just get over it.”

But trauma isn’t about what happened—it’s about how it affected you.

Healing Starts With Awareness

✅ Acknowledge that your experiences matter
✅ Stop comparing your pain to others’
✅ Seek support, whether through therapy, journaling, or self-reflection
✅ Practice self-compassion instead of minimizing your feelings

Your pain is valid. Your healing is possible. 💙

Have you ever dismissed your own experiences because they “weren’t that bad”? Let’s talk about it. ⬇️

🌺Ready to work through your trauma? I'm currently accepting new clients. Send me a message or go to my website to schedule a Freedom Formula call🌺

And remember

You Matter

02/14/2025

Hi friends!I’m thinking of you. Happy Thursday. So here’s some thoughts. When I was in the military, there’s a very common phrase that annoyed the ever living s**t out of me. Perception is reality. I'm The military it is not used in a positive way most of the time. But later in life, now, I begrudgingly acknowledge that it has significant amount of merit. Now I won’t fully go down this rabbit hole this time today, but I do invite you to look at how you perceive things. If you perceive that things are negative, are stuck, then you are. However, if you perceive them as an opportunity to grow, shift, do more. Then you can. If you perceive yourself to always be limited or a victim, if you’re stuck in that story, then you are. Now, if you perceive that you can change, go somewhere new, do something different, be beyond where you are in that moment, you can. If you perceive that you are limited, then you are. Your perception is your reality.If you believe you’re stuck, you’ll feel trapped.If you believe you’re growing, every challenge becomes a lesson.Shift your perception, and you’ll shift your world.What story are you telling yourself today? So friends, how can you shift your perspective?If you’re ready to work on that, shoot me a message. It’s one of my favorite topics, as much as that saying does irk me. And remember friends, You Matter.

02/10/2025

5 Types of Trauma People Don’t Recognize

1️⃣ Emotional Neglect�Not all wounds are visible. Growing up in an environment where your emotions were ignored or dismissed can be just as damaging as overt abuse. Just because “nothing bad happened” doesn’t mean nothing happened.
2️⃣ Medical Trauma�Surgeries, hospital stays, or chronic illnesses—especially when you felt powerless—can leave a lasting emotional impact. Just because it was “necessary” doesn’t mean it wasn’t traumatic.
3️⃣ Chronic Invalidations�Experiencing subtle but persistent invalidation chips away at your sense of safety and belonging. The “little things” add up.
4️⃣ Toxic Work Environments�Ever felt like your job slowly drained the life out of you? Being undermined, gaslit, or forced to function under extreme stress can leave you carrying work-related trauma long after you’ve clocked out.
5️⃣ Social Rejection & Friendship Betrayal�Heartbreak isn’t just for romantic relationships. Losing a close friend, being excluded, or experiencing deep betrayal from someone you trusted can leave lasting scars.
➡️ Have you ever experienced a trauma that people didn’t take seriously? Drop it in the comments—let’s talk about it.

01/30/2025

Hi friends,

I’m thinking of you.

Happy New Year!
That’s right, Happy New Year.
No, I have not lost my marbles, or at least not all of them yet, and the cheese is still somewhat on my cracker.

Today is New Year’s.
Chinese New Year.
Lunar New Year.

That means if you are a person who hinges their makeover, their resolution, their whatever on New Year’s Day, here’s another chance. There are actually 26 different New Years celebrated globally. So that is 26 fu***ng chances for you to restart and do again. If you are one of those people that has to start on the New Year. That’s right, 26 fu***ng chances. So if you fall off the resolution cart on one of them, you have 25 more chances to say, this is the year I get in shape. This time, this resolution. So if you’re waiting on New Year’s, the next year, to make different decisions, to start your fitness goals, to do new things, to learn new health habits, to work on your mental, whatever the f**k it is.

If you think you have to wait until New Year’s, happy fu***ng New Year.

If you don’t do it this time, you still have 23 more to go this year.

You're ready to make these changes for good and know that having support is the best way to make it happen?

Send me a message to learn how we can work together. 🎉

Love you friends.

And remember

You Matter

01/14/2025

Empowering
Liberating
Self-Love
Joyous
Profound
Inspirational

The feeling you get when you hold a boundary without shame or guilt.
When you realize your worth and embrace it.
When your wounded self no longer repeats unhealthy patterns.
No longer settling for crumbs, excuses, or BS story from yourself and others.
Refusing to water yourself down, play small, or dimming your light out of fear of not being loved, wanted, or accepted.

You are so much more than you give yourself for.

If you are ready to break free from your cage. To no longer live with clipped wings. Feeling stuck and trapped.

Message me, let's set up a Free Formula Call.
Make 2025 the year you get Unstuck and Empowered.

01/08/2025

12/22/2024

🌟 Exciting News! 🌟
I’ve decided to open up space for 5 new one-on-one clients! If you’ve been looking for a sign, this is it. 💫

Do you:
⚡️Feel stuck in life, unable to move past emotional or mental roadblocks.
⚡️Struggle with self-sabotage, low self-worth, and negative self-talk.
⚡️Have unresolved trauma impacting your mindset, behaviors, or relationships.
⚡️Desire to break free from limiting beliefs and patterns that no longer serve them.
⚡️Want to reconnect with yourself and find clarity in you purpose.
⚡️Looking to establish and express healthy boundaries
⚡️Are you open to holistic, nontraditional therapeutic approaches combined with clinical techniques.

Do you want to:
🌟Gain clarity on the root causes of your emotional and mental roadblocks.
🌟Shift negative internal dialogue into empowering self-talk.
🌟Repattern limiting beliefs and self-sabotaging behaviors.
🌟Heal unresolved trauma through a combination of brainspotting, somatic work, and mindfulness practices.
🌟Feel grounded and connected through personalized breathing, meditation, and spirituality practices.
🌟Step into your power with clarity, confidence, and a clear path forward.

🤠As a Mindset & Empowerment Coach, my approach is deeply transformative. I combine:
✨ Trauma-informed methods
✨ Inner dialogue reprogramming
✨ Reiki & spiritual techniques
✨ Clinical counseling tools
✨ Brainspotting

This journey is all about reclaiming your peace, confidence, and purpose. If you’re ready to embrace growth and healing, DM me or click the link in my bio to schedule a FREE Freedom Formula call. Let’s create the life you deserve. 💛

12/01/2024

Rabbit rabbit. Here we are. It’s the last first day of a new month for 2024. 🤯

And I'm ready.

Stop waiting for Monday, next month, or even the new year. If you want change, make it now. Small steps lead to massive shifts.

Interested in shifting your life and mindset? I am now accepting new 1:1 clients. DM for details

10/25/2024

Knowledge Nuggets

I'm owning that I am struggling to extend grace to these people. Yes, it was an accident however they also laughed saying oops, I guess I don't know my left from my right.

I am giving myself grace for this very human reaction I'm having.

I'm also giving myself grace for my emotional meltdown earlier and I'll probably have another.

Give yourself grace to feel your fu***ng feels people and process them.

People are so focused on looking at the bright side, at just staying positive that it becomes toxic and repressive.

Don't get me wrong, a positive outlook is paramount but not taking the space to acknowledge something sucks hair monkey balls. To not take the space of hurt, anger, grief, loss, or rage is only damaging yourself in the long run.

A situation can suck, you acknowledge that it sucks, AND be grateful/positive at the same time.

Give people the space to express their feels without always feeling the urge to automatically deflect with sunshine and rainbows. Give them the grace to feel their s**t.

In turn though

When they start to fixate and get lost in those feels, that is when grace turns into enabling. By holding that space with them without holding loving boundaries.

By getting caught in your story, addicted to is, lost in your feels... When you continually say I can't do because of x and you NEVER TRY, that is when grace with yourself becomes excuses.

And Remember

You Matter