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THIS!!!!!!
BE CAREFUL WITH TSHIRTS AND BACKPACKS TOO. A NAME AND A FAVORITE CHARACTER GIVES A PREDATOR ALL THE INFORMATION THEY NEED TO LURE YOUR CHILD AWAY. ALL IT TAKES IS A MOMENT.

What information are you driving around? Be mindful of what information you are putting out there.

There is a lot going on in our world today that we have to talk with our children about. With all that is happening, please do not forget to continue talking to your children about their personal safety. The predators are not taking a break. Are you uncomfortable talking with your children about body safety? There are many books and videos or you can ask your school or organization to contact me. I am happy to set up some fun, interactive classes to teach children about safety or come and talk to the parents. There are several simple strategies that I can offer.

Dear everyone,
PLEASE stop posting your children's pictures with awards and signs and school shirts. Here is why: You just told the whole internet, strangers and predators, the name of your child, where he or she goes to school, their grade and possibly more information. Now all they have to do is pull up in the carpool line and ask for "Jane Smith". Predators are smart and sneaky. Be smarter!!!

How to talk to kids about sexual abuse, and how you can help prevent it In addressing this incredibly important topic, parents need to start early and be open, honest and calm.

Teaching children safety rules for their bodies is a key principle for pushing back against abuse.

Credit: Some Secrets Should Never Be Kept

Yesterday, we were at the Doctor's office. I literally felt the need to protect my daughter from the nurse. The doctor and the rest of the staff was wonderful, but this nurse obviously needed more training. The first time she walked in she tried to force Marni to give her a hug until I said " I don't force her to hug." She said " I am her nurse; am just trying to make her comfortable . We are friendly here at children's" ( Why do people think this is ok? Would it make you feel comfortable if a stranger forced you to hug them?) Then she asked me, with an attitude , " She doesn't shake hands either?" I explained that she can shake hands but I am teaching her that it is her body her choice." The nurse just gave me a look. After the allergy test , she needed to rub some hydrocortizone cream on her back. Marni said "No". I explained it was just anti itch cream. The nurse said " We don't do no. My granddaughter is her age and she is not allowed to tell adults no and then she rubbed the cream on and said , with an attitude " You're Welcome."
She could have taken her time and explained to Marni what the cream was. She could have been more respectful of my daughter. This is a doctor's office and they obviously have to touch the children but there are so many better ways to handle this. I hope it is a lack of training rather than a lack of caring. I reiterate my belief that training can help others show children respect for their bodies and they should help children understand it is their body their choice,

This is so sad .

ORMOND MAN ARRESTED IN PLOT TO R**E 3-YEAR-OLD GIRL

**Warning: Difficult to read, and not for young audiences**

Volusia County sheriff’s detectives have arrested an Ormond Beach man on charges of conspiracy to commit sexual battery on a child after the discovery of a series of text messages containing a plot to groom and r**e a 3-year-old child.

Lafe Best, 37 (DOB 2/26/1981, pictured at left), of Golf Avenue in the Ormond Beach area, was arrested Tuesday evening and taken to the Volusia County Branch Jail, where he remained in custody today without bond.

His arrest stems from another case in Ormond Beach involving Best’s friend and sexual partner, 39-year-old Benjamin Worster (DOB 5/25/1979, pictured at right). Worster was arrested by Ormond Beach police in January on charges of lewd or lascivious molestation, lewd or lascivious conduct and 21 counts of possession of child po*******hy.

That case was prompted by the discovery of text messages on Worster’s phone. The 3-year-old victim and her mother had moved into Worster’s apartment on Hand Avenue in December. Soon, the 3-year-old girl told her mother Worster had touched her. On Dec. 17, Worster was taken to the hospital after an apparent overdose, and the victim’s mother found his phone lying on his bed. That’s when she discovered a text message thread with someone named “Lafe,” and a sickening description of a plan to groom and r**e the 3-year-old girl, whether she was conscious or not.

A portion of the messages are included below because they demonstrate how predators work to groom young children for sexual abuse.

***WARNING: These aren’t a complete record of the text messages exchanged between Worster and Best, but they’re still graphic.***

Worster: “Single mom&Has a 3 year old daughter&Shes not a very good mom and she ignored her daughter constantly&2nd day of meeting her daughter she ran up to give me a hug and buried her head right in my crotch&So im gonna get to work on that”

Worster: “And at 3 im working with memories that wont stick”

Worster: “Think I migbt casually accidently let her see it a few times see how she reacts maybe bring her by to watch a movie at your place when your roomates aren't home get her used to you too"

Worster: “Im looking up things under an anonymous browser on things that will safely make kids pass out for a couple hours:”

Best: “Cant wait lol”

Worster: “Me either&Gotta take this opportunity while I can at my age who knows when something like this will land in my lap again"

Best: “I know right. I've got all kinds of Visions dancing in my head right now lol”

Best: “Would love to bury my tongue in some little (REDACTED). Among other things lol"

Best: “You never know if her ju**ie mom can't come up with rent one month she might ust give her to you lol wishful thinking”

Best: “I'd prefer awake if we can manage it without repercussions”

Worster: “Yeah but beggers cant be choosers&Gotta feel this one out and see what shes like and how she can keep secrets and how easily she can be trained before I worry about the drastic things”

Worster: “But im over 100% sure I can at least get her knocked out alone and naked to at least fo**le a d defile to my hearts content”

On Friday, the State Attorney’s Office notified a sheriff’s detective of Best’s involvement in the Worster case, and the Sheriff’s Office took over that aspect of the investigation as Best lives in an area of Ormond that falls inside county jurisdiction.

Sheriff’s detectives executed a search warrant at Best’s residence on Tuesday, and discovered what appeared to be child po*******hy on his cell phone, in addition to his texts with Worster. Additional charges are expected as the evidence is forensically examined and the investigation continues.

Best was living in a home with two people who have a child who’s about 20 months old. At this time, it’s not believed he was a victim of any abuse; however, authorities will continue to follow up as the investigation continues.

***UPDATE 2/21/19***

Following forensic examinations of evidence in this case, Lafe Best has been charged with 11 counts of possession of sexual performance by a child. He remains in custody at the Volusia County Branch Jail with no bond.