Pablo J. Rosario

Does having a blue collar job make you less attractive?

I got this question during a live and one follower brought this up. He had this limiting belief that women prefer white collar workers over blue collar workers.

I told him that his problem wasn't his job. His problem was his own limiting beliefs and his own judgments about what he does.

The lesson he got was this: Most of the time, it isn't the world judging that you're not good enough. It's you. The world just reflects it back to you.

The key is to stop seeing yourself as "less than" (for whatever reason) and see the value in what you bring.

Client: Pablo - why am I not confident when talking to women?

Me: You don't have enough experience.

There is no hack or secret for confidence when it comes to talking to women.

The answer is simply experience. Like a video game, The more you talk to people and women, the more experience you'll get.

And the more experience you get the more confident you'll become.

You've been flirting all wrong and you don't even know it.

Most guys flirt to get something - her attention, phone number, kiss etc. That's wrong.

What you need to be doing is flirt with the sole intention of having fun and making her feel good. Nothing else.

Doing this makes you relax and actually enjoy the process instead of a do-or-die situation where you have to wonder "does she like me?"

More importantly, and it creates this giver energy around you, which consequently makes you more attractive.

It's not the rejection that most men are afraid of, it's what the rejection means that they want to avoid.

We've all heard "no"before, but getting rejected stings a little bit more because it could potentially mean that something's wrong with us... at least that's a story we tell ourselves.

The thing we have to remember is that the story in our heads is just that… a story. Something that we tell ourselves to answer the question of why it didn't work out.

That story is the thing that's stopping you from approaching you the women you want. Not your looks, not self-confidence but the stories you tell yourself.

Nothing's wrong with you. You just gotta stop telling yourself the story that there is.

Stop guessing, assuming or hoping.

The answer to every single question in your head as to whether or not she likes you will come from you actually going up and talking to her.

The fear of not knowing is worse than the feeling of rejection. So might as well go say hi.

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Let's talk about why being real and kind shouldn't be labeled as simp behavior.

Butt hurt men have weaponized the term to shame and twist authenticity and kindness. The reason why they're mad is because they've confused being kind because it's who you are with doing nice things to get something in return.

Somewhere along the line, they got burned and now see being kind as weak.

I argue that real men do kind things because it's their nature, not for validation, and that true kindness can't be exploited if you don't expect anything in return.

Just my thoughts...