09/17/2026
Of course you are human, you have emotions!
We spend all day telling students to manage THEIR emotions…shouldn’t they acknowledge our feelings too?
Being overly emotional and focusing too much on your own feelings can backfire, here are some reasons why ⬇️
1 - Regulation- if you are speaking to students in a calm manner then that helps signal their brain to calm. If you look dysregulated that can trigger other students.
2 Safety - keeping a measured, neutral manner and tone can help convey safety. Students will feel secure that you are in charge and will take care of them.
For example the teacher that says, “well it’s about time you showed up, I’m so tired of waiting on you!” The student may feel shamed and internalize those comments that they are a bad kid.
Instead, the teacher could try not saying anything in the moment, but make a mental note to speak to the student a another time and come up with a plan to help him get in line with the others on time.
3. Developmental needs - Students can barely manage their own feelings, and are definitely not ready to handle ours.
It’s easy to make it about us, but our job is to support the students. 🧠Their nervous systems and brains are still developing.
So what can we say instead?
For example- If a student is making too much noise, instead of saying “That noise is really annoying, I’m sick of hearing it, can you quiet down?”
Instead try calmly saying to them “That noise you are making makes it hard for me to hear the other students -
please do that somewhere else or listen to some music with headphones.”
This explains to them why their behavior might be an issue - but respecting both your nervous system needs in that moment.
Again, we are all humans, if you do make a comment that you regret, have a discussion with the students.
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