Four years ago this week, I was in deep grief (and feeling so alone about it) as I prepared to drop my daughter off at college.
I noticed every single last: the last dinner at home, the last time she’d sleep in her bed, the last time I’d have to call through the house for her. I kept myself busy with the preparation, but inside I was crumbling.
The anticipation of that drop-off day was 1000x worse than any anxiety I had ever felt about anything. It felt wrong, but also right. It felt desperate, but also expected. I clung to the version of me as her mother and knew I was losing that version of myself.
goop asked me to do a podcast on this topic, and then to write a more personal essay, which was published this week.
Now that I’m on the other side of it, I know that the anticipation of that change was worse than the change itself. I know that I had been solely focused on the loss and didn’t know there would be gain.
But also, that experience isn’t to be minimized. It brings up our roles, the loss of our identities, and our mortality.
If you or someone you love is in it right now, take a listen to the podcast. Comment IDENTITY and I’ll send it in your DMs.
And if you want help learning how to process a hard time and prepare for a better one, comment GUIDE.
I’m here to support. 💕 You aren’t alone in this. Are you in it too?
Abbie Schiller Coaching
A goal coach and course creator to help design (and coach you to achieve) the exact life you want.
08/13/2026
Are you a high achiever who isn’t feeling great about the life you’ve built? Unsure about how to feel better or what’s next?
It’s normal to stop and re-decide what’s working and what’s not. It would be weird to keep going along a path and NOT question it from time to time.
I’m here to support.
PS : If you’re in a moment of wanting change - to feel better or function better - comment CHANGE and I’ll send you my free training, Change One Thing. Some of my best coaching tools to help you actually make it happen. 🤍
08/11/2026
Some days it’s messy. Some days it’s magical. Most days it’s a little of both.
Working with my ADHD brain, instead of fighting against it, has made me a better coach, a better leader, and a happier human.
What gifts are you grateful for with ADHD? 👇
08/07/2026
Good reminder that two truths can exist. It was hard AND I am fortunate to travel. How grateful I am to create memories for myself and my family AND navigating heat and crowds was exhausting. That the world is filled with good people, and beautiful rituals and architecture, and adventurous food - sometimes that experience didn’t match what I’d expected.
Gorgeous culture, beautiful nature, the privilege of it all. All true. It was also overwhelming, exhausting, and hot in a way I don’t have words for. There can be nuance in almost everything. I can be deeply grateful for this trip AND have found parts of it really hard.
If your last trip left you needing a vacation from your vacation, you’re not doing it wrong. You’re just having a human adventure. Welcome to the club.
Have you ever experienced two truths too?
08/06/2026
Clarity comes from asking - and answering - better questions. When we ask good questions, our brains go to work finding answers.
We stop believing the first thing we think. We start to think more critically. We thereby start to live more intentionally.
We can solve our own challenges - but we need some tools - and some smart thoughts.
If you’re in a moment of wanting change - to feel better, to function better, to start or drop a habit, to find some peace -comment CHANGE and I’ll send you my free training, Change One Thing. Some of my best coaching tools to help you actually make it happen. 🤍
Save this for when you need it.
08/06/2026
Clarity comes from asking - and answering - better questions. When we ask good questions, our brains go to work finding answers.
We stop believing the first thing we think. We start to think more critically. We thereby start to live more intentionally.
We can solve our own challenges - but we need some tools - and some smart thoughts.
If you’re in a moment of wanting change - to feel better, to function better, to start or drop a habit, to find some peace -comment CHANGE and I’ll send you my free training, Change One Thing. Some of my best coaching tools to help you actually make it happen. 🤍
Save this for when you need it.
Turns out the way to a perimenopausal woman’s heart isn’t diamonds. It’s a stocked pharmacy.
Right now, 44% of women on hormone replacement therapy can’t fill their estrogen patch prescription - the exact medication keeping them functioning. And that keeps their families and workplaces functioning.🚨
Why: prescriptions for women 45-54 have surged over the past few years after the FDA lifted its 20-year-old black-box warning on HRT. Demand tripled. Manufacturing didn’t. And press is only now just taking notice. We’re still waiting for our representatives to jump on this. It’s outrageous.
If your pharmacy has told you “not in stock” more than once this year - you’re not alone.
Drop a 🙋 in the comments if you’ve had to call more than 3 pharmacies to find yours. This month (once again) my husband was the hero who tracked them down.
07/30/2026
What you’re currently thinking might be equally true to any of these thoughts - and I promise any of these will create a better result than not thinking them.
If you’re in a moment of wanting change - to feel better, to find ways to function better, to drop or start a habit, to fine peace - comment CHANGE and I’ll send you my free video called Change One Thing offering some of my best coaching tools to help you meaningfully make that change. 🤍
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