Building Intimacy with Julie Wall

07/26/2026

THIS! This is why you hire me as your marriage coach. 🤣

07/26/2026

I truly believe one of the secrets to a strong relationship is continuing to do things for each other, not because we have to, but because we know it matters to the person we love.

Love isn’t always flowers and romantic dinners. Sometimes it looks like taking care of something your spouse is passionate about, making their life a little easier, or helping keep them safe. Sometimes, it even looks like cleaning horse p**p out of a trailer. 😂🐴💩

My wonderful hubby knows that my horses aren’t just a hobby, they’re a huge part of who I am. He goes out of his way to keep me, my horses, and our trailer safe. Even if it means working on it after dark and handling the less glamorous jobs.

Strong relationships are built when both people keep looking for ways to show up for each other. You don’t have to share every passion your partner has but loving them means caring about what matters to them.

Those everyday acts of love may not look romantic from the outside, but they’re often the very things that keep a marriage strong. ❤️

07/26/2026

07/11/2026

🧈 Butter Wars: A Love Story 🧈

Larry: smooth, flat, even butter, like he’s prepping it for a Food Network close-up.

Me: chaotic gouges that look like I fought a raccoon for it at 2am.

But somehow, it works.

Because relationships aren’t about being the same. They’re about balancing each other out.

He brings the calm, I bring the flavor.
He levels, I layer.

He makes it look nice… I make it interesting. 😏

Whether it’s butter or life, our differences in relationships don’t have to divide us, they can spread the love instead. 💛

06/29/2026

06/21/2026

In case you were wondering how emotional dumpster fires are made...

Step 1: Stop communicating.

Step 2: Keep score.

Step 3: Assume your partner is a mind reader.

Step 4: Say "I'm fine" 847 times.

The good news? A little effort, intentional connection, and some flirting can turn even two emotional dumpster fires back into...whatever this is. 🗑️❤️🗑️😂

Because intimacy isn't about being perfect. It's about choosing each other over and over again...

Now, go grab your partner and get a little trashy!

06/14/2026

01/29/2026

Sarcasm can be funny…Until it isn’t.

For my birthday, my husband surprised me with something thoughtful. A gift I'd typically love, just not in the season I’m in right now.

What did he book?
An escape room. 🧩

I’ve been solving complex puzzles at work all day, every day, while also navigating family stuff and real life. So I joked...

“My one day off from figuring things out and I’m locked in a room solving a puzzle…This is how people end up in divorce court."

I laughed.
He didn’t.

And here’s the truth I had to sit with...

Even though I meant it as a joke, it landed like I overlooked his effort. He never said anything but I could tell so I apologized.

And, as I suspected, to him, it sounded ungrateful. And he was right. It did.

🛡 Sarcasm can be a shield.
💥A release valve.
🫥 A coping mechanism when we’re tired or overwhelmed.

But in relationships, it can quietly invalidate effort, intention, and care. Even when love is present on both sides.

This wasn’t about an escape room.
It was about impact vs. intent.

I didn’t overlook his effort in my heart, but my words suggested otherwise. And that matters.

So here’s your reminder (and mine):
😂 Humor is great.
😉 Playfulness is healthy.
💗 But appreciation should never get lost in the punchline.

Sometimes the most loving thing we can simply say is, "Thank you."

So, thank you Hubby. I can't wait to solve a puzzle with you on Sunday. 💗

01/25/2026

We all do it.
We all have bodies.
We all experience desire, curiosity, pleasure, and connection.

So why is there so much shame around it. Especially in the bedroom?

Most of us weren’t taught how to talk about intimacy in a healthy, honest way. We were taught silence. Jokes. Warnings. Fear. Or the idea that something is only “okay” if it looks a certain way, happens in a certain order, or stays completely privae. Even from ourselves.
Shame thrives where education is missing.
It shows up as:
- Feeling “weird” for wanting what you want
- Not knowing how to ask for what feels good
- Believing your needs are too much or not normal
- Disconnecting from your body instead of listening to it

Intimacy isn’t something to be embarrassed about. It’s a human experience. And when we stop pretending we’re the only ones with questions, insecurities, or curiosity, shame starts to lose its grip.

- You’re not broken.
- You’re not alone.
- And you’re not wrong for wanting to understand yourself better.

Healthy intimacy starts with honest conversations. First with yourself, and then with others who feel safe.

If this brought something up for you, I’d love to hear it. Comment, DM me, or simply sit with the question: What would change if shame wasn’t driving the conversation?

You don’t have to figure it out alone. 💗