WJC QUILTBAG

We are excited to present to you the 2019-2020 Leadership Cabinet:
President: Alex Rosell, '20
Vice President: Spencer Ruwe, '20
Secretary: Savanah Malam, '22
Treasurer: Haley Weber, '22

We are grateful to Cara Ellman ('19, former Secretary) and Jonathan Daniel ('19, former Treasurer) for their work and wish them the best as they embark on their post-Jewell lives!

Meeting delayed to 8:10! But still happening! PLC 205! 💜

Hey qu**rs and allies! Are you ready for Peace Week?

This is QUILTBAG's annual week at Jewell to celebrate progress, peace, liberation, and intersectional collaboration. Our full schedule is written below. And here is a sign-up sheet if you'd like to help us with running our tables in the Union and doing Tie-Dye on the Quad: https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1eZ7PHSfUA4JbeSB-3M7ouYZRGik8DhaYd4YiMt80FUU/edit?usp=sharing. The cabinet thanks you for your support! 💜🌈

MONDAY
10:00am-1:00pm: Table in Union Atrium (free candy, stickers, and DIY buttons!)
9:00am-3:00pm: Free Drop-In STI Testing in Peters Theater (Brown Hall)

TUESDAY
7:30pm-9:00pm: “Gender as Performance” Mini-Lecture and “Nanette” Showing, with Chris McCoy, Jeff Buscher, and Christian Student Ministries, in Union 210-Multicultural Room (trigger/content warning--s*xual assault, r*pe, mental illness, and hate crime)

WEDNESDAY
10:00am-1:00pm: Table in Union Atrium (free candy, stickers, and DIY buttons!)
10:15am-11:15am: Jewell Time Sock Tie-Dye on the Quad (white socks provided, or bring your own clothing/fabric of choice!)

THURSDAY
5:30-6:30: Q***r Safe-Space Hangout and Open Discussion in Union 210-Multicultural Room (free candy, snacks, stickers, and DIY buttons!).

FRIDAY
Q***rs' Day Off: no classes, so no events! Enjoy your break!

Thanks to everyone who came to last night's meeting! Led by our treasurer, Jonathan Daniel, we discussed the ethical non-monogamy umbrella and the different practices and identities that can fall under it, including polyamory, open relationships, friends with benefits, kink families, and relationship anarchy.

We watched this humorous video that showcases polyamorous people answering questions and dispelling some myths about people who practice non-monogamy. We also watched this mini-lecture on polyamory from Sexplanations with Dr. Doe: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0VKGRrOzMDg&list=FL64JeJZ-4BiUT5oLnTx0yVA&index=2.

As we wrote in our previous post, while non-monogamous practices and identities are generally not considered inherently q***r, they are a closely related form of non-normative expression, q***r cultures have often been more accepting of non-monogamous people, and non-monogamous people have often held q***r identities themselves and/or have closely allied with q***r communities through joint liberation and solidarity.

Below we've copied and pasted some powerful words from Nicole Moon ONeal, a kinky and polyamorous person:

Why do I want polyamorous representation?

Because when someone doesn’t want to date me because I’m poly it’s ‘understandable’ but when I don’t want to date someone because they are monogamous it’s ‘ridiculous.’

Because all relationship advice tells you that if you have feelings for someone else while you’re in a relationship you’re a bad person.

Because even feminists try to slt shame me.

Because when I tell people me and my partner have an open relationship they assume it’s because we’re going through a rough patch.

Because people equate ‘multiple partners’ with ‘predator’ and think everything I say is an attempt to get in their pants.

Because I am fed up of love triangles as easy plot devices in my media.

Because the LGBTQA+ movement are so desperate to show ‘allies’ they are ‘just like everyone else’ that they s**t on everyone with a non-monogamous dynamic.

Because when a monogamous couple have s*x with each other every night it’s having an active s*x drive. When I have s*x with a different partner every night I’m a nymphomaniac.

Because people assume polyamory is just about multiple s*x partners instead of multiple *loving & committed* relationships and instead conflate polyamory with swinging when they're totally different lifestyles.

Because people think that monogamy = validity, always.

Because monogamous hetronormativity is so ingrained that I don’t even feel like I can dance with someone without telling them the complete logistics of my love life.

Because people genuinely believe that raising a child communally is damaging to development.

Because when I say ‘I could never be monogamous’ I get dirty looks.

Because too many people have tried to confide in me when they’re cheating because ‘I thought you, of all people, would understand.’

Because I can’t talk about my relationship troubles with my monogamous friends because ‘I always have something to fall back on.’ As if my relationships are meaningless.

Because being Polyamorous isn't an "alternative lifestyle", it is just how I choose to live *My* life, so I can be happy.

Because being Polyamorous does not mean I'm afraid of commitment. I am able to commit to many types of relationships. And love more than one person.

Feel free to add more 'because's

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Hey qu**rs and allies! Join us for our regular meeting this evening, 5:45-6:45 in Union 210 (the Multicultural room).

We'll be learning about and discussing ethical non-monogamy. While non-monogamous practices and identities are generally not considered inherently q***r, they are a closely related form of non-normative expression, q***r cultures have often been more accepting of non-monogamous people, and non-monogamous people have often held q***r identities themselves and/or have closely allied with q***r communities through joint liberation and solidarity.

Anyone is welcome to join us to explore this important topic!

Hey qu**rs and allies! No meeting tonight, since it's Advising Day. Have a fun day off from classes, and stay tuned for info about next week's meeting, and for Peace Week the week after that! 💜