One of the hardest lessons to learn… The truth is undefeated.
In the early years of my marriage, I cheated on my wife… a lot!
I tried to hide it.
I tried to lie around it.
I tried to act normal.
But the man in the mirror always knows.
And that’s the thing about truth…
You can hide it from people.
You can keep the story clean.
You can make the world believe you’re fine.
But you can’t hide from yourself.
Your Spirit knows when you’re out of alignment.
And that moral dissonance will fucc you up.
And this is what I learned through it:
Shame doesn’t disappear because you ignore it.
Guilt doesn’t go away because you bury it.
The truth doesn’t disappear because you avoid it.
It just waits.
And it keeps showing up.
In your relationships.
In your decisions.
In your self-respect.
Until you finally reconcile with what happened and choose to become better from it.
That’s what changed me.
Not pretending I was perfect.
But telling the truth long enough to let it humble me, heal me, and rebuild me.
The truth is truly undefeated.
Nobody has ever beat the truth, they only hid from it.
And the minute I stopped trying to run from it…
Is the minute I found freedom through it.
I love you so much and I hope this helps 😁💫✌🏽
18 years later and I’m still terribly sorry I put you through this. But I’m so grateful you were able to see the man behind the trauma and have the grace to love me through it. It’s a sacrifice I’ll forever try to honor 🥰❤️
RodthePlanter
I love teaching people how to develop a positive mindset and build healthy habits. ���
I just can’t let it go 😂
“You complete me” sounds good…
until you have to prove it every day.
If someone doesn’t feel whole on their own, love starts to feel like a job.
Constantly having to reassure them, stabilize them, and carry emotional weight thats not yours.
And no matter how much you give…
it’ll never be enough. Because love is hard to receive when you don’t love yourself.
At some point, you have to recognize the difference
between loving someone… and being responsible for them.
Don’t lose yourself trying to keep someone else together.
Which one you think is most important? How come?
One small action, taken every day for the next year, can completely change everything.
Not because it’s big…
But because you keep showing up.
I’ve been thinking about that a lot lately.
How different life would feel if we just picked one thing…
and stayed with it.
Not perfectly.
Not intensely.
Just consistently.
Because honestly… that’s the part that’s hard.
Sticking with it when it gets quiet.
When it’s not exciting anymore.
When no one’s watching.
That’s why I’ve been building Be Better University.
Not as some big life changing program…
but as a place for daily practice.
A safe space for you to try, fail, have people pick you up, and encourage you to try again.
A place where growth is broken down into small, daily actions.
Where you’re not doing it alone so consistency actually feels doable.
I’m still building it…
but that’s the vision.
A place for people who don’t just want to think about change—
but actually live it, a little bit, every day.
If that sounds like something you’ve been looking for…
stay tapped in because it’s coming soon! 🌳
When a persons Spirit, Mind, & Body are all aligned toward a certain outcome… I’d say that outcome is highly likely
😁💫✌🏽
Both extremes will break you.
04/12/2025
Imma show y’all how to do 37! 😤
In honor of my birthday I wanted to reflect on and share 10 things I’ve learned about life so far. I hope these wisdoms help you as much as they’ve helped me:
1. The quality of your relationships is equal to the quality of your life (including relationship with self)
2. The story you tell yourself is your reality.
3. Your opinion is never right, it’s just have your preference.
4. Be the most authentic you you can be because people are gonna hate on you either way.
5. Pain is just as important to life as pleasure.
6. Your spirit, mind, & body are the tools you use to create your life. The better your tools, the better life you can build.
7. Happiness is a choice not a circumstance.
8. Everything in life exist on a spectrum not a binary. You’re not honest or not, it’s how honest are you? It’s not if your fit or not, it’s how fit are you? Life is an infinite continuum.
9. Love is defined by sacrifice. It’s an act of service. God so loved the world that he GAVE his only begotten son. That’s how you know if you’re loved or loving. If someone will give of themselves to you and vise versa.
10. This s**t has no meaning beyond the meaning you give it. Choose what meanings you give wisely.
I love you all so much and I’m looking forward to giving you the best of me this year. Thank you for all the love and birthday wishes! It’s gonna be a great year for me I can tell 😁💫✌🏽
04/22/2023
Words to live by.
How I see this mentality play out IRL…
I often try to convince my 13yr old daughter to get to working on her skills so she can profit off of them as soon as possible.
She of course nods her head “unh-huh”and proceeds to NOT do that because…
well she’s 13 and I admittedly didn’t instill good wealth building habits into her before now. 😔 So anyways…
When she asks me to buy her something and I say no 😈…
I always suggest if she starts building her skills she could buy it for herself. 😏
To which she replies this key statement…
“Well it’s not like I would have the money by next week.”
😑… And here in lies the flawed mindset.
Of course I say “yea but if you would’ve started, 6 weeks ago, 6 months ago, a year ago, etc. when we talked about it last time maybe you would already have it.”
….“Unh-huh” 🙄
And around and around the cycle goes until she gets it. 🫠
I had to go around that merry go round for awhile too until I got it so I understand.
You have to have a long term mindset to have the success most of us seek. It often takes years!
(I’ve studied many many successful people and projects and I’ve found the magic number to be somewhere around 7 years on average.)
But just because it won’t happen next week, doesn’t mean it won’t happen!
A man plants a tree today, but won’t eat from its fruits for many seasons. But if he had not planted the seed many seasons ago the man will be hungry today.
Get to work today and start building your wealth. It’ll take some time and if you have that expectation you’ll keep going for as long as it takes.
Because if you never start you will certainly never finish.
02/19/2023
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(Also a big part of the work I do is helping people change their destructive habits to empowering ones. I used to do everything on this list every day like it was normal too. I was able to find a way forward and developed a method others can follow to do the same. If you’re interested in becoming the best version of yourself and seeing what results you can from your full potential… I’d love to talk to you about how you can do that. Just shoot me a DM or check out the link in my bio. Love you so much and talk to you soon 😁💫✌🏽)
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