Michelle K., Kihei, HI (2026)

12/13/2022

Is your husband doing things that make you fantasize about NOT being married to him?

I help you solve problems in your marriage—so you don’t want to go husband shopping on Black Friday. Or any other day of the year.

DM me and let’s talk.

03/30/2022

My husband and I used to go on a bike ride together every morning.
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It was fun, but something annoying kept happening.
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When we turned around and headed for home, my husband was like a horse headed for the barn.
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He would pedal as fast as he could to make it through the stoplight before it turned red.
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He would make it through in the nick of time and leave me in the dust, sitting at the red light.
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I would watch his back getting smaller and smaller in the distance.
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And I would fume.
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Why would he “leave me for dead” on the street?
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Was he a jerk? Or was I being dramatic?
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Yes.
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He was a jerk AND I was being dramatic.
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I was reacting that way because I thought I couldn’t change it.
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The truth is that sometimes husbands are jerks.
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The truth ALSO is that husbands are heroes.
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In fact, EVERY human is a hero.
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But sometimes husbands have their hero switch in the “off” position.
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Wives who have the skill of “flipping the switch” are wives who have heroic husbands.
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At the time, I was a woman who didn’t have this skill.
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But now I know better.
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The skill of inviting your husband to be heroic is a skill that every woman needs.
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There is a specific way to do it that gets him OUT of being a jerk and INTO being a hero.
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When you can do this, you are a powerful woman.
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If you don’t have this skill, but you want it, dm me and let’s talk.

10/02/2021

I was interviewed by the lovely for her Thy Neighbor podcast. We had a fun conversation about all things marriage. We talked about things like how to get the marriage you’ve always wanted—without leaving the one you have! We talked about how to know if it’s him or you that needs to change, and how to to do it without gaslighting yourself or repelling your spouse. Needless to say we covered A LOT of ground. If you are married, know someone who is married, have been married, plan on getting married, or are the product of married humans, you should listen. You’ll hear some things you’ve never heard before. And you just might change your mind about everything you THOUGHT you knew about how an enviable marriage was supposed to work. Click the link in my bio to look up this episode on Thy Neighbor podcast. See you there!

02/21/2021

Barefoot cruising just landed on my list of favorite therapies.

02/21/2021

I highly recommend therapy in the form of barefoot dinner cruises.

02/06/2021

I’m stepping into a new...I guess you could call it “phase”?...of growth. I took a break from social to wrap my head and heart around it and really let it sink in. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I’m not yet ready to reveal the details but I just wanted to say I’m SO EXCITED about it!! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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It’s like stepping into a sunlit room out of a curtained one.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Have any of you ever felt this way?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Feels so good to grow without something traumatic giving me growing pains, lol.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Here’s what I think about growth in a math equation: pursuing growth > it pursuing me 😂⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I just wanted to let you know that yes, I’m still alive, and yes, I’m still coaching (love my clients so much!! 🙌🏼🙌🏼) and yes, I’m still growing and stretching and learning.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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And I can’t wait to share more ✨⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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As always, dm me if you want to talk one on one about you growing too 🌱

12/02/2020

Meet my parents. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Aren’t they beautiful?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I come from salt of the earth people.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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They are steady and honorable and generous and kind.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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They take care of the lost and lonely.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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They don’t do it because think they should. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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They do it because of who they ARE.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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And they do it happily. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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They are beautiful inside and out.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I’m so grateful to have parents who are examples of Christlike love.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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11/25/2020

Obsessed.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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With this girl.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Overwhelmed with gratitude that Heavenly Father trusted me with her soul.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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28 years ago today, she exited my body and entered my heart.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I will NEVER NOT be obsessed with loving her fiercely.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Today I for motherhood, for daughters, and for birthdays.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Happy birthday to the most interesting, stunning, wickedly witty girl I’ve ever given birth to. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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11/22/2020

I’m watching this app being flooded with pictures of families and spouses and grand babies with the hashtag and it’s a veritable tsunami of goodness. I love it. I’m here for it. Give me ALL the mushy posts about your husbands and your kiddos and your babies 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼 There’s not much I am more grateful for than family and I will be plaguing you with pics of my own precious offspring over the next few days...okay lets be real—decades 😬.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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But what I want to give thanks for today is a little different. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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2 years ago I got divorced. Very unexpectedly on my part. It was one of the most painful experiences of my life. There were days when I wanted to die. Thank goodness for those aforementioned offspring that gave me a reason to live.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Now that I’ve made it through that dark tunnel and I’m on the other side, do you know what I’m most grateful for?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Truth.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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It’s what I prayed for. Plead for. On my knees, day after day after day, sobbing, gutted, and confused.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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When I was shown the truth, very often it was ugly. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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But I’m so grateful that I got what I prayed for.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Truth stripped away the shiny veneer of the marriage I had thought (or maybe wished) that I had.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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What it left me with was what was REAL.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Raw and exposed and broken...but real.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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There is so much wisdom in the words in John 3:31 “...and ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.” ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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That’s exactly what it did for me.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Today I for TRUTH.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Because now I am free.

11/12/2020

WHAT DO I WANT??

Divorce made me ask the question.

Self preservation made me answer.

Now I’m asking you...

What do you want?

No, really...what do YOU want for YOU?

If you’ve ever felt stuck answering this question, you’re not alone.

I have a theory that we, as women, stop asking ourselves what we want around age 12ish, when we outsource our wants to the vote of the “popular” girls in middle school.

Then we look to our group of friends (or boyfriends) in high school for the answer.

We roll on into college, marriage, work...perpetually looking outwards for approval and confirmation of what we want, rather than seeking the answer inside.

When was the last time you asked yourself what you wanted?

And waited for the answer, believing that your heart/gut/intuition/your own brain would tell you.

If it’s been a while...if you’ve forgotten how to tap into your brilliance, I can teach you how to get in touch with that girl again.

The one who KNOWS things ✨

Dm me.

I got you.

11/10/2020

Your mind, just like muscle, needs to be stressed in order to grow.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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The next time you bump up against a challenge, ask yourself, “How is this FOR me?”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Your answer just might surprise you.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Turns out, this simple shift in the way you think can make doing hard things into a weirdly pleasurable experience.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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11/04/2020

Today is a big day. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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A day filled with fear for some. Hope for others. Uncertainty for everyone.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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No matter what your political leanings, and no matter the outcome of the election, there is one thing you are in control of...⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Your thoughts.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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From Viktor Frankl—“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way”.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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By governing your thoughts, you govern your emotions. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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You get to decide how you feel.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Contrary to popular belief, feelings don’t just “happen” to us.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Feelings come from thoughts. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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We choose our feelings, via our thoughts.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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And ironically, you may decide to go ahead and feel crummy. You may WANT to feel disappointment if things don’t go your way. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Because to be human is to feel the whole spectrum of human emotion.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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That is what it feels like to feel ALIVE.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Embrace it all.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Tomorrow is a new day.

Michelle K.

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