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Chapter 11
By Dr. Tom Barnette
“People had more than they needed. We had no idea what was precious and what wasn't. We threw away things people kill each other for now” Book of ELI
Escaping a Toxic Love Relationship
There are 3 people in a toxic love relationship triangle the man the woman and the toxic behavior! “So, Cain was very angry, and his countenance fell. The Lord said to Cain, “Why are you angry, and why has your countenance fallen? If you do well, will you not be accepted? And if you do not do well, sin is lurking at the door; its desire is for you, but you must master it.” Genesis 4:5
There were 3 people in that relationship Cain, Able and Sin or (toxic behavior) Sin is alive and in 21st century only it camouflages and the agentive describing sin have changed.
Separating yourself from any toxic relationship is unbelievably hard and may seem impossible. The Idea of permanently ending the intoxication of the abnormal behavior the only way to end a toxic relationship is to 100% walk away!
Consider how God deals with the first toxic person on earth! Cain said to the Lord, “My punishment is greater than I can bear! Today you have driven me away from the soil, and I shall be hidden from your face; I shall be a fugitive and a wanderer on the earth; Then Cain went away from the presence of the Lord, and settled in the land of Nod, east of Eden.

God drive Cain out from the normal people and never let him back. All the way-out of the Cain wined and played the guilt card! Cain’s Toxic offspring would ultimately lead to the first destruction of the earth and the arch of Noah!
Reset the clock of your life leave the toxic predator and heal!

“Excellence is never an accident. It is always the result of high intention, sincere effort, and intelligent ex*****on; it represents the wise choice of many alternatives - choice, not chance, determines your destiny.” "It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.” Aristotle
“God has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the hearts of men; yet they cannot fathom what God has done from beginning to end” Ecclesiastes 3:11.

Chapter 5 CCRT
Christ Centered Reality Therapy for the 21st Century
By Dr. Tom Barnette
Socially Acceptable Abnormal Reality
Normalized reality (NR)
Abnormal reality (ABR)
Socially Acceptable Abnormal Reality (SAAR)
Toxic Reality (TR)
"True lordship follows the true God and is living, intelligent, and powerful aside from the other perfections. He is supreme, or supremely perfect. He is eternal and infinite, omnipotent and omniscient; that is, He endures from eternity to eternity, and He is present from infinity to infinity. He rules all things; He knows all things that happen or can happen." Sir Isaac Newton

Absolute fact: There are 3 parts forming all human life and all life events.
1st Normalized Reality. Normalized reality in CCRT conforms to God’s laws, will, eternal purpose, justice, morality and ethics. Ultimately Absolutely No normal reality exists outside of God’s master plan. God's normal is normal. God is the ultimate measurement of normal emotions, family, relationships, work, and all the creations of His hand. Outside of God Abnormal exist and flourishes. Man’s reality to be normal must exclusively be based on God the Father’s will. Fallen man has been corrupted from birth thus abnormal. God’s grace plan is about restoring each individual to normal. In original creation all humans were perfect in conformity to God and His will. Upon sin, or abnormality, entered the world; all normality and abnormality is based on each individual’s choices.
2nd Abnormal Reality. Reality Key: If there is normal reality, then there is an abnormal reality. Algebra teaches what you do to one side of the equation, you must balance on the other side of the equation. Normal is real and based on God's absolutes.
Abnormal reality is any and all forces opposed to God’s laws, eternal purpose, justice, morality and ethics. In the Christian vernacular, abnormal reality is understood as sin.
The abnormal, toxic, unhealthy individual or relationship goes way beyond being complex and cannot nor will ever become healthy. Do not confuse managed and maintained abnormality with a cure. The alcoholic who only gets drunk on weekends is still a drunk. Dot the math. A man drinks to the point of intoxication Friday and Saturday nights only. There are 52 weeks per year. This equals 104 days a year or 3.5 months each year. A third of the year is devoted to being drunk. Thinking abnormal and toxic relationships are normal is the same as calling sewer water yummy to drink.

He won't
He won't
He won't fail!

Lyrics from “Firm Foundation (He Won’t)” by Maverick City Music